Vent: car trouble and MB upset

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- I would never put my Boss in this position, you are wayyyyyy out of line!!! I just got rear ended and in was an uninsured motorist so my insurance didn't authorise a rental right away. So I put on my thinking cap and rented a car immediately. You are in the wrong here!

GREAT!!!! That is GREAT for you that you were capable of doing that!!! AWESOME!

However there is nothing to be "wrong" about I wanted to vent for a minute. I also mentioned I happened to just pay my rent and car note in a previous post so no unfortunately I don't have the upfront cash for a rental for more than a couple of days but and right now I wouldn't know how long I would need one.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like your employer tried to be supportive and helpful for a while, and it sounds like you are being extremely judgmental of her.

You end up looking like the smaller person OP. It is no one's fault if you've gotten a lemon. It is not your employer's fault if your uber app is freezing or the dealer is being difficult.

Not everyone is comfortable letting someone not covered on their insurance policy drive their vehicle (to your point about the husband's car sitting unused.)

Your opinions about what your employer should or should not be doing are irrelevant.

If you had your personal life managed well, so that it wasn't impacting your job, you wouldn't be needing to vent and your employer wouldn't be feeling however she's feeling - which almost certainly isn't positive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some jobs actually ask if you have reliable transportation as part of their hiring practice.

It can be a condition for you being hired.

I am a Nanny & drive an old car that has broken down on me umpteen times.

While my NF has been forgiving to a degree, if I left them high + dry w/out childcare, I wouldn't expect them to keep me on much longer.

I'm not sure what this has to do with my issue. I have not left them high and dry with no childcare, I have a way to work and home. My car is 2 years old and the issue that the dealer found was not common for its age. The issue is mb being miffed that I can't drive the kids around once I get to work. When I started the only driving I did was for school which is on spring break. Eventually my charges were assigned to occupational therapy, behavioral therapy and the youngest speech therapy. These are the appointments that I am willing to use one of their cars to get the kids to and from but she won't even acknowledge that I'm suggesting this. I even said it in a text in case she didn't understand what I said and she just didn't respond to that text. She doesn't have a job and no appointments this week because it's a holiday.[b]

Yeah I guess MB is 'miffed' you can't drive the kids around, you since it's your JOB.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I guess MB is 'miffed' you can't drive the kids around, you since it's your JOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- I would never put my Boss in this position, you are wayyyyyy out of line!!! I just got rear ended and in was an uninsured motorist so my insurance didn't authorise a rental right away. So I put on my thinking cap and rented a car immediately. You are in the wrong here!

GREAT!!!! That is GREAT for you that you were capable of doing that!!! AWESOME!

However there is nothing to be "wrong" about I wanted to vent for a minute. I also mentioned I happened to just pay my rent and car note in a previous post so no unfortunately I don't have the upfront cash for a rental for more than a couple of days but and right now I wouldn't know how long I would need one.

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Tell me again why it's your Boss' fault you are irresponsible and don't have an emergency fund? You are in the wrong here and it's not shocking you can't see it. Millennial, right?

[Anonymous]

Your boss sounds like a brat.

[Anonymous]

OP, I usually reserve judgment on this forum & try my very very best not to be snarky at all but in all honesty...You sure are making it tough by reading all of your responses to other people's responses.

To be fair, you sound very immature plus a tiny bit "thick" in the head.....

[Anonymous]

Your boss is annoying. My car broke down last summer. I spent more than a month unerring back and forth, and it sucked. I don't understand you not being able to drive one of their cars while you're on the clock. Next time find a family with a nanny car. Adding you to the insurance for a few days isn't that hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your boss is annoying. My car broke down last summer. I spent more than a month unerring back and forth, and it sucked. I don't understand you not being able to drive one of their cars while you're on the clock. Next time find a family with a nanny car. Adding you to the insurance for a few days isn't that hard.

Thank you. This board is full of sorry mothers that don't raise their own kids and think that every post is a reflection of their own lives. My mb actually mentioned last night that db asked her himself why she hadn't been letting me drive one of their cars during this time and he sent me a text from out of town wishing me luck with my car and saying he appreciates me stepping up when he travels a lot. So yesterday afternoon she did let me use his car to take the kids out and everything was fine.

I was able to get a car from the dealer last night after work and feel much more relieved.

I think a lot of judgement in this thread is laughable. I go above and beyond friends this family and care more about being active in their therapy than they do when they are the ones that have the most issues with kids and complain about their behavior or lack of development. Whenever I take them to appointments and the therapist asks if I can come back and be a part of it so we know what to implement at home I go and when my youngest is hesitant I volunteer because he isn't comfortable yet.

When mb has driven us this week ( because she doesn't have a job or meetings) she has been saying "no, he will be fine" and sits in the waiting room on her iPad. She has only complained because she just really doesn't want to go or be involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your boss is annoying. My car broke down last summer. I spent more than a month unerring back and forth, and it sucked. I don't understand you not being able to drive one of their cars while you're on the clock. Next time find a family with a nanny car. Adding you to the insurance for a few days isn't that hard.

Thank you. This board is full of sorry mothers that don't raise their own kids and think that every post is a reflection of their own lives. My mb actually mentioned last night that db asked her himself why she hadn't been letting me drive one of their cars during this time and he sent me a text from out of town wishing me luck with my car and saying he appreciates me stepping up when he travels a lot. So yesterday afternoon she did let me use his car to take the kids out and everything was fine.

I was able to get a car from the dealer last night after work and feel much more relieved.

I think a lot of judgement in this thread is laughable. I go above and beyond friends this family and care more about being active in their therapy than they do when they are the ones that have the most issues with kids and complain about their behavior or lack of development. Whenever I take them to appointments and the therapist asks if I can come back and be a part of it so we know what to implement at home I go and when my youngest is hesitant I volunteer because he isn't comfortable yet.

When mb has driven us this week ( because she doesn't have a job or meetings) she has been saying "no, he will be fine" and sits in the waiting room on her iPad. She has only complained because she just really doesn't want to go or be involved.

QUIT THIS JOB. I wish I knew who you are, because I would tell your MB to spend her money on someone kinder.

[Anonymous]

Glad everything worked out Op. Ignore the pps they're projecting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last week on Thursday my car stopped running so I had it towed to dealer and MB volunteered to pick me up. She also volunteered to take me home and the same the next day. I told her that if it was an issue I could uber or use my PTO until the dealer gave me a loaner car. The dealer calls and says they wont have any back for a week and that they would call me as soon as they diagnose my vehicle. Mb was thinking out loud and suggested using DB's points for me to get a rental. then later she said it would probably be more affordable for me to uber. I agreed. I told her that she and db could have a free date night of sitting to show my appreciation for giving me rides home and taking me to the grocery to stock up for the weekend.

I was so thankful that coincidentally school is out this week and we only had therapy appts., the family will be OOT Wednesday so I was off that day and we can walk to the park for our outings on other days. Granted none of our usual outings but we would grin and bear it. Also Mb doesnt work but is looking, has no interviews scheduled until after spring break with prospects due to the holiday.


Sunday she texted to see if I wanted her to pick me up I told her no thank you Id get there. One of our therapies is on my side of town so she said afterwards she would take me home vs me riding all the way back to their home and ubering back to that side of town because therapy was over 1 hour before my finish time. Again I was grateful. I thought it was also good that she would be with us at therapy since she's never been and the therapists have been pushing for her or DB to participate for the last year with oldest but they haven't wanted to.

Low and behold my uber app was freezing up and kept reloading and rides weren't being requested. I texted her early as a heads up incase I was a few minutes behind once the issue was resolved. She calls me to get update while I am speaking with them and she began saying things like "Im trying to be patient with you" "Willing to be flexible to keep you with us" "I am not able to network if I have to drive you guys to therapy appointments" " You need to call the car dealer and get an update immediately" "You may need to go rent a car" etc. You know rocket science type stuff that never occurred to me the last couple of days I didnt realize calling a dealership would make your car automatically better even if they haven't even gotten to it yet for a diagnosis. Who knew? Not to mention she was standing right there with me at the counter when they were telling me how long it could take.

After I got my uber issue fixed I called her and told her I could meet them at therapy or the house. This happens to be a therapy for the youngest which she also has never been to. Later my oldest has swim therapy a distance away that she's never been to, she was complaining about not knowing where to take him etc. I said I dont mind using her or DBs car (THE MAN IS OUT OF TOWN AND THE CAR IS JUST SITTING IN THE YARD) to take the kids around if she needs to be home. she completely ignored that and told me to just meet them at the house after therapy. I have used other mbs cars or nanny cars in the past so didnt think this was irrational. They dont drive maseratis

So now on top of being super stressed over putting them out( I love them very much and feel so embarrassed for being an inconvenience), my car being out of commission I am super annoyed that she is being this way. I know Im her employee and they hired me to do a job. I completely get that. My car is practically new so mechanical issues was not foreseen at all. Neither was spending $300 on a rental that I would have to pay upfront yet I just paid my car note and rent so I dont have extra $$$ to rent a car for an entire week. Not to mention Im stressed about the repairs not being covered by my warranty and may have to pay for the repairs just to get my car back.

Am I insane for being rubbed the wrong way by her complaints about having to be at her kid's therapies while she has nothing scheduled this week and I am MORE than willing to drive their cars!? I know some are strange about that and I totally understand but its just sitting in the yard and she wants ME to be the one to take them places. So let me use your car then in stead of threatening me. Note Ive NEVER called in in the year and half that Ive worked for them only sent home early once because of a virus I got from them.

Unless you are on their insurance, you have no business driving their car.

It's not up to them to find a way for you to get to work. Is having an operational vehicle able to seat their children (with car seats) in your contract? If so, then you should have saved enough money to be able to rent a car in the event that something happened to your car.

Whether MB or DB go to therapy is irrelevant to whether you have a vehicle. My MB doesn't go to OT, DB takes one child, I take the other. Since I take one child, that child is given OT homework, but the other child is never given OT homework.

Whether you've called in sick is irrelevant.

At this point, you can't get to work on time, you can't do what needs to be done with the children. Either you need to find a way to rent a car (which can fit the kids) or you need to ask to take spring break off (paid if you have PTO remaining, unpaid if not).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's your job to have reliable transportation to and from work. Period. Not to rely on your employer to provide you with a car. It's on you to push the dealer to find you a loaner car - ask them to call other dealerships, or to reimburse you the cost of a rental if they can't provide the loaner, whatever.

It's not your place to judge what someone does while they hire you to nanny or babysit. EVER.

Whether or not the mother goes to therapy for her children is irrelevant. If it's your job to get them there and back, then that's your job. You're just mentioning this because you're mad at her.

I guess you missed the title that clearly states this is a VENT thread. I have the means to get to and from work and was not hired to attend therapies with them it's something that happened not long after I started and she would always say how she hates working so much because she can't participate.
I called other dealers and they aren't affiliated so they don't give loaners for other facilities. They said it would be the end of the week before they had any back.

It most certainly is my place to have an opinion on her not wanting to go the therapy sessions considering that is the only thing that has her miffed because she doesn't want to. Other than that I'm able to get myself to work and back home. I think it would be worse if I decided to use my pto and completely left them high and dry for a week.

So, you have it in your contract that you are not responsible for any therapies, MB and DB are responsible for transporting, attending and doing the homework? Okay, then why have you been transporting to therapy?

Personally, I know that things happen. Kids get signed up for camp, swim class, OT. My job is to transport to any required activity (including OT), participate as required (including OT), and help the child do any practice or homework (including OT).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your boss is annoying. My car broke down last summer. I spent more than a month unerring back and forth, and it sucked. I don't understand you not being able to drive one of their cars while you're on the clock. Next time find a family with a nanny car. Adding you to the insurance for a few days isn't that hard.

Thank you. This board is full of sorry mothers that don't raise their own kids and think that every post is a reflection of their own lives.

Nope, I'm a nanny.

My mb actually mentioned last night that db asked her himself why she hadn't been letting me drive one of their cars during this time and he sent me a text from out of town wishing me luck with my car and saying he appreciates me stepping up when he travels a lot. So yesterday afternoon she did let me use his car to take the kids out and everything was fine.

His car, his choice.

I was able to get a car from the dealer last night after work and feel much more relieved.

I think a lot of judgement in this thread is laughable. I go above and beyond friends this family and care more about being active in their therapy than they do when they are the ones that have the most issues with kids and complain about their behavior or lack of development. Whenever I take them to appointments and the therapist asks if I can come back and be a part of it so we know what to implement at home I go and when my youngest is hesitant I volunteer because he isn't comfortable yet.

Not your business. You are paid to take the children, it's not up to you to demand that anything be implemented at home or to cast judgement on the parents.

When mb has driven us this week ( because she doesn't have a job or meetings) she has been saying "no, he will be fine" and sits in the waiting room on her iPad. She has only complained because she just really doesn't want to go or be involved.

If she doesn't want to be involved, well, she's trying to find a job. Right now, that's not a bad priority to have. Did she stop you from going in, and if so, did you explain that you always go in?

[Anonymous]

Do all mb's expect the nanny car to never ever have problems? If I have a problem with MY car, it is YOUR job to find transportation/back up plan for YOUR kids. On top of that with an empty car sitting unused in the garage?? She is petty and difficult.