Fired nanny in the heat of the moment..

[Anonymous]

I am a stickler for promptness. I have also had This has absolutely happened to me, actually more than once. I've had my phone not charge because it came loose at the wall connection. I've forgotten to turn my alarm back on after a holiday. I'm lucky that I am on the MB side of things and have the career collateral built up to simply be able to apologize for being late and we all move on.

I would apologize to the nanny, but I wouldn't expect her to come back. I would definitely tell her you will base her reference on all the days leading up to that day because you know that you were unfair.

[Anonymous]

Lateless is inexcusable in my eyes. Op you have every right to fire over anything you want. I was told early on by my mother if you are ever late for anything never bother coming home or speaking to me or anyone else ever again. Maybe she will make better choices next time.

If you want her back ? Well that's on you .

[Anonymous]

Sorry your mother doesn't love you pp

[Anonymous]

Also you could have easily given your child some warm chocolate milk, put an episode of Dora on and taken call in peace in the living room while watching her. Can't be that hard to do.

[Anonymous]

Troll OP hasn't come back......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Send her flowers with a note apologizing.

Leave her alone. The relationship will never be the same because you acted like a horse's ass. Pregnancy and hormones are not an excuse for how you reacted. She is a human being and should have been treated with respect. She might come back but you can bet your life she will be Looking and will give you two weeks notice.

Everybody has overslept sometime. Also, sometimes a phone doesn't charge. Crap happens and you showed your true colors. You are a total jerk. FWIW, I am not a nanny.

[Anonymous]

To err is human.. so if you truly want her back otherwise, I would do a sincere apology. If she doesn't take it well she has shown her true colors too

[Anonymous]

You were pissed to miss one call, now you've missed more scrambling for child care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lateless is inexcusable in my eyes. Op you have every right to fire over anything you want. I was told early on by my mother if you are ever late for anything never bother coming home or speaking to me or anyone else ever again. Maybe she will make better choices next time.

If you want her back ? Well that's on you .

You're mom sounds cruel and high-maintenance. You sound like you have PTSD. Life happens.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Haven't heard from nanny- I've called, texted and emailed. I think she's long gone and I don't blame her. I feel bad about how I acted, and my husband was pretty pissed at me. We have agreed to mail nanny 3 weeks severance + a small gift and I let her know in an apology email that I'd be more than willing to provide her an excellent reference and pass on any job openings I hear about to her.

DD will be with MIL until we figure something out. Thanks for all of your replies, even though some were tough to read. I agree that I acted irrationally and I blew it with a great nanny. I'm not going to beg, guilt, or force her to come back to me. I wouldn't want to either if I were her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Haven't heard from nanny- I've called, texted and emailed. I think she's long gone and I don't blame her. I feel bad about how I acted, and my husband was pretty pissed at me. We have agreed to mail nanny 3 weeks severance + a small gift and I let her know in an apology email that I'd be more than willing to provide her an excellent reference and pass on any job openings I hear about to her.

DD will be with MIL until we figure something out. Thanks for all of your replies, even though some were tough to read. I agree that I acted irrationally and I blew it with a great nanny. I'm not going to beg, guilt, or force her to come back to me. I wouldn't want to either if I were her.

This sounds good and fair. Everyone screws up. Just do better going forward. I'll repeat what I posted yesterday in case you overlooked it. Accept that you're pregnancy-crazy now, and don't make any big decisions without talking to your husband first. Know that this is temporary and you won't be crazy forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Haven't heard from nanny- I've called, texted and emailed. I think she's long gone and I don't blame her. I feel bad about how I acted, and my husband was pretty pissed at me. We have agreed to mail nanny 3 weeks severance + a small gift and I let her know in an apology email that I'd be more than willing to provide her an excellent reference and pass on any job openings I hear about to her.

DD will be with MIL until we figure something out. Thanks for all of your replies, even though some were tough to read. I agree that I acted irrationally and I blew it with a great nanny. I'm not going to beg, guilt, or force her to come back to me. I wouldn't want to either if I were her.

This sounds good and fair. Everyone screws up. Just do better going forward. I'll repeat what I posted yesterday in case you overlooked it. Accept that you're pregnancy-crazy now, and don't make any big decisions without talking to your husband first. Know that this is temporary and you won't be crazy forever.

+1. Good for you for owning it. Most people would have cheaped out on the severance. I have regained my respect for you (though I probably still wouldn't recommend to my nanny that she apply for a job with you).

[Anonymous]

OP where are you located, what is the hours of this position and what is the pay/benefits?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Haven't heard from nanny- I've called, texted and emailed. I think she's long gone and I don't blame her. I feel bad about how I acted, and my husband was pretty pissed at me. We have agreed to mail nanny 3 weeks severance + a small gift and I let her know in an apology email that I'd be more than willing to provide her an excellent reference and pass on any job openings I hear about to her.

DD will be with MIL until we figure something out. Thanks for all of your replies, even though some were tough to read. I agree that I acted irrationally and I blew it with a great nanny. I'm not going to beg, guilt, or force her to come back to me. I wouldn't want to either if I were her.

If you throw one of your hissy fits with your MIL, she might stop taking your calls. You, presumably, are an adult so start acting like one.

[Anonymous]

You should consider going to a counselor or talking to your gyn about how the pregnancy is affecting you. What you did is insane.