MBs - would you keep this nanny?

[Anonymous]

I didn't get the food thing either. Why is the old food in your fridge? Label it for her. Fresh for the kid, old for parents.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a pain in the ass. She probably hates you but loves your kid.

[Anonymous]

Who cares if she doesn't go to the bookstore or museum. I used to take my charge to the library every day I worked. I liked the staff and the people I would meet at the library.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares if she doesn't go to the bookstore or museum. I used to take my charge to the library every day I worked. I liked the staff and the people I would meet at the library.

This. She went to 2 of 4 of your choices. Did you tell her she had to rotate or go to each? Some museums aren't fun with a young charge on a regular basis so I understand wanting to not get in that habit.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I NEVER gave the nanny carte blanche to dig through leftovers so why is this even an issue? She did something she was not supposed to do, period. Going to the library every day is fine IF your MB doesn't give you other instructions. I explicitly told nanny to try all 4 places out, she hasn't and without explanation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I NEVER gave the nanny carte blanche to dig through leftovers so why is this even an issue? She did something she was not supposed to do, period. Going to the library every day is fine IF your MB doesn't give you other instructions. I explicitly told nanny to try all 4 places out, she hasn't and without explanation.

It's an issue because you didn't tell her not to use leftovers, and unless this is her first position, she's probably had at least one position in which she was supposed to look at the refrigerator first. That's the norm for many families with nannies, because they want kids and nanny doing other things, not spending time making food. Also, many families think about the costs, and it's cheaper to make large meals to reheat part later.

So you specifically told her to go to all 4 places? There's no way that it sounded like options, rather than specific instructions? I'm sorry, but while I understand that the nanny annoys you, I have no doubt in my mind that she's not happy working for you either.

At this point, it might be better to search for a new nanny and give this one notice. Write a specific list of how you want everything done and present it at the interview. That way, you get a nanny who will follow every minute detail without question and any nanny with sense who doesn't need to be micromanagement can steer clear.

[Anonymous]

Your nanny should absolutely be wiping your child's nose. This is a health issue. A clean nose is our first line of defense against germs, and clogged, dried-out nostrils do not filter germs as well, plus they force children to breathe through the mouth, which does not filter germs.

Also, boogers aren't formed by the cold, they are formed by dry air. Have your nanny spray his nose regularly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that the food issue is your responsibility. Nanny shouldn't be responsible for throwing out your old food.
Maybe she has something personal going on if she is distracted? A more compassionate approach might be the way forward, after that if no luck then you should look for a new nanny.

If the food isn't okay for your child to eat why is it in your fridge?

If you aren't happy with her, give her a final warning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I NEVER gave the nanny carte blanche to dig through leftovers so why is this even an issue? She did something she was not supposed to do, period. Going to the library every day is fine IF your MB doesn't give you other instructions. I explicitly told nanny to try all 4 places out, she hasn't and without explanation.

Do her a favor and fire her. You sound like a PITA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I NEVER gave the nanny carte blanche to dig through leftovers so why is this even an issue? She did something she was not supposed to do, period. Going to the library every day is fine IF your MB doesn't give you other instructions. I explicitly told nanny to try all 4 places out, she hasn't and without explanation.

It's an issue because you didn't tell her not to use leftovers, and unless this is her first position, she's probably had at least one position in which she was supposed to look at the refrigerator first. That's the norm for many families with nannies, because they want kids and nanny doing other things, not spending time making food. Also, many families think about the costs, and it's cheaper to make large meals to reheat part later.

So you specifically told her to go to all 4 places? There's no way that it sounded like options, rather than specific instructions? I'm sorry, but while I understand that the nanny annoys you, I have no doubt in my mind that she's not happy working for you either.

At this point, it might be better to search for a new nanny and give this one notice. Write a specific list of how you want everything done and present it at the interview. That way, you get a nanny who will follow every minute detail without question and any nanny with sense who doesn't need to be micromanagement can steer clear.

OP. I always pointed out which leftovers are okay to give. The implication being that other leftovers are NOT OK.

Yes, I specifically instructed her to go to all four places. I told her she should rotate among them, but that it was up to her how to rotate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your nanny should absolutely be wiping your child's nose. This is a health issue. A clean nose is our first line of defense against germs, and clogged, dried-out nostrils do not filter germs as well, plus they force children to breathe through the mouth, which does not filter germs.

Also, boogers aren't formed by the cold, they are formed by dry air. Have your nanny spray his nose regularly.

OP. Thanks. I will suggest this to the nanny.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you are changing things now suddenly you told her specifically what foods to feed? Why wouldn't you have mentioned that at first? I think you just don't want to accept that you are a big part of the issue. You sound like a control freak. If she has found places that have worked why does she need to try the others right now? You obviously don't seem to trust her choices. Also, clean out your fridge and make a darn menu for her to serve.

[Anonymous]

I'm still stuck on the.... "sorry-looking beef. It wasn't rotten, but looked and smelled old".... Ewwww! Clean your fridge.

[Anonymous]

Would everyone just give this mom a break? She's just looking out for the best interests of her child. A lot of the stuff wouldn't bother me (boogers, library). But I would fire over repeat failures to lock a closet with deadly chemicals. Not safe, period. That is careless.

[Anonymous]

Feeding toddler DC old food and milk (not rotten, but not fresh) w/o asking me first

About food/milk. I am totally okay with DC eating leftovers up to two days old. (I actually am okay with older, depending on what it is, but would rather save nanny that judgment call). She doesn't know how old the food in our fridge is so should ask me before she gives DC something I made

I NEVER gave the nanny carte blanche to dig through leftovers so why is this even an issue?

I always pointed out which leftovers are okay to give. The implication being that other leftovers are NOT OK.

It's an issue because you are making it one.
Why not make it easy on your nanny and LABEL leftovers? At least date them. Or just throw it out when it goes sorry-looking.
While you aren't happy for her to "dig through" the leftovers it seems generally okay for her to feed DC leftovers but please, just make it easy for her to find the leftovers she is allowed to feed the child. Pointing out is fine but hours later nanny might not necessarily remember which containers you pointed out. Do you want her to call you before she feeds DC? Would probably be an option though annoying.

Not taking DC to places I told her to

I told nanny maybe two months ago about four places she could take DC when it was too cold for the park

I explicitly told nanny to try all 4 places out, she hasn't and without explanation

I specifically instructed her to go to all four places. I told her she should rotate among them, but that it was up to her how to rotate

You told her to try them all? You told her to rotate them? You told her she could go to those places? Which is it?

You need to give your nanny, your current one or a possible new one (safety issues would bother me), clear instructions on what you want done how or you will end up with the same problems again.