Employer trying to break contract.. What should I do ?

[Anonymous]

Since your work site is in DC, and the father is asking you to go someplace else during your work hours (which any employer can do), bring up the matter of mileage and tolls. This is business travel and should be compensated as such.

"Great, I am happy to help with the cat. Since this travel is away from my normal place of work, how would you like me to submit my expenses for mileage and tolls?"

[Anonymous]

To clarify, my permanent residence is in DC. The family when together was Vienna. Dad moved to Dulles. Kids love in Vienna, so this is where I stay when working; On weekends (holidays), I go home to DC. I don't mind feeding the cat twice a week, but he required EVERYDAY. Their separation is that he continue to pay me so that's what it is. Again, our contract that all 3 of us sign.. Clearly states because of their job, I can expect 6 weeks off (doesn't include my vacation because I am readily avail to work, just not needed) because of travel, mom, dad being off etc. I make okay money but not much.. When the time comes, I'll just bring up our contract and what it states. He can even get a neighbor to feed the cat, but for me to be OFF and drive 2 hour RT just to feed the cat is not apart of my contract so id need my regular weekly pay and another fee to drive down there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To clarify, my permanent residence is in DC. The family when together was Vienna. Dad moved to Dulles. Kids love in Vienna, so this is where I stay when working; On weekends (holidays), I go home to DC. I don't mind feeding the cat twice a week, but he required EVERYDAY. Their separation is that he continue to pay me so that's what it is. Again, our contract that all 3 of us sign.. Clearly states because of their job, I can expect 6 weeks off (doesn't include my vacation because I am readily avail to work, just not needed) because of travel, mom, dad being off etc. I make okay money but not much.. When the time comes, I'll just bring up our contract and what it states. He can even get a neighbor to feed the cat, but for me to be OFF and drive 2 hour RT just to feed the cat is not apart of my contract so id need my regular weekly pay and another fee to drive down there.

He's asking you to go to another work site to feed the cat? No. In this case, MB needs to run interference for you. If he has nothing to do with the children during the week, I'd argue that he is no longer your supervisor or boss in this arrangement. He is just providing the funds to MB.

He's feeling used because of the divorce. If you're already underpaid, I'd expect this dynamic to get worse. Most people underestimate the real cost of running two households when they divorce. The person who isn't getting the "benefit" of the majority of the funds (even though he is, since he doesn't have to care for the kids) often starts to think it all costs too much.

[Anonymous]

I'm the immediate PP. My real suggestion is to stop talking directly to DB. Refer him to MB since she is the person in charge of arranging the children's schedule and care.

[Anonymous]

You are getting paid to do nothing while the parents are away, and you can't feed the cat? Don't expect a Xmas bonus or a job next school year. Talk about lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are getting paid to do nothing while the parents are away, and you can't feed the cat? Don't expect a Xmas bonus or a job next school year. Talk about lazy.

I disagree in this case. This is tantamount to being asked to feed the neighbor's cat in the next town over. Also, since mom isn't actually going anywhere, I suspect she'll get called in at some point anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are getting paid to do nothing while the parents are away, and you can't feed the cat? Don't expect a Xmas bonus or a job next school year. Talk about lazy.

+ 100000 my god these nannies. They want more and more perks for less and less work. So annoying.

[Anonymous]

This poor family. The stress of the separation is so difficult--now they have a nanny being petulant and trying to capitalize on their chaos by getting an extra week off for pay...you should be ashamed of yourself. totally ashamed of yourself.

You are getting paid! what a hustler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This poor family. The stress of the separation is so difficult--now they have a nanny being petulant and trying to capitalize on their chaos by getting an extra week off for pay...you should be ashamed of yourself. totally ashamed of yourself.

You are getting paid! what a hustler.

+1. If you want to nickle and dime the family, then expect you'll get the same treatment. Unbelievable! Don't expect to get a good reference either....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This poor family. The stress of the separation is so difficult--now they have a nanny being petulant and trying to capitalize on their chaos by getting an extra week off for pay...you should be ashamed of yourself. totally ashamed of yourself.

You are getting paid! what a hustler.

I'm not TRYING to capitalize on anything! I was informed of these weeks as OFF months ago. If I am OFF, I'm off. Do you go in to work on your days off or on the weekend and NOT expect OT or something? Get Real. Their separation has nothing to do with me or my pay, I've been in the crossfire as is and have done plenty of thing outside of my contract so hush; SMH

[Anonymous]

OP, as some others have said this is a divorce argument and presumably dad doesn't want to pay when mom found someone else to watch the kids. But that is their problem.

That said, you are also asking for favors in post dated checks. Stop it. You don't want to do favors and that's fine, but don't expect them to make things easier on you either. Pick up the check or get it when they return.

But really, MB is your employer. Ask her to sort this out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This poor family. The stress of the separation is so difficult--now they have a nanny being petulant and trying to capitalize on their chaos by getting an extra week off for pay...you should be ashamed of yourself. totally ashamed of yourself.

You are getting paid! what a hustler.

+ 10000 This.

Everyone needs to adapt to divorce except you, eh? You might have the technical right to claim pay for hours you weren't expecting to work, but morally? you suck.

You might have had some sympathy until you suggested you should get paid $40 on top of what you were already making for NOT working. Loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This poor family. The stress of the separation is so difficult--now they have a nanny being petulant and trying to capitalize on their chaos by getting an extra week off for pay...you should be ashamed of yourself. totally ashamed of yourself.

You are getting paid! what a hustler.

I'm not TRYING to capitalize on anything! I was informed of these weeks as OFF months ago. If I am OFF, I'm off. Do you go in to work on your days off or on the weekend and NOT expect OT or something? Get Real. Their separation has nothing to do with me or my pay, I've been in the crossfire as is and have done plenty of thing outside of my contract so hush; SMH

Are you getting paid your regular rate tfor all the hours? A lot of nannies don't understand that when you ask for guaranteed hours, it means that are agreeing to pay you because you are available to work for them. It's not just extra vacation. You should absolutely getting paid mileage for any miles you drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This poor family. The stress of the separation is so difficult--now they have a nanny being petulant and trying to capitalize on their chaos by getting an extra week off for pay...you should be ashamed of yourself. totally ashamed of yourself.

You are getting paid! what a hustler.

I'm not TRYING to capitalize on anything! I was informed of these weeks as OFF months ago. If I am OFF, I'm off. Do you go in to work on your days off or on the weekend and NOT expect OT or something? Get Real. Their separation has nothing to do with me or my pay, I've been in the crossfire as is and have done plenty of thing outside of my contract so hush; SMH

I go in on days I'm supposed to work. I don't see what your misunderstanding? You are being asked to feed a cat for pete's sake ON YOUR SCHEDULED WORK DAYS for your full days pay. Grow up/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This poor family. The stress of the separation is so difficult--now they have a nanny being petulant and trying to capitalize on their chaos by getting an extra week off for pay...you should be ashamed of yourself. totally ashamed of yourself.

You are getting paid! what a hustler.

I'm not TRYING to capitalize on anything! I was informed of these weeks as OFF months ago. If I am OFF, I'm off. Do you go in to work on your days off or on the weekend and NOT expect OT or something? Get Real. Their separation has nothing to do with me or my pay, I've been in the crossfire as is and have done plenty of thing outside of my contract so hush; SMH

Are you getting paid your regular rate tfor all the hours? A lot of nannies don't understand that when you ask for guaranteed hours, it means that are agreeing to pay you because you are available to work for them. It's not just extra vacation. You should absolutely getting paid mileage for any miles you drive.

No, I don't get paid mileage which is 60 miles RT. I suggested that I can come pick up my check, but the dad is very unreliable and I'd show up and he won't have his check book and ask to pay me another time.. Which I've had to plenty of times and I know many of you would NOt wait 4 weeks for a single check! I think many of you are forgetting that the kids are gone, that's why I'm not working DUH. Parents are not, mom will be home entire time, dad will be away for 1 of the 3 weeks.