My child doesn't listen to her caregiver at all

[Anonymous]

Im currently in this situation 5 yr old boy refuses to even listen to me to do the basics clean teeth get dressed shoes on ....I'm at the end of my tether my patience is now zero with his kid I'm considering walking out let them raise their spoilt brat as they want because I'm done fighting.

A little back ground I have been with the family 4 years since the boy was 15 months all was great until the last year he won't go out with me won't listen to a word i say, said child has even made up stories/lies of bad treatment which the parents know are lies because they have been present when he has accused me of this and that and I was no where near him.

We have tried the I do the nice things with him, take him places that are fun give him one on one play time done it all it has t helped he treat s me like dirt on the bottom of his shoe

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is on you. Your child is a spoiled brat. Obviously, you let her get away with this behavior.

+1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 to infinity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is on you. Your child is a spoiled brat. Obviously, you let her get away with this behavior.

Oh please. That's real helpful. I can get her to listen, I just have to be very firm with her and expect her to listen. The caregiver is weak in this respect, she's unable to be firm with her. My daughter has no problems with not listening at school or with other caregivers.

Listenup
Your precious angel is a SPOILED BRAT and it's call your fault.

[Anonymous]

Parents you have to take accountability for how your kids act toward their caregivers. Also, nannies do have to be very careful when it comes to being assertive with simple tasks because some parents hate their kids to be corrected. So maybe that's the issue with your current nanny. Give her grace, have a conversation with her instead of running to this platform looking for answers. It's so easy to discredit a nanny instead of looking at the bigger picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have someone who comes in for about 15hrs a week to care for our 2 kids.

There have been many (minor) issues, but the one that is front and center right now is that my 4yo does NOT listen to the caregiver. I had hired her a couple mornings a week to make the mornings easier to get her ready for school, but she was simply not able to help get her ready for school. So I took over that role, while she watched our younger, who would often cry for me because he's having separation anxiety at this age.

When I leave the house, and I ask the caregiver to make sure she brushes her teeth, she'll say ok. But then she never does it. I ask my daughter later if she had her teeth brushed and she says no, she didn't want to. So the caregiver never pushes it, but also doesn't tell me that she never brushed her teeth! It bothers me that a) she can't seem to get my daughter to listen to her and b) she doesn't tell me anything about it and always just gives me the general, "oh they were great." when I ask her how the day went. The teeth brushing thing is just one example.

Is there a way to improve this situation? Or should I just find a new caregiver?

She's a spoiled brat and it's all on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do I suspect this caregiver woman is easy to take advantage of?

Some professional nannies with strong boundaries aren't liked by some parents because you CAN'T take advantage of them. See how that works?

This 100%

[Anonymous]

This isn’t the caregivers fault but YOURS!!! You’re the parent, get it straight and stop blaming on the babysitter. Complaining and putting the fingers on someone doesn’t help you one bit. Be a mother and take full responsibility of your own mistakes and failing parenting style

[Anonymous]

The kid is in middle school by now; this post is from 2016.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The kid is in middle school by now; this post is from 2016.

By now she has morphed into the meanest of the mean girls. OP wrings her hands and moans that she can't understand where she went wrong.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a awful position for the nanny. You’re shifting her schedule around and or reducing her hours. You expect this lady who is paid minimum wage to be a behavior therapist. I hope she moves on OP. It’s not even easy finding PT help and you’re so picky and have unrealistic expectations.