Nanny to cover lost items?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so this is how it goes. Nanny picks DD at daycare. DD carries her backpack to the stroller. They walk to the playground. They play. They walk home. If nanny takes backpack out of stroller to get DD water or something she may have left it on the bench. For me the responsibility to remember to bring all the belongings is the nannys, not my 2 year old. It sounds like that is hard to believe for some of you because in your view a 2 year old should be more responsible. With that I disagree.

That is the full story. I asked opinions here because I didn't know how this would normally be handled. Not because I am an entitled mom to a spoiled brat who abuses my nanny. Geez.

I will let this one go and tell her to be more careful in the future. She is a wonderful nanny but a bit careless with our property, remembering to lock doors etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, OP a 2 yr old is not responsible for their things, the nanny is. But, shit happens. When my DD was two I once left her beloved stuffed lambie on a public bus.

Just tell the nanny that it's really important she keep track of DD's things, and this time you'll let it go, but if she loses things again, you'll need her to pay to replace them.

Please explain why a 2 year old can't wear a backpack from class to the car?

I'm sorry, but I don't know any nannies who replace things that their charges lose or break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, so this is how it goes. Nanny picks DD at daycare. DD carries her backpack to the stroller. They walk to the playground. They play. They walk home. If nanny takes backpack out of stroller to get DD water or something she may have left it on the bench. For me the responsibility to remember to bring all the belongings is the nannys, not my 2 year old. It sounds like that is hard to believe for some of you because in your view a 2 year old should be more responsible. With that I disagree.

That is the full story. I asked opinions here because I didn't know how this would normally be handled. Not because I am an entitled mom to a spoiled brat who abuses my nanny. Geez.

I will let this one go and tell her to be more careful in the future. She is a wonderful nanny but a bit careless with our property, remembering to lock doors etc.

15.45 again. Ok, that makes much more sense!

I would suggest that the nanny make sure that there's water and a snack in the stroller, that way the backpack stays in the stroller and is less likely to be lost.

Locking doors (and the lack of doing so) is a safety issue, not just being careless with your property.

[Anonymous]

How old is the woman and where did you find her? I wouldn't have someone who forgets to lock the doors. That's just nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, OP a 2 yr old is not responsible for their things, the nanny is. But, shit happens. When my DD was two I once left her beloved stuffed lambie on a public bus.

Just tell the nanny that it's really important she keep track of DD's things, and this time you'll let it go, but if she loses things again, you'll need her to pay to replace them.

Please explain why a 2 year old can't wear a backpack from class to the car?

I'm sorry, but I don't know any nannies who replace things that their charges lose or break.

No one has said that a 2 year old can't carry her own backpack. The backpack was left at the playground BY THE NANNY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is the woman and where did you find her? I wouldn't have someone who forgets to lock the doors. That's just nuts.

She's mid-thirties. It's happened twice and the second time she almost lost her job over it. Hasn't happened since. She is really an amazing nanny but this and how she isn't very careful with our things are drawbacks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does a 2 year old who has a backpack and a lunchbox also require a nanny? Either she needs those items for daycare or she's with the nanny all day? OP's kid is probably like 8 and special.

Good grief, shut up! My 2 1/2 year old twin charges go to a morning preschool program 2 days a week. They both bring a small backpack and a lunch box with them. The backpack has things like a change of clothes, hat, etc. Lunch box has their lunch because all of the children eat lunch at this particular school. I pick them up at noon.

[Anonymous]

Happy to report my husband found the backpack at the playground this morning

[Anonymous]

I'd leave some cash and have the nanny go pick another one up at Target. If this becomes a regular occurrence, address it, but I'd start off assuming this was a one time mistake. It happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Happy to report my husband found the backpack at the playground this morning

Glad to hear it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Happy to report my husband found the backpack at the playground this morning

Yay! I'm not sure why the crazies came out in force on this one, but I'm totally with you that it's reasonable to expect the nanny to be responsible for making sure that the lunchbox and backpack make it home from school for a 2 year old. Our old nanny went through sippy cups at an alarming rate for a while before I just stopped replacing the nice ones and let her deal with take and toss ones for a while. She admitted to leaving them behind places but never offered to replace them and I never asked her to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Happy to report my husband found the backpack at the playground this morning

Yay! I'm not sure why the crazies came out in force on this one, but I'm totally with you that it's reasonable to expect the nanny to be responsible for making sure that the lunchbox and backpack make it home from school for a 2 year old. Our old nanny went through sippy cups at an alarming rate for a while before I just stopped replacing the nice ones and let her deal with take and toss ones for a while. She admitted to leaving them behind places but never offered to replace them and I never asked her to.

Thank you She has lost a fair share of sippy cups, shoes etc too. I told her that we would get a new backpack etc (before my husband found them at the playground), but that if this keeps happening we'll have to start asking her to replace things. She fully understood and said she will be more careful. Happy ending

[Anonymous]

These people are ridiculous. This is one you're just going to have to suck up and ask the nanny to be more responsible in the future.

[Anonymous]

Glad you found it.

My nanny somehow let my 4 year old DS to lose his favorite expensive shoes in a large stream. I never got straight answers on why he entered the stream in a first place, how the water swept both shoes, and where was the nanny during that time. I was too worried that he could have drowned honestly. That was over the top, but I still did not ask the nanny to pay for the shoes (more expensive Vans kind because they had his favorite characters)..

Silly cups, lunch boxes, little toys, jackets can be easily lost. I wouldn't think two times about them.

[Anonymous]

Well it depends.

Does this type of thing happen often? Is she a good nanny otherwise?

Even as parents, we have those days where nothing goes right. And ask any parent...There have been times where they forgot to take something. It's par for the course as a parent or caregiver.

As long as this was an HONEST mistake OP, do not charge her...even if she offers.

Besides...It is the holiday season, nothing like throwing a wrench into her happiness./