Nanny spotting Vienna edition

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Anonymous wrote:Some really weird replies here, and frankly they seem like they're all written by one person. I'll be flagging so Jeff can take a look.

Anyhow, OP, this is a unique bad nanny sighting! Never seen one like it before. I'm glad you posted. The nanny is sending a horrible message to that little girl, as well as to her brothers, and secondarily, to the other kids at the park. I hope the parents see this.

Signed, a nanny who cares about ALL aspects of my charges' growth and development, not just keeping them alive

You don't sound like a nanny at all. But here's a REALITY CHECK for you. When you hire an unknown person to be the care provider, there's no way you can control these things.

What's ingrained is ingrained. You can keep fooling yourself otherwise, if you prefer.

I'm curious as to what part of my response makes you think I'm not a nanny. I have been a nanny for almost ten years now, and have worked with children in other capacities for even longer. I take pride in what I do.

As to your "point," of course this sort of belief is ingrained in a person from childhood. That is precisely why this post is such a concern. I am certain the parents do not want such thoughts in their children's inner monologues their whole lives. And yes, in a nanny/employer relationship, some issues will pop up which are not foreseeable. This is not necessarily one of them. However, it is important to interview carefully and hire someone who will assist the parents to instill the desired values in their children, and also to address issues such as this as they occur.

I also find it telling that the posts I flagged and asked Jeff to check were deleted.

How naive you are. Best to hire a person who shares your values if you care about values. It's not rocket science, my dear.

Your response to my comment doesn't make much sense. Maybe re-read what I wrote and try again.

It's ok if you don't like my response. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some really weird replies here, and frankly they seem like they're all written by one person. I'll be flagging so Jeff can take a look.

Anyhow, OP, this is a unique bad nanny sighting! Never seen one like it before. I'm glad you posted. The nanny is sending a horrible message to that little girl, as well as to her brothers, and secondarily, to the other kids at the park. I hope the parents see this.

Signed, a nanny who cares about ALL aspects of my charges' growth and development, not just keeping them alive

You're the weird one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't let my charge jump off a spinning object.

A preteen girl isn't allowed to play on playground equipment that the boys are handling well? If you won't allow *any* charge, that's between you and the parent, and not what OP reported.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some really weird replies here, and frankly they seem like they're all written by one person. I'll be flagging so Jeff can take a look.

Anyhow, OP, this is a unique bad nanny sighting! Never seen one like it before. I'm glad you posted. The nanny is sending a horrible message to that little girl, as well as to her brothers, and secondarily, to the other kids at the park. I hope the parents see this.

Signed, a nanny who cares about ALL aspects of my charges' growth and development, not just keeping them alive

You're the weird one.

Nanny here, who agrees completely with PP and OP. Girls get so many messages from media about sex, does this girl need a nanny also putting thoughts in her head about being ladylike and inferior to boys?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some really weird replies here, and frankly they seem like they're all written by one person. I'll be flagging so Jeff can take a look.

Anyhow, OP, this is a unique bad nanny sighting! Never seen one like it before. I'm glad you posted. The nanny is sending a horrible message to that little girl, as well as to her brothers, and secondarily, to the other kids at the park. I hope the parents see this.

Signed, a nanny who cares about ALL aspects of my charges' growth and development, not just keeping them alive

You're the weird one.

no, she is right, and she sounds like a great nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't let my charge jump off a spinning object.

did you read OP's post? the point is not that the nanny was preventing the child from doing something dangerous, she was telling her not to do stuff because she is a girl. I assume you would not let a charge jump off a spinning object whether the charge was a boy or a girl.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't let my charge jump off a spinning object.

did you read OP's post? the point is not that the nanny was preventing the child from doing something dangerous, she was telling her not to do stuff because she is a girl. I assume you would not let a charge jump off a spinning object whether the charge was a boy or a girl.

It was just a statement. I say stupid stuff all the time. Thankfully no one has posted my statements on dcum yet. I assume the nanny just wanted the girl to not get hurt. She said she can't because she was a girl only to get her to stop since the other kids were boys. Like when I tell my charge he can't slide down the pole until he is 7. She made a stupid statement that's it. No harm done.

[Anonymous]

OP here: 2 year old kids were on it. The older kids were spinning it and jumping on and off. I happened to be close because my son was on it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't let my charge jump off a spinning object.

did you read OP's post? the point is not that the nanny was preventing the child from doing something dangerous, she was telling her not to do stuff because she is a girl. I assume you would not let a charge jump off a spinning object whether the charge was a boy or a girl.

It was just a statement. I say stupid stuff all the time. Thankfully no one has posted my statements on dcum yet. I assume the nanny just wanted the girl to not get hurt. She said she can't because she was a girl only to get her to stop since the other kids were boys. Like when I tell my charge he can't slide down the pole until he is 7. She made a stupid statement that's it. No harm done.

I don't understand this. Why would you tell your charge he has to wait until he's 7 rather than giving a concrete example (you may slide down the pole when I know you can hold on all the way down and can demonstrate that by doing xyz)? And how is it not harmful to tell a girl she can't do something, just because she's a girl?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't let my charge jump off a spinning object.

did you read OP's post? the point is not that the nanny was preventing the child from doing something dangerous, she was telling her not to do stuff because she is a girl. I assume you would not let a charge jump off a spinning object whether the charge was a boy or a girl.

It was just a statement. I say stupid stuff all the time. Thankfully no one has posted my statements on dcum yet. I assume the nanny just wanted the girl to not get hurt. She said she can't because she was a girl only to get her to stop since the other kids were boys. Like when I tell my charge he can't slide down the pole until he is 7. She made a stupid statement that's it. No harm done.

this is exactly OP's point, it was an harmful statement. I say things to my girls too to prevent them from getting hurt on the playground, but I would never say that they cannot do something because they are girls. I actually tell them they can do anything and to never listen to people who say girls should not do this or that. you told your charge he cannot slide down until he is 7, which is ok since when he is 7 he will be able to do it. you did not tell him you cannot slide down the pole because you are a boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care how experienced she is. It's not a nanny's place to tell a child she can't climb simply because she's a girl. This is 2015, there is no reason to force children to fit into antiquated gender roles, it's not the nanny's place.

take over the job make extra money? If I where you take it! NO need to worry about slow days. I am sick and tired your makeing up story abut nannys you know butter than any one ells abut the nannys job don't you? Let's be onset here ??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't care how experienced she is. It's not a nanny's place to tell a child she can't climb simply because she's a girl. This is 2015, there is no reason to force children to fit into antiquated gender roles, it's not the nanny's place.

take over the job make extra money? If I where you take it! NO need to worry about slow days. I am sick and tired your makeing up story abut nannys you know butter than any one ells abut the nannys job don't you? Let's be onset here ??

I assume you thought I was an MB. Sorry, but I'm a nanny. reinforcing gender roles in a way that degrades a child's sense of self-esteem is not acceptable in a nanny. A parent may do so, that is their right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't care how experienced she is. It's not a nanny's place to tell a child she can't climb simply because she's a girl. This is 2015, there is no reason to force children to fit into antiquated gender roles, it's not the nanny's place.

take over the job make extra money? If I where you take it! NO need to worry about slow days. I am sick and tired your makeing up story abut nannys you know butter than any one ells abut the nannys job don't you? Let's be onset here ??

I assume you thought I was an MB. Sorry, but I'm a nanny. reinforcing gender roles in a way that degrades a child's sense of self-esteem is not acceptable in a nanny. A parent may do so, that is their right.[/quote} look I don't really care whether your nanny or agency work for Parent only however if you have personal problem here get up go do some thing with your time don't sit create a problem for people to have an issue or complex with one another we all deserve the precious life that we treasure. I think carefully what you are doing here I LOVE to see people positive NOT negative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care how experienced she is. It's not a nanny's place to tell a child she can't climb simply because she's a girl. This is 2015, there is no reason to force children to fit into antiquated gender roles, it's not the nanny's place.

take over the job make extra money? If I where you take it! NO need to worry about slow days. I am sick and tired your makeing up story abut nannys you know butter than any one ells abut the nannys job don't you? Let's be onset here ??

I assume you thought I was an MB. Sorry, but I'm a nanny. reinforcing gender roles in a way that degrades a child's sense of self-esteem is not acceptable in a nanny. A parent may do so, that is their right.[/quote} look I don't really care whether your nanny or agency work for Parent only however if you have personal problem here get up go do some thing with your time don't sit create a problem for people to have an issue or complex with one another we all deserve the precious life that we treasure. I think carefully what you are doing here I LOVE to see people positive NOT negative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't care how experienced she is. It's not a nanny's place to tell a child she can't climb simply because she's a girl. This is 2015, there is no reason to force children to fit into antiquated gender roles, it's not the nanny's place.

take over the job make extra money? If I where you take it! NO need to worry about slow days. I am sick and tired your makeing up story abut nannys you know butter than any one ells abut the nannys job don't you? Let's be onset here ??

I assume you thought I was an MB. Sorry, but I'm a nanny. reinforcing gender roles in a way that degrades a child's sense of self-esteem is not acceptable in a nanny. A parent may do so, that is their right.