never-ending togetherness

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Anonymous wrote:For the nannies who are complaining, does she have a night nurse or is she up at night with the baby? If she is up, of course she needs to nap. Plus there is the whole issue of healing up...

Why do so many women treat birth as though you are recovering from some sort of serious surgery.
You had a kid, your body heals quickly.
I could absolutely understand having a nanny work more for you to rest in the beginning...but 3 months later??
Come on. That is just lazy. I'm sure someone is going to try to say that a serious tear or c-section could take months to heal. I call BS. I had a third degree vaginal tear and was back at work 8 weeks later.
Some of you seem to think that giving birth makes you this mystical giver of life who should be worshipped on a f**king alter. You squeezed a kid out.
It's not a big deal.

I generally agree with you, as I'm a home birth mother. But you have to consider that some of these women have hardly walked up a hill before they gave birth. They may look relatively healthy, but aren't really.

[Anonymous]

Mothers at home with the nanny need to keep communication open, and see what is working and what needs tweaking.

If she's a good nanny, she may have better options without the hassle of dealing with a self-centered parent at home all day.

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I had someone who didn't understand why nannies didn't enjoy extended family visits or maternity leaves. I told them to imagine having their MIL visiting for months on end, being around every moment of the day.
It was truly a thing of beauty witnessing the moment of understanding in her eyes.

Hang in there OP. It has to end at some point, right?

Hate to be Debbie Downer, but are you certain she plans on returning to work?

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Anonymous wrote:For the nannies who are complaining, does she have a night nurse or is she up at night with the baby? If she is up, of course she needs to nap. Plus there is the whole issue of healing up...

It's her job and responsibility to take care of her children, so, tough. Recovering from Having a baby is easy and billions of women have done so without all the nonsense of today's women. She had a baby not chemo.

Bwa ha ha. The ignorance of youth!

Hardly. I have had three and oldest is a senior in college. I managed quite well and found no reason to act as though I was recovering from brain surgery. Last one was csection and still didn't act like an idiot.

These are some of the same nannies who then complain about coming in to work because the are recovering from the sniffles!!

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Anonymous wrote:For the nannies who are complaining, does she have a night nurse or is she up at night with the baby? If she is up, of course she needs to nap. Plus there is the whole issue of healing up...

It's her job and responsibility to take care of her children, so, tough. Recovering from Having a baby is easy and billions of women have done so without all the nonsense of today's women. She had a baby not chemo.

Bwa ha ha. The ignorance of youth!

Hardly. I have had three and oldest is a senior in college. I managed quite well and found no reason to act as though I was recovering from brain surgery. Last one was csection and still didn't act like an idiot.

These are some of the same nannies who then complain about coming in to work because the are recovering from the sniffles!!

Not any nannies I know. We all work with colds, a few work with flu. It's not a big deal.

Plenty of nannies have children. And most didn't have 3+ months off for maternity, hence the frustration with a mom who is still complaining all day during the 4th or 5th month post-partum.

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Anonymous wrote:For the nannies who are complaining, does she have a night nurse or is she up at night with the baby? If she is up, of course she needs to nap. Plus there is the whole issue of healing up...

It's her job and responsibility to take care of her children, so, tough. Recovering from Having a baby is easy and billions of women have done so without all the nonsense of today's women. She had a baby not chemo.

Bwa ha ha. The ignorance of youth!

Hardly. I have had three and oldest is a senior in college. I managed quite well and found no reason to act as though I was recovering from brain surgery. Last one was csection and still didn't act like an idiot.

I had four, all c-sections, and I actually found it very difficult after the first one. We had a nanny after our fourth was born, and we kept her on during my maternity leave because we were paying her, and we needed some help. My husband wasn't going to help with childcare, night time wake ups, or housework while I was not working and had our nanny there. Thank God she helped with ALL of the kids sometimes so that I could get some laundry done, prep meals, work out, and, yes, sleep.

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Anonymous wrote:For the nannies who are complaining, does she have a night nurse or is she up at night with the baby? If she is up, of course she needs to nap. Plus there is the whole issue of healing up...

It's her job and responsibility to take care of her children, so, tough. Recovering from Having a baby is easy and billions of women have done so without all the nonsense of today's women. She had a baby not chemo.

Bwa ha ha. The ignorance of youth!

Hardly. I have had three and oldest is a senior in college. I managed quite well and found no reason to act as though I was recovering from brain surgery. Last one was csection and still didn't act like an idiot.

I had four, all c-sections, and I actually found it very difficult after the first one. We had a nanny after our fourth was born, and we kept her on during my maternity leave because we were paying her, and we needed some help. My husband wasn't going to help with childcare, night time wake ups, or housework while I was not working and had our nanny there. Thank God she helped with ALL of the kids sometimes so that I could get some laundry done, prep meals, work out, and, yes, sleep.

Poor, pitiful you! You had three children so you should have had an inkling of what having a newborn was like. You were at home so why should your DH clean. Cook, take care of kids? He is working and you are sitting on your can doing nothing but orderi,f nanny around. American women are beyond lazy.

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Anonymous wrote:For the nannies who are complaining, does she have a night nurse or is she up at night with the baby? If she is up, of course she needs to nap. Plus there is the whole issue of healing up...

It's her job and responsibility to take care of her children, so, tough. Recovering from Having a baby is easy and billions of women have done so without all the nonsense of today's women. She had a baby not chemo.

Bwa ha ha. The ignorance of youth!

Hardly. I have had three and oldest is a senior in college. I managed quite well and found no reason to act as though I was recovering from brain surgery. Last one was csection and still didn't act like an idiot.

These are some of the same nannies who then complain about coming in to work because the are recovering from the sniffles!!

Not any nannies I know. We all work with colds, a few work with flu. It's not a big deal.

Plenty of nannies have children. And most didn't have 3+ months off for maternity, hence the frustration with a mom who is still complaining all day during the 4th or 5th month post-partum.

NOBODY, NOT BRAIN SURGEONS NOT SOLDIERS NOT THE PRESIDENT, WORKS WITH THE FLU.

If you don't understand that, you've been blessed and have never had the flu. A stomach bug with aches and pains is not the flu. Losing twenty pounds as you expel liquids constantly is. NOBODY works like that.

Fucking learn what the flu actually is and then get your damn flu shot, geez.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd die. Seriously. I've got three more weeks of hell. I'm actually working MORE hours now that's she's at home. Napping. While I have both.

Aren't you going to have both kids when she goes back to worth and you are being paid? How does the fact that she is home instead of at work change this?

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Anonymous wrote:I'd die. Seriously. I've got three more weeks of hell. I'm actually working MORE hours now that's she's at home. Napping. While I have both.

Aren't you going to have both kids when she goes back to worth and you are being paid? How does the fact that she is home instead of at work change this?

Trust me: the fact that her MB is home napping (so the kids have to be quiet) and is around constantly to provide "feedback" on everything OP does and is a constant reminder to both kids that they prefer mom to nanny Is a very different animal from having two kids alone all day while parents are at work.

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Anonymous wrote:For the nannies who are complaining, does she have a night nurse or is she up at night with the baby? If she is up, of course she needs to nap. Plus there is the whole issue of healing up...

It's her job and responsibility to take care of her children, so, tough. Recovering from Having a baby is easy and billions of women have done so without all the nonsense of today's women. She had a baby not chemo.

Bwa ha ha. The ignorance of youth!

Hardly. I have had three and oldest is a senior in college. I managed quite well and found no reason to act as though I was recovering from brain surgery. Last one was csection and still didn't act like an idiot.

These are some of the same nannies who then complain about coming in to work because the are recovering from the sniffles!!

Not any nannies I know. We all work with colds, a few work with flu. It's not a big deal.

Plenty of nannies have children. And most didn't have 3+ months off for maternity, hence the frustration with a mom who is still complaining all day during the 4th or 5th month post-partum.

NOBODY, NOT BRAIN SURGEONS NOT SOLDIERS NOT THE PRESIDENT, WORKS WITH THE FLU.

If you don't understand that, you've been blessed and have never had the flu. A stomach bug with aches and pains is not the flu. Losing twenty pounds as you expel liquids constantly is. NOBODY works like that.

Fucking learn what the flu actually is and then get your damn flu shot, geez.

BS

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For the nannies who are complaining, does she have a night nurse or is she up at night with the baby? If she is up, of course she needs to nap. Plus there is the whole issue of healing up...

It's her job and responsibility to take care of her children, so, tough. Recovering from Having a baby is easy and billions of women have done so without all the nonsense of today's women. She had a baby not chemo.

Actually, since you are being PAID to do it, it's also yours[b].

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the nannies who are complaining, does she have a night nurse or is she up at night with the baby? If she is up, of course she needs to nap. Plus there is the whole issue of healing up...

It's her job and responsibility to take care of her children, so, tough. Recovering from Having a baby is easy and billions of women have done so without all the nonsense of today's women. She had a baby not chemo.

Actually, since you are being PAID to do it, it's also yours[b].

Hence, Nanny as Parent phenomenon.

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Anonymous wrote:For the nannies who are complaining, does she have a night nurse or is she up at night with the baby? If she is up, of course she needs to nap. Plus there is the whole issue of healing up...

It's her job and responsibility to take care of her children, so, tough. Recovering from Having a baby is easy and billions of women have done so without all the nonsense of today's women. She had a baby not chemo.

Actually, since you are being PAID to do it, it's also yours[b].

Hence, Nanny as Parent phenomenon.

Yes. It is the mothers responsibility to be everything to her children at all times. If she wants to do something so selfish as sleep, then she obviously is not a real mother to her child.

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Anonymous wrote:For the nannies who are complaining, does she have a night nurse or is she up at night with the baby? If she is up, of course she needs to nap. Plus there is the whole issue of healing up...

It's her job and responsibility to take care of her children, so, tough. Recovering from Having a baby is easy and billions of women have done so without all the nonsense of today's women. She had a baby not chemo.

Actually, since you are being PAID to do it, it's also yours[b].

Hence, Nanny as Parent phenomenon.

BS. Mom can take a nap and still be involved with her kids. Nanny is acting in place of the parent when mom is on maternity leave, mom is there.

-Nanny who has worked 24/7, with kids who saw the parents less than once a week