Nannies, what are the hills that you would be willing to die on?

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Please share a few links about nothing but breast milk for 12 months.

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My kids get what I serve and that's it, starting when they start solids. They don't have to eat it, and I offer at least one thing I think they like (but they don't get unlimited quantities of that, either). If they don't eat, however, I don't give them anything else. A kid isn't going to starve who misses a single meal. He'll just eat more at breakfast.

I have learned over the years that my kids usually eat two out of three good meals, and pick at the third, though which one they don't eat may change day to day.

My kids are not picky, and they would not throw that kind of tantrum at 2 years old, because they know they're not getting something else. I would be furious if my nanny started to get them to expect they could "order" something more to their liking!

I also don't tie dessert to eating dinner, however, and dessert is always fruit, so a hungry kid will likely choose a banana or an apple.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids get what I serve and that's it, starting when they start solids. They don't have to eat it, and I offer at least one thing I think they like (but they don't get unlimited quantities of that, either). If they don't eat, however, I don't give them anything else. A kid isn't going to starve who misses a single meal. He'll just eat more at breakfast.

I have learned over the years that my kids usually eat two out of three good meals, and pick at the third, though which one they don't eat may change day to day.

My kids are not picky, and they would not throw that kind of tantrum at 2 years old, because they know they're not getting something else. I would be furious if my nanny started to get them to expect they could "order" something more to their liking!

I also don't tie dessert to eating dinner, however, and dessert is always fruit, so a hungry kid will likely choose a banana or an apple.

I would quit if I worked for you. Like other nannies, I will not send a baby to bed crying and hungry. You give a child three things on his/her plate - one of which you know they like. No one is talking about taking "orders"

You are not winning anything, PP - you are making meal times miserable and stressful. I feel horribly sorry for your poor children.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids get what I serve and that's it, starting when they start solids. They don't have to eat it, and I offer at least one thing I think they like (but they don't get unlimited quantities of that, either). If they don't eat, however, I don't give them anything else. A kid isn't going to starve who misses a single meal. He'll just eat more at breakfast.

I have learned over the years that my kids usually eat two out of three good meals, and pick at the third, though which one they don't eat may change day to day.

My kids are not picky, and they would not throw that kind of tantrum at 2 years old, because they know they're not getting something else. I would be furious if my nanny started to get them to expect they could "order" something more to their liking!

I also don't tie dessert to eating dinner, however, and dessert is always fruit, so a hungry kid will likely choose a banana or an apple.

I would quit if I worked for you. Like other nannies, I will not send a baby to bed crying and hungry. You give a child three things on his/her plate - one of which you know they like. No one is talking about taking "orders"

You are not winning anything, PP - you are making meal times miserable and stressful. I feel horribly sorry for your poor children.

Most children who have nannies and are not food insecure have never felt true hunger . Sending a child to bed " hungry " is fine. They were offered food and refused it.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids get what I serve and that's it, starting when they start solids. They don't have to eat it, and I offer at least one thing I think they like (but they don't get unlimited quantities of that, either). If they don't eat, however, I don't give them anything else. A kid isn't going to starve who misses a single meal. He'll just eat more at breakfast.

I have learned over the years that my kids usually eat two out of three good meals, and pick at the third, though which one they don't eat may change day to day.

My kids are not picky, and they would not throw that kind of tantrum at 2 years old, because they know they're not getting something else. I would be furious if my nanny started to get them to expect they could "order" something more to their liking!

I also don't tie dessert to eating dinner, however, and dessert is always fruit, so a hungry kid will likely choose a banana or an apple.

I would quit if I worked for you. Like other nannies, I will not send a baby to bed crying and hungry. You give a child three things on his/her plate - one of which you know they like. No one is talking about taking "orders"

You are not winning anything, PP - you are making meal times miserable and stressful. I feel horribly sorry for your poor children.

Most children who have nannies and are not food insecure have never felt true hunger . Sending a child to bed " hungry " is fine. They were offered food and refused it.

Yes, easy for a nanny to think she knows better, but unlike parents they don't need to think about a child's well-being long term, just what will work that day. Personally I would not have taken the meal strategy that OP's MB did, but I would fire a nanny who over rode my parenting choices.

[Anonymous]

So many of you are raising picky, spoiled children who only eat a few things. There is nothing wrong with not giving children their favorite things every single meal. You can offer them a variety of things and make sure there is at least something that you know they somewhat like on their plate, but you do not have to take orders and keep giving them only things that you know they like.

Kids are fickle. Sometimes they eat a lot and sometimes they eat a little bit and that's okay.

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Anonymous wrote:So many of you are raising picky, spoiled children who only eat a few things. There is nothing wrong with not giving children their favorite things every single meal. You can offer them a variety of things and make sure there is at least something that you know they somewhat like on their plate, but you do not have to take orders and keep giving them only things that you know they like.

Kids are fickle. Sometimes they eat a lot and sometimes they eat a little bit and that's okay.

Right, and certainly easier for nanny if she can just give a child what he/she wants in the moment. This is where parenting is different than nannying.

[Anonymous]

I'm not taking orders or working as a short-order cook when i nanny, and I tend to follow the "a few things on your plate, at least one of which I know you like." I think the problem is in people - not just parents - not respecting a child's taste. Tastes DO change, and only by offering something two dozen times or so, but if you know your kid doesn't like eggs and you insist on serving them at every consecutive breakfast, I'm going to change it up when I'm working. And in two or three days, eggs will be the central part of the meal again. Then we will do yogurt or oatmeal for a few days. Then eggs. And so on. Really it's about respecting a child's appetite (never making them clear their plates) as well as preferences (don't try to force a food by serving it daily, offer it once or twice a week instead). I can work with pretty much any variation of styles as long as those two deal-breakers are met, because it means a child won't go hungry but also won't start to distrust their own hunger cues.

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Anonymous wrote:So many of you are raising picky, spoiled children who only eat a few things. There is nothing wrong with not giving children their favorite things every single meal. You can offer them a variety of things and make sure there is at least something that you know they somewhat like on their plate, but you do not have to take orders and keep giving them only things that you know they like.

Kids are fickle. Sometimes they eat a lot and sometimes they eat a little bit and that's okay.

Right, and certainly easier for nanny if she can just give a child what he/she wants in the moment. This is where parenting is different than nannying.

What are you responding to in PPs post? It sounds like you both agree that neither the nannies or parents should be catering to a child's every whim? I'm confused.

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Anonymous wrote:I babysit this one baby. 9 months old. No solids food, no water, no fruits no snacks (finger foods) - only breast milk (not from the bottle but straight from the breast). Every two hours. The mom try to gave the baby rice cereal with cold mild (breast milk) and the baby refused it!

Her mom told me that the doctor told her "oh don't worry she have breast milk, breast milk give her everything"

How can 9 months old baby get all the nutrition from breast milk?

I bought few pct baby food i.e Gerber organic - she said oh her baby wont it this (without trying!). Her baby is teething and she just gave her measurement spoon as teething toys! So I bought the proper teething toys and keep in the fridge and give to the baby. The next day I come I cant find it anymore!

Her baby always cranky always crying always want to be held.

She offered me fulltime position but I told her plain NO.

Many mothers choose to exclusively breastfeed until 1 year of age. While the WHO recommends EBF until 6 months, there is no documented study stating that infants "need" to eat solid foods if they are maintaining optimal growth and development.

You sound uneducated and, frankly, like you rely on your own experience rather than proven data and evidence based practices. If you brought baby food into my home, after I explicitly told you not to, I would be firing you (for ignorance and disrespect), not offering you a full time position. Keep your opinions to yourself.

P.S. "organic" on a label means bunk

Oh please, I babysit two other baby who is still breastfeed. One so chubby yet the doctor advice the mom to start solids when she was 4 months old. The second one is tall and slim and he start solid at 7 months old. This nine month old girl is skinny. Always have running nose. Whenever her mom see pictures of the other baby I care she will ask me what the other baby eat, what is their schedule etc. The mom just lazy! gave up easily without trying.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids get what I serve and that's it, starting when they start solids. They don't have to eat it, and I offer at least one thing I think they like (but they don't get unlimited quantities of that, either). If they don't eat, however, I don't give them anything else. A kid isn't going to starve who misses a single meal. He'll just eat more at breakfast.

I have learned over the years that my kids usually eat two out of three good meals, and pick at the third, though which one they don't eat may change day to day.

My kids are not picky, and they would not throw that kind of tantrum at 2 years old, because they know they're not getting something else. I would be furious if my nanny started to get them to expect they could "order" something more to their liking!

I also don't tie dessert to eating dinner, however, and dessert is always fruit, so a hungry kid will likely choose a banana or an apple.

I would quit if I worked for you. Like other nannies, I will not send a baby to bed crying and hungry. You give a child three things on his/her plate - one of which you know they like. No one is talking about taking "orders"

You are not winning anything, PP - you are making meal times miserable and stressful. I feel horribly sorry for your poor children.

Most children who have nannies and are not food insecure have never felt true hunger . Sending a child to bed " hungry " is fine. They were offered food and refused it.

Yes, easy for a nanny to think she knows better, but unlike parents they don't need to think about a child's well-being long term, just what will work that day. Personally I would not have taken the meal strategy that OP's MB did, but I would fire a nanny who over rode my parenting choices.

And what if the nanny simply does know better? I am devoted to my charge's well-being full time and was taught in graduate school that making mealtimes a battleground was a great way to instill eating disorders.

This is a thread about lines in which a nanny will not cross. As clearly stated by OP, she was willing to be fired for giving her 20 month old charge yogurt and fruit when he was crying from hunger so if she were your nanny she would be happy to accept your firing her. She did the right thing and was willing to suffer the consequences of her convictions.

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Anonymous wrote:Please share a few links about nothing but breast milk for 12 months.

Notice the silence.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids get what I serve and that's it, starting when they start solids. They don't have to eat it, and I offer at least one thing I think they like (but they don't get unlimited quantities of that, either). If they don't eat, however, I don't give them anything else. A kid isn't going to starve who misses a single meal. He'll just eat more at breakfast.

I have learned over the years that my kids usually eat two out of three good meals, and pick at the third, though which one they don't eat may change day to day.

My kids are not picky, and they would not throw that kind of tantrum at 2 years old, because they know they're not getting something else. I would be furious if my nanny started to get them to expect they could "order" something more to their liking!

I also don't tie dessert to eating dinner, however, and dessert is always fruit, so a hungry kid will likely choose a banana or an apple.

I would quit if I worked for you. Like other nannies, I will not send a baby to bed crying and hungry. You give a child three things on his/her plate - one of which you know they like. No one is talking about taking "orders"

You are not winning anything, PP - you are making meal times miserable and stressful. I feel horribly sorry for your poor children.

Most children who have nannies and are not food insecure have never felt true hunger . Sending a child to bed " hungry " is fine. They were offered food and refused it.

Yes, easy for a nanny to think she knows better, but unlike parents they don't need to think about a child's well-being long term, just what will work that day. Personally I would not have taken the meal strategy that OP's MB did, but I would fire a nanny who over rode my parenting choices.

And what if the nanny simply does know better? I am devoted to my charge's well-being full time and was taught in graduate school that making mealtimes a battleground was a great way to instill eating disorders.

This is a thread about lines in which a nanny will not cross. As clearly stated by OP, she was willing to be fired for giving her 20 month old charge yogurt and fruit when he was crying from hunger so if she were your nanny she would be happy to accept your firing her. She did the right thing and was willing to suffer the consequences of her convictions.

Good example of an educated and experienced nanny.
Parents who want that, need to pay attention to her advice.
Or put an end to the endless frustration, and get a know nothing sitter.
It'll be much cheaper to!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not taking orders or working as a short-order cook when i nanny, and I tend to follow the "a few things on your plate, at least one of which I know you like." I think the problem is in people - not just parents - not respecting a child's taste. Tastes DO change, and only by offering something two dozen times or so, but if you know your kid doesn't like eggs and you insist on serving them at every consecutive breakfast, I'm going to change it up when I'm working. And in two or three days, eggs will be the central part of the meal again. Then we will do yogurt or oatmeal for a few days. Then eggs. And so on. Really it's about respecting a child's appetite (never making them clear their plates) as well as preferences (don't try to force a food by serving it daily, offer it once or twice a week instead). I can work with pretty much any variation of styles as long as those two deal-breakers are met, because it means a child won't go hungry but also won't start to distrust their own hunger cues.

Agree. Obviously she's another educated and experienced nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids get what I serve and that's it, starting when they start solids. They don't have to eat it, and I offer at least one thing I think they like (but they don't get unlimited quantities of that, either). If they don't eat, however, I don't give them anything else. A kid isn't going to starve who misses a single meal. He'll just eat more at breakfast.

I have learned over the years that my kids usually eat two out of three good meals, and pick at the third, though which one they don't eat may change day to day.

My kids are not picky, and they would not throw that kind of tantrum at 2 years old, because they know they're not getting something else. I would be furious if my nanny started to get them to expect they could "order" something more to their liking!

I also don't tie dessert to eating dinner, however, and dessert is always fruit, so a hungry kid will likely choose a banana or an apple.

I would quit if I worked for you. Like other nannies, I will not send a baby to bed crying and hungry. You give a child three things on his/her plate - one of which you know they like. No one is talking about taking "orders"

You are not winning anything, PP - you are making meal times miserable and stressful. I feel horribly sorry for your poor children.

Most children who have nannies and are not food insecure have never felt true hunger . Sending a child to bed " hungry " is fine. They were offered food and refused it.

Yes, easy for a nanny to think she knows better, but unlike parents they don't need to think about a child's well-being long term, just what will work that day. Personally I would not have taken the meal strategy that OP's MB did, but I would fire a nanny who over rode my parenting choices.

And what if the nanny simply does know better? I am devoted to my charge's well-being full time and was taught in graduate school that making mealtimes a battleground was a great way to instill eating disorders.

This is a thread about lines in which a nanny will not cross. As clearly stated by OP, she was willing to be fired for giving her 20 month old charge yogurt and fruit when he was crying from hunger so if she were your nanny she would be happy to accept your firing her. She did the right thing and was willing to suffer the consequences of her convictions.

Good example of an educated and experienced nanny.
Parents who want that, need to pay attention to her advice.
Or put an end to the endless frustration, and get a know nothing sitter.
It'll be much cheaper to!

Comma lady you are back!! We missed your ranting around here