Invite Nanny to DS's birthday party?

[Anonymous]

What a load of crap. There was a similar, equally stupid thread on this a few months ago. Our kids did not have nannies when they were infants, but did beginning around age 4, so maybe the expectations differ as the kids get older. Nannies never were invited to birthday parties, yet they still stayed with us for years. Don't worry at all about not having your nanny there. Do what you want to do, and ignore the nanny nuts on this forum.

[Anonymous]

No one starts nanny care at age four, unless you mean to say a sitter, to supplement preschool. But nice try, pp.

[Anonymous]

You're very wrong about that. We definitely started at age 4. We've had full time nannies/house managers ever since (now 10 years and counting).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're very wrong about that. We definitely started at age 4. We've had full time nannies/house managers ever since (now 10 years and counting).

When kids are in school fulltime, you may have a housekeeper. Is that what you mean by "house manager"?

[Anonymous]

If you don't know what a nanny/house manager is, then you haven't been in the field very long. Check with any reputable nanny agency and they can tell you what the job entails (and no, it's not a housekeeper).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don't know what a nanny/house manager is, then you haven't been in the field very long. Check with any reputable nanny agency and they can tell you what the job entails (and no, it's not a housekeeper).

Here's a clue for you:
Managers have someone to manage besides themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don't know what a nanny/house manager is, then you haven't been in the field very long. Check with any reputable nanny agency and they can tell you what the job entails (and no, it's not a housekeeper).

Here's a clue for you:
Managers have someone to manage besides themselves.

Here's an even better clue for you: House managers have a HOUSE to manage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don't know what a nanny/house manager is, then you haven't been in the field very long. Check with any reputable nanny agency and they can tell you what the job entails (and no, it's not a housekeeper).

Here's a clue for you:
Managers have someone to manage besides themselves.

Here's an even better clue for you: House managers have a HOUSE to manage.

Otherwise known as housekeeping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don't know what a nanny/house manager is, then you haven't been in the field very long. Check with any reputable nanny agency and they can tell you what the job entails (and no, it's not a housekeeper).

Here's a clue for you:
Managers have someone to manage besides themselves.

Here's an even better clue for you: House managers have a HOUSE to manage.

Otherwise known as housekeeping.

Wow. Have you ever run a household for anyone besides your own self?

We also just started nanny care. Our kids are 1,3,5, and 7. I just recently went back to work full time. Why is that hard to believe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don't know what a nanny/house manager is, then you haven't been in the field very long. Check with any reputable nanny agency and they can tell you what the job entails (and no, it's not a housekeeper).

Here's a clue for you:
Managers have someone to manage besides themselves.

Here's an even better clue for you: House managers have a HOUSE to manage.

Otherwise known as housekeeping.

Wow. Have you ever run a household for anyone besides your own self?

We also just started nanny care. Our kids are 1,3,5, and 7. I just recently went back to work full time. Why is that hard to believe?

What's your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don't know what a nanny/house manager is, then you haven't been in the field very long. Check with any reputable nanny agency and they can tell you what the job entails (and no, it's not a housekeeper).

Here's a clue for you:
Managers have someone to manage besides themselves.

Here's an even better clue for you: House managers have a HOUSE to manage.

Otherwise known as housekeeping.

Wrong again. Our nanny manager doesn't do any housekeeping except for cleaning up the kitchen for kid-prepared meals. You can figure out what a nanny manager does by googling it; it's not hard, go ahead and give it a shot. Our nanny manager manages the day to day running of our house, including the cleaning service that comes in once a week to do the housework you apparently will continue to insist that house managers do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don't know what a nanny/house manager is, then you haven't been in the field very long. Check with any reputable nanny agency and they can tell you what the job entails (and no, it's not a housekeeper).

Here's a clue for you:
Managers have someone to manage besides themselves.

Here's an even better clue for you: House managers have a HOUSE to manage.

Otherwise known as housekeeping.

Wrong again. Our nanny manager doesn't do any housekeeping except for cleaning up the kitchen for kid-prepared meals. You can figure out what a nanny manager does by googling it; it's not hard, go ahead and give it a shot. Our nanny manager manages the day to day running of our house, including the cleaning service that comes in once a week to do the housework you apparently will continue to insist that house managers do.

Bravo! Nanny Managers do NOT do housekeeping!!
Now if only everyone understood that.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, OP, the mistake you made was last year when you invited your nanny to the birthday party. Inviting a nanny to a personal family party blurs the boundaries on both sides. The best thing to do is to encourage the nanny to celebrate your DC's child's birthday during their time together. Provide extra money for a special outing. But don't invite a nanny to a family party, It's inappropriate and sets a precedent clearly evident on this thread, that nannies feel entitled to attend family events and will vilify you and threaten to quit if you don't invite them.

Why would you want anyone with such an attitude and sense of entitlement caring for you child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, the mistake you made was last year when you invited your nanny to the birthday party. Inviting a nanny to a personal family party blurs the boundaries on both sides. The best thing to do is to encourage the nanny to celebrate your DC's child's birthday during their time together. Provide extra money for a special outing. But don't invite a nanny to a family party, It's inappropriate and sets a precedent clearly evident on this thread, that nannies feel entitled to attend family events and will vilify you and threaten to quit if you don't invite them.

Why would you want anyone with such an attitude and sense of entitlement caring for you child?

What an ignorant attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, the mistake you made was last year when you invited your nanny to the birthday party. Inviting a nanny to a personal family party blurs the boundaries on both sides. The best thing to do is to encourage the nanny to celebrate your DC's child's birthday during their time together. Provide extra money for a special outing. But don't invite a nanny to a family party, It's inappropriate and sets a precedent clearly evident on this thread, that nannies feel entitled to attend family events and will vilify you and threaten to quit if you don't invite them.

Why would you want anyone with such an attitude and sense of entitlement caring for you child?

Right. How entitled it is for the woman who wipes your kids butt, kisses his boo boos, fixed his meals, rocked him to sleep, and care for him when sick, all while you were not around, to want to celebrate his birthday with him and the rest of the adults that love him. If she didn't want to attend the birthday party, inevitably someone would say she treats him like a job. Can't have your cake and eat it too. If you want your nanny to love and care for your kid, you shouldn't be surprised when they love her back and want her around. Like it or not, she is family as far as they are concerned.