What to give nanny as severance/parting gift?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny and I was given a photograph of my charge in a frame that said "I Love My Nanny". Honestly, it was one of the nicest gifts I ever received.

Was this also a charge you watched only part time, for less than six months in total?

WTF. Are you ill? Don't you have some parenting tasks to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love a framed photograph of me with my charges. Lovely idea, OP.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny and I was given a photograph of my charge in a frame that said "I Love My Nanny". Honestly, it was one of the nicest gifts I ever received.

Was this also a charge you watched only part time, for less than six months in total?

WTF. Are you ill? Don't you have some parenting tasks to do?

What? I'm a nanny, today is my day off. I've had pictures of charges given to me when positions ended. They might stay out for a year or two, then after that they get replaced by pictures of more current charges, and put in the back of the closet. And these are charges I watched full time for over a year (in most cases for 2-4 years). It's a nice gesture, but ultimately it feels weird to have a picture on display in my home of a child who I haven't seen in two plus years, who I no longer have a relationship with. Yes, I have a special place in my heart for them and I sometimes miss them and certainly think back on our time together fondly, but I don't need a framed picture of them.

[Anonymous]

I think a photo and a cash gift is a nice idea, OP. And that beautiful reference letter. Bless you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny and I was given a photograph of my charge in a frame that said "I Love My Nanny". Honestly, it was one of the nicest gifts I ever received.

Was this also a charge you watched only part time, for less than six months in total?

WTF. Are you ill? Don't you have some parenting tasks to do?

What? I'm a nanny, today is my day off. I've had pictures of charges given to me when positions ended. They might stay out for a year or two, then after that they get replaced by pictures of more current charges, and put in the back of the closet. And these are charges I watched full time for over a year (in most cases for 2-4 years). It's a nice gesture, but ultimately it feels weird to have a picture on display in my home of a child who I haven't seen in two plus years, who I no longer have a relationship with. Yes, I have a special place in my heart for them and I sometimes miss them and certainly think back on our time together fondly, but I don't need a framed picture of them.

I agree with this!! Please don't do this OP. My MB gives me a printed picture of her daughter each year for Christmas. It comes across as cheap and like she couldn't be bothered to actually think of something I'd like. Your nanny likes/loves your kid, but she is not her kid. She does not want a framed picture of her. Go with a gift that is for her, not focussed on you and your family. A gift card and a nice thank you note/reference letter would be fine. I enjoy reading the cards and reference letters I've gotten over the years, but would find it strange to have pictures of unrelated children displayed in my house.

[Anonymous]

When we left our nanny share (where we stayed for one year), the nanny got a reference letter and a $500 gift. She did ask for a photo too but we just didn't get around to it.

[Anonymous]

Forgot to say I did feel a little weird about it afterwards because she never acknowledged it in any way, not even a thank you. I would have thought she didn't get it except i know for a fact that she did.