My nanny is antisocial

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Theres a difference between a "live-in" nanny and a nanny who happens to rent your basement room.

Ok random poster.

[Anonymous]

First of all op she is not antisocial! Being antisocial is a form of psychopathy and a mental illness, think sociopaths. She is just an introvert and may very well be that way because of her living arrangements when she may otherwise not be. Introverts gain energy and feel rejuvenated after having alone time and enjoying their own company. Extroverts gain energy and feel renewed from being around others, talking etc. with her not only working for you and living with you it can cause her to retreat. She may not even feel like seeing others and that's her prerogative. Everyone handles breakups moving and life transitions differently.

But yes please be careful when labeling people as antisocial

[Anonymous]

Just to add another perspective. I'm also an introvert and LOVE my alone time. But since I'm an introvert, I often have a hard time knowing when I'm intruding and when I'm not. I tend to just assume that everyone is like me and wants their alone time, even though logically I know that isn't true. Maybe she doesn't know that you want her to hang out with you? My suggestion would be to let her know. Tell her that she is welcome to hang out with you more and that you would welcome it! She might feel a bit out of place if she just moved in (even if that seems strange to you after her being there all day, it's a possibility because boundaries change a bit at that point). So invite her to be social. If she still chooses to spend her time alone, then let her be. Don't push the issue. It's probably exactly what she needs to recharge.