I am so sick of self-centered parents

[Anonymous]

I had a candidate who did not read my ad (I wanted Monday, Wednesday Friday nanny) and showed up wondering if she can work Wed-Fri b/c she has another gig on Mondays and Tuesdays. She pointedly said "You didn't say there was a requirement to be available Monday, Wednesday and Friday" and I didn't want to make an ugly scene and say "UH, YEAH, THERE WAS, YOU OBVIOUSLY DIDN'T READ MY AD." I just said "sorry about your trouble. Thanks for coming here," and ended it pleasantly. She was pretty PO'ed at me for wasting her time but she is the one who wasted my time and my husband's time. We had both left work early to make time to meet this woman. And it was all for naught because she did not read our ad. She thought we made her drive about 10 miles to our house at our self-centered throughlessness for others. But she is the one who should've been sorry. I tried hard not to make a scene when she was being accusatory.

Thing is, people make mistakes. It does not make them a terrible person. You move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's kind of rude but keep in mind she is probably dealing with 50+ applicants. Just because you asked that question before doesn't mean she will remember who asked what question.

It is kind of a bit self centered for you to call her out on this forum as self centered. It was not a huge huge mistake that needs to be called out here. I think you are a problem nanny and if not this, then something else will make you think she is a horrible horrible MB and have you posting about it here.

Actually you're wrong. She is my dealing with 50+ applicants. They posted a job which I didn't see right away. A week later they found my profile and reached out. We had a lengthy phone interview. She remembered exactly what we spoke about in the phone interview, and remembered specifics. She said try narrowed their phone search to 5 people and I'm one of four in-person interviews. She even started the conversation off with " I know you said you aren't interested in a nanny share, but..."

She deliberately withheld this information and wasted my time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She thought you might be a good enough nanny with a reasonable rate to sway her off of the share but then you came in with your bad attitude, questionable experience and sky high demands and she decided to stick with the share. Sorry but what did you expect?

You're way off base. If you read my intro, you would know that we talked via phone before setting up an interview, MB and DB both said they didn't have any interest in a nanny share. That was one of my preliminary questions. I told them straight up that I was not interested in that type of arrangement. They agreed they weren't either and wanted their son to be the only child the baby cared for.

The phone interview was three weeks ago. Then they canceled twice on me - we rescheduled. MB told me in the interview they found about this share arrangement last week, which was before they set an interview. They could of told me the situation has changed and they are now contemplating pursuing a share. Instead they set up the interview ( after canceling twice) deliberately waiting to tell me about the share in the interview, when they knew I was against it. MB asked " Lara, is it a deal breaker". They knew it was a deal breaker in the beginning of the process.

I came in happy, wonderful experience, and no demands. I happen to be well recommended. All I ask is for honesty and respect. That shouldn't be too hard.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She thought you might be a good enough nanny with a reasonable rate to sway her off of the share but then you came in with your bad attitude, questionable experience and sky high demands and she decided to stick with the share. Sorry but what did you expect?

You're way off base. If you read my intro, you would know that we talked via phone before setting up an interview, MB and DB both said they didn't have any interest in a nanny share. That was one of my preliminary questions. I told them straight up that I was not interested in that type of arrangement. They agreed they weren't either and wanted their son to be the only child the baby cared for.

The phone interview was three weeks ago. Then they canceled twice on me - we rescheduled. MB told me in the interview they found about this share arrangement last week, which was before they set an interview. They could of told me the situation has changed and they are now contemplating pursuing a share. Instead they set up the interview ( after canceling twice) deliberately waiting to tell me about the share in the interview, when they knew I was against it. MB asked " Lara, is it a deal breaker". They knew it was a deal breaker in the beginning of the process.

I came in happy, wonderful experience, and no demands. I happen to be well recommended. All I ask is for honesty and respect. That shouldn't be too hard.

* nanny cared for

She has every right to change her mind, but setting up the interview at the third attempt, knowing the situation had changed, is thoughtless on their part. She could of easily said " Lara. I know we discussed that a nanny share was something we weren't interested in. In this past week, our areas mentors has shifted, and we are considering a nanny share with a family close by. Would you still be open to coming for an interview?"

That's it folks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's kind of rude but keep in mind she is probably dealing with 50+ applicants. Just because you asked that question before doesn't mean she will remember who asked what question.

It is kind of a bit self centered for you to call her out on this forum as self centered. It was not a huge huge mistake that needs to be called out here. I think you are a problem nanny and if not this, then something else will make you think she is a horrible horrible MB and have you posting about it here.

Actually you're wrong. She is my dealing with 50+ applicants. They posted a job which I didn't see right away. A week later they found my profile and reached out. We had a lengthy phone interview. She remembered exactly what we spoke about in the phone interview, and remembered specifics. She said try narrowed their phone search to 5 people and I'm one of four in-person interviews. She even started the conversation off with " I know you said you aren't interested in a nanny share, but..."

She deliberately withheld this information and wasted my time.

4 or 5 people is still a lot to keep track of while probably working and being mom. I get confused when I have to interview 2 people. She probably didn't know that you were that adverse to shares at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's kind of rude but keep in mind she is probably dealing with 50+ applicants. Just because you asked that question before doesn't mean she will remember who asked what question.

It is kind of a bit self centered for you to call her out on this forum as self centered. It was not a huge huge mistake that needs to be called out here. I think you are a problem nanny and if not this, then something else will make you think she is a horrible horrible MB and have you posting about it here.

Actually you're wrong. She is my dealing with 50+ applicants. They posted a job which I didn't see right away. A week later they found my profile and reached out. We had a lengthy phone interview. She remembered exactly what we spoke about in the phone interview, and remembered specifics. She said try narrowed their phone search to 5 people and I'm one of four in-person interviews. She even started the conversation off with " I know you said you aren't interested in a nanny share, but..."

She deliberately withheld this information and wasted my time.

4 or 5 people is still a lot to keep track of while probably working and being mom. I get confused when I have to interview 2 people. She probably didn't know that you were that adverse to shares at all.

Do you read at all? I wrote how she picked out specifics from our phone interview. She took diligent notes during our phone interview and in the interview. Some people aren't scattered brained like you.

[Anonymous]

I hope you told her OP. She is a dickhead.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's kind of rude but keep in mind she is probably dealing with 50+ applicants. Just because you asked that question before doesn't mean she will remember who asked what question.

It is kind of a bit self centered for you to call her out on this forum as self centered. It was not a huge huge mistake that needs to be called out here. I think you are a problem nanny and if not this, then something else will make you think she is a horrible horrible MB and have you posting about it here.

Actually you're wrong. She is my dealing with 50+ applicants. They posted a job which I didn't see right away. A week later they found my profile and reached out. We had a lengthy phone interview. She remembered exactly what we spoke about in the phone interview, and remembered specifics. She said try narrowed their phone search to 5 people and I'm one of four in-person interviews. She even started the conversation off with " I know you said you aren't interested in a nanny share, but..."

She deliberately withheld this information and wasted my time.

4 or 5 people is still a lot to keep track of while probably working and being mom. I get confused when I have to interview 2 people. She probably didn't know that you were that adverse to shares at all.

Do you read at all? I wrote how she picked out specifics from our phone interview. She took diligent notes during our phone interview and in the interview. Some people aren't scattered brained like you.

So she wasted your time by wasting an equal amount of her time? I think she did well not picking you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's not self-centered.

Sound like the mom has a half-baked idea about maybe doing a share and you have. Knee-jerk response to something that very well might not even happen. At least you got some interview practice. Lots of people "waste time" interviewing awful candidates or for poor fit jobs. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's kind of rude but keep in mind she is probably dealing with 50+ applicants. Just because you asked that question before doesn't mean she will remember who asked what question.

It is kind of a bit self centered for you to call her out on this forum as self centered. It was not a huge huge mistake that needs to be called out here. I think you are a problem nanny and if not this, then something else will make you think she is a horrible horrible MB and have you posting about it here.

Actually you're wrong. She is my dealing with 50+ applicants. They posted a job which I didn't see right away. A week later they found my profile and reached out. We had a lengthy phone interview. She remembered exactly what we spoke about in the phone interview, and remembered specifics. She said try narrowed their phone search to 5 people and I'm one of four in-person interviews. She even started the conversation off with " I know you said you aren't interested in a nanny share, but..."

She deliberately withheld this information and wasted my time.

4 or 5 people is still a lot to keep track of while probably working and being mom. I get confused when I have to interview 2 people. She probably didn't know that you were that adverse to shares at all.

Do you read at all? I wrote how she picked out specifics from our phone interview. She took diligent notes during our phone interview and in the interview. Some people aren't scattered brained like you.

I bet your interview time pales in comparison to how much time you waste in dcum. Good luck finding a job that you like for longer than a few weeks.

[Anonymous]

I love when a nanny does something wrong she is immediately shamed and told to be fired. Yet a parent is in the wrong and it's then just making tiny mistakes or figuring out what's best for them.

I've had great jobs and actually rarely go on here, pp. My longest position lasted for 6 years. I've never had a position last less than a year. I'm fine. Worry about your job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's kind of rude but keep in mind she is probably dealing with 50+ applicants. Just because you asked that question before doesn't mean she will remember who asked what question.

It is kind of a bit self centered for you to call her out on this forum as self centered. It was not a huge huge mistake that needs to be called out here. I think you are a problem nanny and if not this, then something else will make you think she is a horrible horrible MB and have you posting about it here.

Actually you're wrong. She is my dealing with 50+ applicants. They posted a job which I didn't see right away. A week later they found my profile and reached out. We had a lengthy phone interview. She remembered exactly what we spoke about in the phone interview, and remembered specifics. She said try narrowed their phone search to 5 people and I'm one of four in-person interviews. She even started the conversation off with " I know you said you aren't interested in a nanny share, but..."

She deliberately withheld this information and wasted my time.

4 or 5 people is still a lot to keep track of while probably working and being mom. I get confused when I have to interview 2 people. She probably didn't know that you were that adverse to shares at all.

Do you read at all? I wrote how she picked out specifics from our phone interview. She took diligent notes during our phone interview and in the interview. Some people aren't scattered brained like you.

Wow OP. You strike quite the lovely tone just now. And again and again.
Are you sure you're suited for any degree of childcare? You seem to have a very abrasive, testy attitude problem.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. Sorry if I am coming off abrasive and testy. I hate when trolls on this site try to stir things up and just like everyone, I got upset. I still think what this family did was rude and careless. I'm actually someone who never gets upset at this unless I feel I'm disrespected. I've worked with several LT families and do quite well. My annoyance is show on here for the lack of comprehension by some posters, but I'm not like this normally.

[Anonymous]

Interesting, then, that you ignored my 14:13 post. Too reasonable for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interesting, then, that you ignored my 14:13 post. Too reasonable for you?

She also ignored my post (1:09, mostly commiserating). It seems she wants to pick a fight.