Do you think less of parents who hire non-English speaking nannies?

[Anonymous]

There is a huge difference between someone who speaks spotty English and someone who speaks NO English. I don't judge the former, but no matter how good her references were, I would never hire someone to care for my children long-term who did not share a language with me or my spouse. There would be no way for us to work together with her as a team. I do not want someone who can adequately supervise my children, I want someone who can support me and my spouse in parenting our children and be part of our team. There is no way to create that without but no matter how good her references were, I would never hire someone to care for my children long-term who did not share a language with me or my spouse. There would be no way for us to work together with her as a team. I do not want someone who can adequately supervise my children, I want someone who can support me and my spouse in parenting our children as a team. It is not possible to create a unified parenting team when one member does not share a language with the others. It is not that I think non-English speakers lack skill. I am sure that many non-English speaking nannies are excellent at what they do. But there is no way that they could tailor their skills to support my family. I absolutely judge anyone who would prioritize the luxury of having a nanny as their source of childcare over the ability to be in communication with the person who is spending all day with their child. Anyone who doesn't feel they need to communicate with that person is opting to be checked out of their child's life on purpose

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a huge difference between someone who speaks spotty English and someone who speaks NO English. I don't judge the former, but no matter how good her references were, I would never hire someone to care for my children long-term who did not share a language with me or my spouse. There would be no way for us to work together with her as a team. I do not want someone who can adequately supervise my children, I want someone who can support me and my spouse in parenting our children and be part of our team. There is no way to create that without but no matter how good her references were, I would never hire someone to care for my children long-term who did not share a language with me or my spouse. There would be no way for us to work together with her as a team. I do not want someone who can adequately supervise my children, I want someone who can support me and my spouse in parenting our children as a team. It is not possible to create a unified parenting team when one member does not share a language with the others. It is not that I think non-English speakers lack skill. I am sure that many non-English speaking nannies are excellent at what they do. But there is no way that they could tailor their skills to support my family. I absolutely judge anyone who would prioritize the luxury of having a nanny as their source of childcare over the ability to be in communication with the person who is spending all day with their child. Anyone who doesn't feel they need to communicate with that person is opting to be checked out of their child's life on purpose

Word. I worked with a woman who had a Spanish-only speaking nanny, and two little kids. One day one of the kids were sick, and my coworker called home to see how the sick toddler was. She was speaking with the preschooler and I heard her yelling "NO, TELL HER NO!" Apparently my coworker overheard the nanny coaxing the toddler to take medicine but it wasn't time for it. The nanny didn't understand the instructions.

[Anonymous]

i don't judge parents who hire non-English speakers if the non-English speaker can UNDERSTAND the parents (even if not comfortable speaking the language). I was rather appalled at a next door neighbor who had hired an Indian nanny from a caste that was not "allowed" to learn to read or write, and the nanny spoke little to no English. How in the world could that nanny communicate with anyone in case of an emergency? It's not like there are a slew of 911 operators fluent in her specific Indian dialect ready to answer the call, and in addition to that, the nanny literally could not recognize the numbers 911 in order to make the phone call. Now THAT is a case where I assumed the parents were paying the woman next to nothing and didn't care so much about the safety issues.