Nineteen-month-old male charge like to play with a baby doll at the library playroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my DB many years ago wouldnt let his son wear his sisters headband when he was 2, or read him a Madeline book of his sisters when he was 3 or 4 because it was a girls book.
Now many years have passed and guess who is gay! The DD, not the DS.

I still laugh about this.

When would your laugh how awful for that family.

Okay, first - work on your English. Second, having a gay child is no more "awful" than having a left-handed child or a child who is a genius. They are not the norm (as in average) but it is neither good nor bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow...His father sounds homophobic to me. And very old-fashioned.

I do not agree with his view on this. If they want to, young boys should be allowed to play with baby dolls and baby strollers too. Why? Because caring for babies is not something that only little girls should pretend to do.

Boys will grow up into men who need to learn how to be great fathers. Why should little girls only be the ones allowed to play being a parent....??! Parenting works both ways for both genders.

However, that being said...Since the father specifically instructed you to not allow his son to play with dolls and was 100% serious in telling you this, as his employee you are obligated to do as you are told. Technically he is your boss and he is the one who gives you a paycheck so in spite of your personal feelings about this, you are obligated to comply with his wishes or seek a new position.

While I highly disagree with his personal view on boys playing with dolls, as his employee I would do as instructed for the sake of my job integrity.

Good luck.

Yes, this. An explicit request from an employer is not something that should be explicitly ignored unless you are willing (even asking) to be fired for violating the clear request.

But I would also be sure to talk to the mother.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I would ignore his "request". He said he didn't want his son playing with dolls. So what? I don't want my landlord to raise my rent and I don't want chocolate cake to be fattening. We all do not get what we want.

DB is a ass. Let the child play with the toys he wants to play with. His interest in dolls will be over in a few weeks anyway. Nothing to shame or upset a toddler about.

[Anonymous]

If my DH ever said anything so stupid, I would hope our nanny would tell me. If she didn't I would hope that she certainly wouldn't shame or embarrass my child by pulling away a toy he wanted to play with because "boys don't play with dolls" or some-such-nonsense!

When the choice is "disobey" my husband or potentially hurt my kid there is no contest! You let my boy play with that baby doll.

[Anonymous]

I know moms who feel the same way about allowing their daughters to babysit. (It might make them dumb.)

That's exactly why they'll need a nanny to show them how to hold their first baby. So very sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my DB many years ago wouldnt let his son wear his sisters headband when he was 2, or read him a Madeline book of his sisters when he was 3 or 4 because it was a girls book.
Now many years have passed and guess who is gay! The DD, not the DS.

I still laugh about this.

When would your laugh how awful for that family.

Okay, first - work on your English. Second, having a gay child is no more "awful" than having a left-handed child or a child who is a genius. They are not the norm (as in average) but it is neither good nor bad.

It's called auto correct. And knowing your child will burn in hell is pretty awful if you ask me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my DH ever said anything so stupid, I would hope our nanny would tell me. If she didn't I would hope that she certainly wouldn't shame or embarrass my child by pulling away a toy he wanted to play with because "boys don't play with dolls" or some-such-nonsense!

When the choice is "disobey" my husband or potentially hurt my kid there is no contest! You let my boy play with that baby doll.

Shame / embarrass um really? She might upset / piss your son off but she is not shaming him. Screaming stop it faggot yep that's shaming but not taking away a doll. And let's be honest he shouldn't play with it.

[Anonymous]

Of course little boys should play with dolls, equally as much as little girls should build with blocks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my DB many years ago wouldnt let his son wear his sisters headband when he was 2, or read him a Madeline book of his sisters when he was 3 or 4 because it was a girls book.
Now many years have passed and guess who is gay! The DD, not the DS.

I still laugh about this.

When would your laugh how awful for that family.

Okay, first - work on your English. Second, having a gay child is no more "awful" than having a left-handed child or a child who is a genius. They are not the norm (as in average) but it is neither good nor bad.

It's called auto correct. And knowing your child will burn in hell is pretty awful if you ask me.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my DH ever said anything so stupid, I would hope our nanny would tell me. If she didn't I would hope that she certainly wouldn't shame or embarrass my child by pulling away a toy he wanted to play with because "boys don't play with dolls" or some-such-nonsense!

When the choice is "disobey" my husband or potentially hurt my kid there is no contest! You let my boy play with that baby doll.

Shame / embarrass um really? She might upset / piss your son off but she is not shaming him. Screaming stop it faggot yep that's shaming but not taking away a doll. And let's be honest he shouldn't play with it.

You are a total fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my DB many years ago wouldnt let his son wear his sisters headband when he was 2, or read him a Madeline book of his sisters when he was 3 or 4 because it was a girls book.
Now many years have passed and guess who is gay! The DD, not the DS.

I still laugh about this.

When would your laugh how awful for that family.

Okay, first - work on your English. Second, having a gay child is no more "awful" than having a left-handed child or a child who is a genius. They are not the norm (as in average) but it is neither good nor bad.

It's called auto correct. And knowing your child will burn in hell is pretty awful if you ask me.

Dear God, I hope you aren't a nanny because you are CRAZY.

[Anonymous]

Ha, religion makes people CRAZY!

OP, I'd just ignore him this time and if something like this gets brought up again, then approach MB on how to move forward.

[Anonymous]

Seriously? DB is not going to drop in at the library unexpectedly to see if he's playing with dolls, and some random friend who's "spying" there is not going to tell him the nanny let him do it. DB may not want the kid to play with dolls but is not going to give it major thought at this level.

OP, I think you did exactly the right thing. You stood up for what you believe and made it in a respectful manner that this was normal behavior and that you weren't comfortable with DB's position. He didn't say, "You're wrong. You absolutely need to stop this." It sounds like he said, "I don't want him to do it."

That's fine -- he can have that opinion. But based on this, unless DB pushes it again and specifically notes concerns about it, I would just let it go and do my normal thing. Let the kid play with the doll and forget about it.

If DB shows further concern, just redirect the kid to do the same thing with a stuffed animal instead of a doll. Same general concept but less "doll" issue.

[Anonymous]

Some parents simply have no clue.

[Anonymous]

I am the PP that posted about the DD being gay and not the son that DB worried about, well not worried exactly, but didnt want playing with girly things.
There is nothing you can do about your kid being gay, if they are gay they are gay, thats the way it is. You can either support them or ostracize them.

What I laugh about is the irony, so many Dads dont want their boys being perceived as girly or feminine, The boys grow up to be straight and then the sisters are gay.
I am gay and my Dad was the same.
Apparently when we were little my brother wanted to push my stroller and doll around. My Dad didnt like this so brought my brother a wheelbarrow to push around.
My brother is straight and im gay...................irony.