Where do I find backup care for when nanny is out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - 22:51 - why do you assume I'm not the mom most of the time or that working parents don't "step up?" The reason I'm so pressed for backup care is because I only work 20 hours per week so the time I'm there I really need to be there if at all possible. Also, as I said in the original post I don't get paid if I don't work so while we're still paying our nanny for that time because we respect her guaranteed hours, I'm not bringing in any income to offset that. I also take plenty of sick days when my kids are sick since they usually prefer to stay home with me, even though they love our nanny. Not everyone has an unlimited amount of sick time to spread out between myself, two kids and now another adult. Your comments are nasty and unnecessary. I don't know whether you're a nanny or an MB but I hope you don't talk to your children with that judgmental assuming tone.

Wow you only work 20 hours a week and you need all this help??? My mother and father both worked 50 hours a week and never had a nanny or sitter or backup. The current generation of parents is so lazy, it's no wonder all these overweight under-achieving kids are the result =/

Eh, when I was six I stayed home alone after school for two hours after letting myself into the house. That's illegal now. So it's not impressive that your parents worked a lot and never had a nanny or babysitter.

[Anonymous]

Make friends with your neighbors and other people.

But you need to do favors for them too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - 22:51 - why do you assume I'm not the mom most of the time or that working parents don't "step up?" The reason I'm so pressed for backup care is because I only work 20 hours per week so the time I'm there I really need to be there if at all possible. Also, as I said in the original post I don't get paid if I don't work so while we're still paying our nanny for that time because we respect her guaranteed hours, I'm not bringing in any income to offset that. I also take plenty of sick days when my kids are sick since they usually prefer to stay home with me, even though they love our nanny. Not everyone has an unlimited amount of sick time to spread out between myself, two kids and now another adult. Your comments are nasty and unnecessary. I don't know whether you're a nanny or an MB but I hope you don't talk to your children with that judgmental assuming tone.

Wow you only work 20 hours a week and you need all this help??? My mother and father both worked 50 hours a week and never had a nanny or sitter or backup. The current generation of parents is so lazy, it's no wonder all these overweight under-achieving kids are the result =/

huh? so both parents worked out of the house 50 hours and had NO care? if someone works out of their home they need care - doesn't matter if it's not full time. jesus!

OP - ignore these posters!! They are just trolls or probably bitter nannies. We have backup care thru work but it is BH Advantage and doesn't require the 24 hour notice. I would probably talk to your nanny about also giving you a little more notice. My nanny usually texts me the night before giving me the heads up so we can start working on a plan. But I would also recommend your neighborhood list serve as well as see if there are other neighborhood moms who employ a nanny that you could potentially set up a backup share relationship in case's like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - 22:51 - why do you assume I'm not the mom most of the time or that working parents don't "step up?" The reason I'm so pressed for backup care is because I only work 20 hours per week so the time I'm there I really need to be there if at all possible. Also, as I said in the original post I don't get paid if I don't work so while we're still paying our nanny for that time because we respect her guaranteed hours, I'm not bringing in any income to offset that. I also take plenty of sick days when my kids are sick since they usually prefer to stay home with me, even though they love our nanny. Not everyone has an unlimited amount of sick time to spread out between myself, two kids and now another adult. Your comments are nasty and unnecessary. I don't know whether you're a nanny or an MB but I hope you don't talk to your children with that judgmental assuming tone.

Wow you only work 20 hours a week and you need all this help??? My mother and father both worked 50 hours a week and never had a nanny or sitter or backup. The current generation of parents is so lazy, it's no wonder all these overweight under-achieving kids are the result =/

huh? so both parents worked out of the house 50 hours and had NO care? if someone works out of their home they need care - doesn't matter if it's not full time. jesus!

OP - ignore these posters!! They are just trolls or probably bitter nannies. We have backup care thru work but it is BH Advantage and doesn't require the 24 hour notice. I would probably talk to your nanny about also giving you a little more notice. My nanny usually texts me the night before giving me the heads up so we can start working on a plan. But I would also recommend your neighborhood list serve as well as see if there are other neighborhood moms who employ a nanny that you could potentially set up a backup share relationship in case's like this?

You could offer to reciprocate on a weekend if an at-home parent helps you out.

[Anonymous]

My MB and I have an agreement that if I think I will be too sick to come in the morning, I give her a call the night before or as soon as I realise I probably won't make it. Gives her a bit more time to find back up.

Another option for back up care is your nanny's friends - depending on how outgoing she is and how established her nanny circle is, she might know of another nanny who wouldn't mind taking the kids for a day or part of the day while her own kids are in daycare, if her employer doesn't mind, of course. The bright side of this is the kids would probably already know this person from the playground/library/etc and she comes recommended by your nanny who you trust. It's also a good opportunity to meet other parents and possibly offer to host their children in case of emergency as well.

Back up care is stressful, good luck for the future, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Re: backup care, at some point in your childs life you WILL have to step up and be the mom. When nanny is out maybe you should take a sick day.

Being the MOM means putting food on the table and a roof over the kids head.