Is it crappy to quit with no notice?

[Anonymous]

They would let you go with know notice families do it all the time.

[Anonymous]

MB here - I don't know what babywise is but it's definitely crappy to give no notice. I know some MB's do it to but that doesn't make it right either so let's not encourage a wrong for a wrong. There are plenty of us out there who would never do that. Please try to work it out with your new family to start a bit later so you can give proper time to the family you're leaving. Honestly as a the MB you're ultimately going to work for, it would make me respect you much more if you told me you needed to be fair to the current family. That signals to me that you're a professional and you're not going to leave me too if something better comes along (not saying you would, but just that once someone has done it once, I would be worried they would again).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here - I don't know what babywise is but it's definitely crappy to give no notice. I know some MB's do it to but that doesn't make it right either so let's not encourage a wrong for a wrong. There are plenty of us out there who would never do that. Please try to work it out with your new family to start a bit later so you can give proper time to the family you're leaving. Honestly as a the MB you're ultimately going to work for, it would make me respect you much more if you told me you needed to be fair to the current family. That signals to me that you're a professional and you're not going to leave me too if something better comes along (not saying you would, but just that once someone has done it once, I would be worried they would again).

Can you please educate the 90% of nanny employers who don't care?

The American Academy of Pediatrics has warned parents AGAINST using Babywise, for good reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here - I don't know what babywise is but it's definitely crappy to give no notice. I know some MB's do it to but that doesn't make it right either so let's not encourage a wrong for a wrong. There are plenty of us out there who would never do that. Please try to work it out with your new family to start a bit later so you can give proper time to the family you're leaving. Honestly as a the MB you're ultimately going to work for, it would make me respect you much more if you told me you needed to be fair to the current family. That signals to me that you're a professional and you're not going to leave me too if something better comes along (not saying you would, but just that once someone has done it once, I would be worried they would again).

Can you please educate the 90% of nanny employers who don't care?

The American Academy of Pediatrics has warned parents AGAINST using Babywise, for good reason.

Just stop. I don't like Babywise either, but that is NOT why the nanny is quitting. You are just trying to rationalize her being crappy by quitting with no notice.

[Anonymous]

OP quit the job with NO quilt. It's life. You got better offer you take it. No one gives a shit about us, nannies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Essentially it will be a weeks notice but they will be going on vacation next week. Overall this position has been okay, definitely not great. This position was short-term until early July. I've been with them 6 weeks. For starters they are nice people and do treat me nicely but MB switches between being helicopter and distant, they practice BabyWise on a 14 week old ( since 6wks), and it's just not the best fit.

I got an offer this morning from a former MB who I have a great relationship with. She is looking for a 2-3 year nanny for their 12 week old. Originally they settled on daycare but MB wants a nanny and me. I really want to take it ( same hours, same pay) but I feel so crappy giving almost no notice for to parents who haven't done much wrong.

I would leave with no remorse if it had been difficult or leave happily if I was able to give the proper 2 weeks. I am torn on what to do. Plz give me advice?!

Give two weeks notice (including the vacation week - not two weeks beyond their vacation week). Your new employers will understand and respect you for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Essentially it will be a weeks notice but they will be going on vacation next week. Overall this position has been okay, definitely not great. This position was short-term until early July. I've been with them 6 weeks. For starters they are nice people and do treat me nicely but MB switches between being helicopter and distant, they practice BabyWise on a 14 week old ( since 6wks), and it's just not the best fit.

I got an offer this morning from a former MB who I have a great relationship with. She is looking for a 2-3 year nanny for their 12 week old. Originally they settled on daycare but MB wants a nanny and me. I really want to take it ( same hours, same pay) but I feel so crappy giving almost no notice for to parents who haven't done much wrong.

I would leave with no remorse if it had been difficult or leave happily if I was able to give the proper 2 weeks. I am torn on what to do. Plz give me advice?!

Let them know immediately, and don't let anyone on here make you feel guilty. I've taken the high road for 15 hears, and know that some MB's can be extremely callous about giving you notice. You have to look out for yourself. I'm too trusting and have learned the hard way. Everything happens for a reason.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

God, I feel like quitting today with no notice at all. Just walking away and never looking back. My MB is such a PITA and so transparently passive-aggressive.

But I would never do that. I just couldn't do it and live with myself. Give two weeks notice, OP, and tell them today.

[Anonymous]

It is, of course, tremendously unprofessional to quit this way OP and you obviously know that.

Short of your current employers violating the terms of your contract, or creating a hostile or dangerous working environment, there isn't justification for you behaving poorly.

Lots of people in the world will fail to live up to your standards, that doesn't give you license to do the same.

[Anonymous]

Considering the fact that the new family hasn't really done anything wrong here, I would give them at least two weeks notice of leave. You do not have to state a reason for leaving, but if they want one you can simply state that it just doesn't seem like a mutual fit for you or if that is awkward, you can always lie + say something else.

Can you ask the new family you are going to work for if they would give you a few extra weeks to start so that you can give adequate notice in your current position?

Barring an emergency, I see no reason why they couldn't. Plus it would show them that you are really a considerate as well as fair nanny.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I've employed a temp nanny and anyone who bothers to think about it realizes this is a very plausible outcome when you're not offering job security to some one. Unless you've hired a college student on summer break, most temp nannies would prefer a full-time, long-term job. It's rare to find some one who has an employment gap that 100% lines up with your childcare gap, so you're both kind of taking a gamble that you'll both stick to the end date and something else won't come through sooner. As the employer, all you can do is offer a completion bonus in hopes that it will motivate the temp to stay on board until the end.

OP, it is somewhat crappy but also not unexpected. If you have the flexibility, try to provide more notice. Perhaps your new employer would allow you to run it like a nanny share for the first week or two?

[Anonymous]

For the love of mercy, please quit this job and stop posting about it! How can you say they've done nothing wrong when all you do is complain about this job? And you see their parenting method as child abuse! Just quit. However, be sure that the new family is now certain about using a nanny. You don't want to take the job only to have them change their minds again.

[Anonymous]

No crappier than MB letting you go with no notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No crappier than MB letting you go with no notice.

Which is not what is happening here so this is irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

What the hell is baby wise and is his something that should raise a red flag?