Chronically late nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask her if she can please come 5-10 minutes early, and see what she says... and does.

You have to pay for that. I hate people who think they can just ask nanny to come 10 minutes early and pay the same rate. That extra 10 minutes is equal to an hour of overtime or I quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny, who was very punctual when she started with us, is now late at least 10 minutes and often much more every day. How do I broach this with her in a way that won't create resentment? We really like her otherwise.

I give to my boss 15 minutes everyday,but she's always come home late and never pay me for that and never say sorry,I thinking very serious to liave them,why I got early there and they never coming on time?

[Anonymous]

After 18 months, our nanny has never once been late. Never. I would talk to your nanny, OP, and tell her that her agreed upon start time is important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny, who was very punctual when she started with us, is now late at least 10 minutes and often much more every day. How do I broach this with her in a way that won't create resentment? We really like her otherwise.

I give to my boss 15 minutes everyday,but she's always come home late and never pay me for that and never say sorry,I thinking very serious to liave them,why I got early there and they never coming on time?

Your employers are taking advantage of your kindness.
Look for a better job, because these people don't care about you.

[Anonymous]

I would mention it casually to the nanny but also in a situation where you have a chance to really sit down and have a nice chat -- not a case where one of you is rushing in or out or the kid is screaming in the background.

I would say what the PP suggested that 10 minutes may not seem like a lot but that it throws off your commute and that you need her help getting there right on time so that you can leave on time. Maybe she's been getting the message from you that you don't care if she's there on time, so telling her will help.

My guess is that it's just been a long winter and she's gotten into the habit of leaving a bit later than is ideal. Maybe as the weather gets nicer, she'll be more on time. But I would definitely address it. I take my kid to preschool and have found myself consistently being late by about 5 minutes this winter -- and so are most of the parents. I think people are just burnt out right now. But a reminder helps a lot. I set a personal deadline for when to leave in the morning now, and now we've been on time the past few weeks. It just takes a little extra commitment.

Or maybe something is really wrong or she's struggling with something. Approach is with genuine interest in her life and what's happening, and you might be surprised at how useful the conversation is.

You sound like a nice person who likes her nanny and is working hard not to make it seem like you're being overly demanding. But you are the boss, and she should be on time. It's much better to address this now with a pleasant, casual conversation than for you to start to resent it and get angry at her over time when she might not even understand why.

[Anonymous]

I am a person who HATES to be late for anything, yet I encounter weeks where I am just late for EVERYTHING, despite my attempts to leave early (or at the same time as usual). It just happens and I feel awful every time.

Unless this is something that has been going on consistently for a while, maybe chalk it up to a fluke. Remind her that she needs to be on time and go from there. She is likely aware of the fact that she is late and is probably embarrassed about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a person who HATES to be late for anything, yet I encounter weeks where I am just late for EVERYTHING, despite my attempts to leave early (or at the same time as usual). It just happens and I feel awful every time.

Unless this is something that has been going on consistently for a while, maybe chalk it up to a fluke. Remind her that she needs to be on time and go from there. She is likely aware of the fact that she is late and is probably embarrassed about it.

Including your job? That just isn't ok. No employer should be expected to put up with that. A day here and there - sure. A day day because of a traffic nightmare - sure. But weeks of lateness just because? Not ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a person who HATES to be late for anything, yet I encounter weeks where I am just late for EVERYTHING, despite my attempts to leave early (or at the same time as usual). It just happens and I feel awful every time.

Unless this is something that has been going on consistently for a while, maybe chalk it up to a fluke. Remind her that she needs to be on time and go from there. She is likely aware of the fact that she is late and is probably embarrassed about it.

Including your job? That just isn't ok. No employer should be expected to put up with that. A day here and there - sure. A day day because of a traffic nightmare - sure. But weeks of lateness just because? Not ok.

Of course that is how it would be read on this site. Geez, people really do just think everyone is the worst. I meant weeks here and there, not weeks at a time. And yes, I realize employers should not have to "put up with" 3-4 minutes of tardiness consistently, but there are just times that it seems to happen a few days in a row. Fortunately, I work for people who are understanding of the human condition (I am no longer a nanny), and don't flip out over a few minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a person who HATES to be late for anything, yet I encounter weeks where I am just late for EVERYTHING, despite my attempts to leave early (or at the same time as usual). It just happens and I feel awful every time.

Unless this is something that has been going on consistently for a while, maybe chalk it up to a fluke. Remind her that she needs to be on time and go from there. She is likely aware of the fact that she is late and is probably embarrassed about it.

Including your job? That just isn't ok. No employer should be expected to put up with that. A day here and there - sure. A day day because of a traffic nightmare - sure. But weeks of lateness just because? Not ok.

Of course that is how it would be read on this site. Geez, people really do just think everyone is the worst. I meant weeks here and there, not weeks at a time. And yes, I realize employers should not have to "put up with" 3-4 minutes of tardiness consistently, but there are just times that it seems to happen a few days in a row. Fortunately, I work for people who are understanding of the human condition (I am no longer a nanny), and don't flip out over a few minutes.

I am not sure the human condition entails "much more than 10 minutes" tardiness "every day". sounds more like the nanny is disorganized and does not make an effort to be on time.

[Anonymous]

She's late. Make a point of it, and remind her of her start time.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she doesn't care.

[Anonymous]

Our nannies is always on time and frankly drives in earlier and chats at Starbucks or on her phone before getting in the door right at 8am.

Remind your nanny of the start time and that you may have calls, meetings,etc. Many days right at 8:30 or whatnot and cannot be late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask her if she can please come 5-10 minutes early, and see what she says... and does.

You have to pay for that. I hate people who think they can just ask nanny to come 10 minutes early and pay the same rate. That extra 10 minutes is equal to an hour of overtime or I quit.

So then you agree that the nanny should fulfill her contract and be ready to go at on time. Or do you "hate" to hear that too.