Anonymous wrote:My charge is a 9 week old. The parents ( mostly the mom) is selfish in my eyes. Since 3 weeks old they have started CIO for naps/sleep. Their reason is " I don't want I have to rock my baby to sleep for ever when he's older or make him spoiled". Now don't get me wrong..I am a CIO and self-soothing advocate, but for older babies. I've been working with this age group for several years. I don't believe a child can CIO until at least 4 months. I am really fed up with. MB is beyond controlling and accused me of " holding baby too long for nap" because he wants to be held. Um, no..that's a typical newborn.
Let me clarify that I don't hold to sleep at all. I only pick him up if he is screaming. Here is MB's rules
* No paci, no motion, or music while putting him down for sleep.
* He is to be put down drowsy and self-soothe to sleep.
* He is to fuss himself asleep. Only if he is crying hard and for more than 1 minute, I am allowed to pick up. As soon as he is calm, I am to place back down.
They believe he will become dependent on these supports so he is not allowed to have a pacifier, allowed any type of swing, no rocking to sleep, and no white noise or lullabies. He is also on a very strict nap and eating schedule. Once my charge didn't like a certain way he is swaddled and started fussing. Her reply was " Too bad. My child isn't in charge, I am".
I feel so bad for my charge. Some days he is extra fussy and I have to let him fuss and whine. I feel like a monster. I know I have to respect their wishes but I don't agree with any of this. I honestly think I need to quit. The pay is amazing and it's only until May ( daycare opening) but I don't think I can last.
Does she have a therapist? She needs one.
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