my charge just took her first (unassisted) steps...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...should I tell MB and DB? I don't want them to be upset they missed it.

Don't they know the likelihood of missing all Firsts is 100%? They aren't there and you are, so obviously so you see them. That's the price you pay for not taking care of your own kids.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe how many nannies on this thread are shaming parents for working. If those parents didn't work, you wouldn't have a job!

I'm a nanny, and I would not tell. IMO it is in no way crucial to the child's health or development that the parents know that a first happened with me rather than with them. Most decent parents (the kind I work hard to find in the interview stages) find it difficult enough to leave their children without the nanny rubbing everything they missed in their faces.

[Anonymous]

No way you should tell. Look at the sweet story of the mom even who let her DH think he was able to be there for the first steps. Why steal that feeling from a parent when you have likely seen many kids take their first steps but this is the only time the parent has for it. No harm at all in not telling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I wanted to be told if it happened. My daughter's first steps to ME are still her first steps to me.

Ditto.

Me too. Of course I'll miss some developmental "firsts" - that's the price I pay for not spending every moment with my child.

I think a nanny being sensitive to this, and being careful about what approach might be kindest to her employers, is being lovely and professional and thoughtful.

Beyond that I just don't think it's that big a deal - all healthy kids walk and talk eventually, and the early stages of that are longer than any one moment in time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...should I tell MB and DB? I don't want them to be upset they missed it.

just fine to tell them. for all you all know the kid pulled himself up and took some steps while you were in the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how many nannies on this thread are shaming parents for working. If those parents didn't work, you wouldn't have a job!

I'm a nanny, and I would not tell. IMO it is in no way crucial to the child's health or development that the parents know that a first happened with me rather than with them. Most decent parents (the kind I work hard to find in the interview stages) find it difficult enough to leave their children without the nanny rubbing everything they missed in their faces.

+1000 This. Agree, don't take these precious moments from them.

[Anonymous]

I'm almost certain that my nanny saw my son's first steps and didn't tell me. She let me think I was seeing that myself.

She's a smart and kind woman and I really appreciate her doing that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe how many nannies on this thread are shaming parents for working. If those parents didn't work, you wouldn't have a job!

I'm a nanny, and I would not tell. IMO it is in no way crucial to the child's health or development that the parents know that a first happened with me rather than with them. Most decent parents (the kind I work hard to find in the interview stages) find it difficult enough to leave their children without the nanny rubbing everything they missed in their faces.

+1000 This. Agree, don't take these precious moments from them.

It's 3 out of over 21 posts... hardly so many and it's probably a troll at that. The vast majority have been very supportive of parents and saving the moment for them. Stop the dramatics. It's not good for your health!