Nanny does not have a life outside of work

[Anonymous]

Eh, some people just don't go out much. I'm 27, have my degree but am currently waiting for an internship to open up so I can get into my specific field. I work 50 hours a week as a nanny and you know what I do most weekends? Sleep, catch up on my DVR, and hang out with my dog. Sometimes I meet my friends to go to the movies or out to eat. I'm not depressed, I just lead a quiet life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is a nice person, but lack intellectual curiosity and outside interests. She is in her late 40s and nannying and night and evening babysitting are her life. She does not seem to have any other friends except former families she worked for or her former charges. She is friendly with a few other nannies from the play groups and park, but does not seem to have any other friends. My SIL warned me not to hire a nanny with "no life". Sometimes I feel like nanny is too enmeshed in our lives. Whenever we ask her what she did at night or over the weekends, she responds "work or sleep". She is also not as fit as she once was and it is starting to be an impediment to work. For instance, she was complaining about taking our son to the library and it's only a few blocks away. She asked my husband for an umbrella stroller for the bus. I'd like a nanny with some outside interests. Our son's day is always the same. Very regimented. Very scheduled but never any different or new experiences. Nanny doesn't do a lot of arts and crafts. She plays with his toys but not in a creative manner. How would you address this? You can't really teach a person to be interesting or creative. I want DS to have a love for life and many experiences and interests.

Now nannies have to have outside interests that meet your approval? What she does off duty, or does not do, is none of your bloody business. She is not you property.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty introverted and never go clubbing or anything like that. I don't have a huge circle of friends and I hate parties. If you asked me what I did this weekend I'd probably tell you I had a quiet weekend because a) I probably did and b) I don't want you judging how I spend my time or wondering if I'm tired from working another job on Saturday for part of the day or evening. That doesn't mean I didn't work on a quilt or other hobby, or that I didn't have lunch with a friend or go to a movie. It just means mind your own business and assume I had a restful weekend.

[Anonymous]

Is she a live-in?