Extra child

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:omg your job is to care for children, you had one extra older child who caused you no extra work for a short amount of time over lunch and you feel "taken advantage of"?

How ridiculous. If you don't want to care for children for money then quit and go be a barista.

You are ridiculous. She should have been ASKED, not told. about being responsible for extra kid and she should have been paid. The key word is RERESPONSIBLE. She had responsibility of,ALL three children.

You should talk to MB about this, OP.

Do you pay your nanny every time one of the kids has a play date? The nanny is there, the kids are having a play date, it is what it is and it's not a big deal. Nanny should not be paid and honestly doesn't need any advance warning.

Then you do it.

[Anonymous]

Spell out for them how it needs to be next time. Otherwise, you're a doormat nanny.

[Anonymous]

I'd be annoyed I didn't know about it but would not expect additional money if the kid wasn't any (or was very little) work. I actually like it when older kids have friends over because they entertain each other and it's like having less kids, not more.

If I were going to bring it up (which I wouldn't unless 1) the friend was a brat and I didn't want to deal with him/her and was going to make a blanket rule they not be there when I am or 2) was planning and activity or project of some kind and needed to know how many kids to plan on) I would just ask if Billy is having any friends over and does Billy's parents know I'll be there instead of you. That's it.

For me personally, this would be a non issue assuming the kids are well behaved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:omg your job is to care for children, you had one extra older child who caused you no extra work for a short amount of time over lunch and you feel "taken advantage of"?

How ridiculous. If you don't want to care for children for money then quit and go be a barista.

You are ridiculous. She should have been ASKED, not told. about being responsible for extra kid and she should have been paid. The key word is RERESPONSIBLE. She had responsibility of,ALL three children.

You should talk to MB about this, OP.

Do you pay your nanny every time one of the kids has a play date? The nanny is there, the kids are having a play date, it is what it is and it's not a big deal. Nanny should not be paid and honestly doesn't need any advance warning.

Then you do it.

I do. I am a nanny, my two charges have tons of play dates. I love having the extra kids there. I've never been paid extra and would never ask for extra.

[Anonymous]

7 year old had a friend over for a bit playing while you tended to the 2 yo and you want what? More money?

Go ahead and ask. See what happens. Ask your boss for more money or ask the 7 yo neighborhood friend for the money.

Or better yet, you pay the 7 yo neighbor kid for entertaining and keeping busy one if your two charges!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spell out for them how it needs to be next time. Otherwise, you're a doormat nanny.

Yeah, spell it out for them:
No play dates for the big or little kids unless you give me more money.
No play dates unless they bring their own sitter/parent/nanny to hover over them.

[Anonymous]

Regardless of whether more money is needed or requested, having an additional child in your care MUST BE YOUR CHOICE. It is a legal and moral responsibility and cannot be simply assumed that you will be fine with it.

I don't request additional pay for play dates but I do say who I will and will not allow at the play dates when the kids are in my care! (My nine-year-old charge has one friend who likes to start fires. NO, I will not be responsible for him and I will not allow him to come over when I am working).

[Anonymous]

This would not be okay with me. Was the child there the whole time?

Common courtesy would have had MB letting you know ahead of time, and the parents of the child paying you for looking after him. Is MB usually so presumptuous?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:omg your job is to care for children, you had one extra older child who caused you no extra work for a short amount of time over lunch and you feel "taken advantage of"?

How ridiculous. If you don't want to care for children for money then quit and go be a barista.

You are ridiculous. She should have been ASKED, not told. about being responsible for extra kid and she should have been paid. The key word is RERESPONSIBLE. She had responsibility of,ALL three children.

You should talk to MB about this, OP.

Do you pay your nanny every time one of the kids has a play date? The nanny is there, the kids are having a play date, it is what it is and it's not a big deal. Nanny should not be paid and honestly doesn't need any advance warning.

Then you do it.

I do. I am a nanny, my two charges have tons of play dates. I love having the extra kids there. I've never been paid extra and would never ask for extra.

Not every nanny wants to be a doormat. But GL.

[Anonymous]

Also, the the additional child's parents KNOW he was going to be with a nanny and not the parents?

Your MB cannot just make a switch like that without everyone (especially the nanny) being in agreement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, the the additional child's parents KNOW he was going to be with a nanny and not the parents?

Your MB cannot just make a switch like that without everyone (especially the nanny) being in agreement.

This too. & hours of an extra child is not a playdate. A play date is an hour maybe 2 anything other than than that or the parent ot nanny needs to accompany the child.

[Anonymous]

OP here. It's not so much about getting paid extra, it's about the fact that I wasn't warned beforehand. I didn't know this kid, didn't have any of his parents contact numbers. I took them all to the park and we did all play together. He was there for four hours which is much longer than a play date. I actually enjoy having play dates as it breaks up the day and I never expect extra but they are only there one or two hours and I know exactly who to contact and I like to be pre warned that I will have an extra child that day. Also most of the time the mother of the kid coming for a play date stays so it's not so much of a worry about what I can/can't feed them etc.
I spoke to my employer and she said she understands and next time she will warn me in advance.
All you people saying that you wouldn't ever ask for more money for looking after an extra child most of your day are ridiculous and I hope you enjoy being walked all over

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:omg your job is to care for children, you had one extra older child who caused you no extra work for a short amount of time over lunch and you feel "taken advantage of"?

How ridiculous. If you don't want to care for children for money then quit and go be a barista.

You are ridiculous. She should have been ASKED, not told. about being responsible for extra kid and she should have been paid. The key word is RERESPONSIBLE. She had responsibility of,ALL three children.

You should talk to MB about this, OP.

Do you pay your nanny every time one of the kids has a play date? The nanny is there, the kids are having a play date, it is what it is and it's not a big deal. Nanny should not be paid and honestly doesn't need any advance warning.

+1

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on what exactly you were expected to do for that child. If it was close to nothing, then I don't think you have a good argument. If you had to cook, feed, entertain them, then it's a different matter. But if a 7-year old has a friend over and they play in his room eating goldfish for a few hours till the parents come, then no. Just make sure it doesn't clash with the plans you had for that day, and that you have the parents' phone number.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It's not so much about getting paid extra, it's about the fact that I wasn't warned beforehand. I didn't know this kid, didn't have any of his parents contact numbers. I took them all to the park and we did all play together. He was there for four hours which is much longer than a play date. I actually enjoy having play dates as it breaks up the day and I never expect extra but they are only there one or two hours and I know exactly who to contact and I like to be pre warned that I will have an extra child that day. Also most of the time the mother of the kid coming for a play date stays so it's not so much of a worry about what I can/can't feed them etc.
I spoke to my employer and she said she understands and next time she will warn me in advance.
All you people saying that you wouldn't ever ask for more money for looking after an extra child most of your day are ridiculous and I hope you enjoy being walked all over

Good job, OP! Glad you spoke up for yourself.