Can a nanny be too devoted?

[Anonymous]

I also agree you sound like you have healthy relationships with your charge and the family. It can be a difficult balance. I believe if we don't feel pulled in two directions of loving connection with our charge vs. Personal boundaries, we aren't doing our job.

My most intense job was with a girl from 2 m.o. until 2 y.o. the job was 55 hours per week, and just became so attached. We cuddled. She took her first steps to me, not her parents. I, too would think and wonder about her on the weekends. I had to resist urges to buy her things at the store. I had to deal with frustration of occasionally disagreeing with her parents, and not being able to do anything about it.

Yep, op. You sound like a great nanny!

[Anonymous]

You are a really great nanny, OP. Don't worry about being too devoted - no one can be too good at their job - especially a job which involves the health, education, and welfare of a child.