Nanny's birthday present

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I was considering making a post about my recent "birthday gift." I've been working with my current family 3 days per week for two and a half years. The first year, they gave me a jar of jam. This year, after two years of faithful service, they gave me a small, cheap looking vase that looks like it cost less than $5 ( and they didn't even give me any flowers to put in it!). I'm always very generous with gifts for her children on their birthdays and Christmas. Should I say something?? It feels rude that they couldn't get me anything nice at all (it feels like they just forgot and found something lying around the house). Plus, both last year and this year I worked for them on my actual birthday (and reminded them about it in advance). Is there anything I can do? It does feel like a slap in the face

It's not about what gift you get. Be grateful.

You don't have to actually be grateful but you have to act gracious and you definitely can NOT say anything. I'm actually the OP of the thread and ended up giving our nanny a $100 gift card plus 2 picture frames and my parents got her a gift as well. So obviously I feel like your NF should be more generous but if you say anything it will not be well received. I think you are the OP of the thread about a raise for a new baby right? It doesn't sound like they are a great family to work for so if you decided to move on no one would blame you but you absolutely cannot say anything about wanting a better birthday gift.

[Anonymous]

I suggest cash unless you know what she likes. The amount should reflect your own means and relationship. If you got a really good gift but just don't have the means to match it then she probably knows and won't even think anything of it. If you can afford a more substantial gift then I say go ahead and do it. Such a thoughtful nanny deserves it.

[Anonymous]

Never give cash as a gift. Yes, cash is a good bonus, but a really crass gift. If you really don't know what to get here, a gift card is a little better.

For a nanny of only four months, I would do something in the $50 range. You still don't know if she is a great nanny. If she is with you for over a year, give something more substantial.

[Anonymous]

She's your employee so I don't understand why people thinking a birthday gift is necessary.