Hellish commute

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again, and I did do Google mapping, on an hour and twenty minute commute days, Google maps always estimates it will take me ~55 minutes to get to work. I'm not some irresponsible idiot, I'm someone who took a job, naive to just how bad the commute would be. I work 50 hours a week and am "salaried", so no overtime. Rent near where this family lives cost upwards of two weeks of my pay, unless I want to live somewhere unsafe. So don't act like I'm some terrible nanny. I stayed with the last family I was with for almost 6 years.

Well actually you are an idiot if you took a job with no OT. You just lost any sympathy I had for you. Give ample notice. It's not their fault.

I'm not an idiot. I'm a nanny who worked for a very kind family that never, ever would have taken advantage of me. I was naive. When I asked about overtime for this job, I was told by both the agency and the parents that nannies did not get overtime and that I'd have guaranteed pay and be salaried, so I wouldn't "need" overtime and that on the days when the parents got home early, I'd get to leave early. They made it sound like a regular occurance, and that between days off and vacation, it would more than make up for it. I was mislead and manipulated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again, and I did do Google mapping, on an hour and twenty minute commute days, Google maps always estimates it will take me ~55 minutes to get to work. I'm not some irresponsible idiot, I'm someone who took a job, naive to just how bad the commute would be. I work 50 hours a week and am "salaried", so no overtime. Rent near where this family lives cost upwards of two weeks of my pay, unless I want to live somewhere unsafe. So don't act like I'm some terrible nanny. I stayed with the last family I was with for almost 6 years.

Well actually you are an idiot if you took a job with no OT. You just lost any sympathy I had for you. Give ample notice. It's not their fault.

I'm not an idiot. I'm a nanny who worked for a very kind family that never, ever would have taken advantage of me. I was naive. When I asked about overtime for this job, I was told by both the agency and the parents that nannies did not get overtime and that I'd have guaranteed pay and be salaried, so I wouldn't "need" overtime and that on the days when the parents got home early, I'd get to leave early. They made it sound like a regular occurance, and that between days off and vacation, it would more than make up for it. I was mislead and manipulated.

No,you're an idiot. You know enough to post on here, so have no idea why you wouldn't have taken the time to post about that pay situation. Every nanny on here would tell you to run because 1. Nannies aren't salaried and 2. It allows employers to take advantage of you.

This is your own doing. Quit and do diligent research before getting your next job.

[Anonymous]

FInd another job OP, that's fine. But when you take the next one do it having done the proper research, negotiated the terms you want, and then living with what you accepted.

You cannot claim to be experienced in your profession and simultaneously some horribly wronged party in the scenario you're describing here. You can't have it both ways.

So you took a job that you shouldn't have - we've all made that mistake. But you're a grown up - you took the position, don't blame it on everyone else.

[Anonymous]

The commute is definitely reason enough to give notice once you've secured a new position. If you have an emergency fund give them notice as soon as possible to allow them plenty of time to find a new nanny.

I am transitioning out of a new job that I began 6 weeks ago (not in the nanny field...left that to take on the position I am leaving). When I interviewed and started my commute was 10 minutes. Two weeks into the job life threw me a curveball...I was moving 35 minutes away from where I lived. The new commute (that I tried to do for 3 weeks) was on mostly 2-lane roads. My commute jumped from 10 minutes to 50 minutes on a good day. I knew the winter commute would be horrendous. Luckily I secured a new position less than 10 minutes from my new house.

Some people are ok with a long commute. Five to ten years ago I was as well. I am at a different point in my life, and while I was fine at work I was a complete crab at home by the end of the day. Not fair to others in the house. Do what is best for you.