Lunch issues

[Anonymous]

Well, I think I will be firing her.

I really work too much and feel too bad to have to worry about making someone else lunch. If all I can do is heat up a can of soup or run through a drive through for myself, I don't know why the nanny feels like I should make her lunch as well. I take 2 minutes to heat up soup and get back to work, why can't she do the same? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

"Nanny, I worry about you being hungry during the day. Is there anything I can purchase that you would like to have for lunch? Or let me give you some money and you can take little one to the store to pick up some food that you like. I am struggling right now and really only have time to make lunch for myself, but I'd like to make sure that you have everything so that you can make lunch for yourself, too."

I hope you're getting treatment for your PPD. It sounds like it's causing you to serously overreact to this minor situation.

[Anonymous]

It's her problem, not yours. Our nanny sometimes bring us home cooked treats and we do the same for her. I don't expect lunch at work and I don't see why would a nanny expect one. Weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Nanny, I worry about you being hungry during the day. Is there anything I can purchase that you would like to have for lunch? Or let me give you some money and you can take little one to the store to pick up some food that you like. I am struggling right now and really only have time to make lunch for myself, but I'd like to make sure that you have everything so that you can make lunch for yourself, too."

I hope you're getting treatment for your PPD. It sounds like it's causing you to serously overreact to this minor situation.

Why can't the nanny bring her own lunch? She's there to babysit OP's child, not to be babysat by the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Nanny, I worry about you being hungry during the day. Is there anything I can purchase that you would like to have for lunch? Or let me give you some money and you can take little one to the store to pick up some food that you like. I am struggling right now and really only have time to make lunch for myself, but I'd like to make sure that you have everything so that you can make lunch for yourself, too."

I hope you're getting treatment for your PPD. It sounds like it's causing you to serously overreact to this minor situation.

I am getting poor treatment.

And I'm sorry, I overreacting to some comments here. PP who called me rude, could you explain why I should be making lunch for my employee, when she is free to make her own lunch or go out to lunch with DD?

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, nannies are different from office employees who, yes, bring their own lunches. Nannies are a part of your family and are integral in caring for and raising your children. You want to build a good relationship with your nanny so that she will go the extra mile for you. If you can't even provide the nanny with food she likes when she is at your house, caring for your child, 40-45 hours a week, your nanny is not going to be happy and will likely not stick around long.

[Anonymous]

Did you read my posts? I provide her food. I don't make her lunch.

[Anonymous]

PP here - but are you sure it is stuff that she likes? Listen, you shouldn't be expected to make lunch for your nanny. Is it rude to bring home takeout while she is there and not bring her any? Yes, absolutely. But you sound like you've make up your mind. Does your nanny take good care of your child?

[Anonymous]

Ok, I bring home fast food maybe twice a month. I'm not sure why people are harping on that.

Anyway, I'm going to start looking today. She's adequate, but I don't even make dinner often for DH, who understands why. I'm not going to make a sandwich or heat up soup for someone who has free run of the kitchen.

Thank you all for letting me clarify my own thoughts on this.

[Anonymous]

Instead of wasting your time and energy on this and your search for a new nanny, I'd suggest you find a new doctor so you can get proper treatment for your PPD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my opinion, nannies are different from office employees who, yes, bring their own lunches. Nannies are a part of your family and are integral in caring for and raising your children. You want to build a good relationship with your nanny so that she will go the extra mile for you. If you can't even provide the nanny with food she likes when she is at your house, caring for your child, 40-45 hours a week, your nanny is not going to be happy and will likely not stick around long.

I am not the OP, but nannie's job is to make my life easier. Making lunch for the nanny, especially when I am not making it for anyone else in the family is adding stress to my life and taking time away from my family. Nanny is not another family member, she is an employee. If she was a family member, I would not be paying her 1/2 of my salary.

[Anonymous]

I'm curious what PP's responses would be if this wasn't a telecommute situation. Would an MB be expected to provide food for the nanny?

[Anonymous]

PP who said nannies are part of the family - I never, ever said that an MB should make lunch for their nanny - that's ridiculous. I said if you want to build a good relationship with your nanny, provide food that she likes so that she can feed herself while she is busy taking care of your child. It's awkward to spend an entire day basically living in someone else's house for work.

[Anonymous]

PP again, and reading the thread just makes me all the more grateful for my wonderful MB, who always made sure the pantry was stocked with food I liked and often provided me with money to go get lunch for myself and her two children. In return, I worked tirelessly for her and always went above and beyond the call of duty for her family. I love her kids like they are my own, and would not think twice about donating one of my kidneys to them if they were ever in need. A little kindness goes a long way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP again, and reading the thread just makes me all the more grateful for my wonderful MB, who always made sure the pantry was stocked with food I liked and often provided me with money to go get lunch for myself and her two children. In return, I worked tirelessly for her and always went above and beyond the call of duty for her family. I love her kids like they are my own, and would not think twice about donating one of my kidneys to them if they were ever in need. A little kindness goes a long way.

Again, did you READ my posts? She said she liked peanut butter and jelly. I bought several different kids, plus soup and things for other types of sandwiches. The pantry is stocked with food she likes. If she wants something else, I am not a mind reader.