Is this ok?

[Anonymous]

I agree as a nanny she should have informed you beforehand, if she didn't have plans before hand and he happened to be there or, in the case of my husband sometimes, called and said "can I join you? I'm off early?" she should have let you know via text or phone call. That's just the right thing to do if you're caring for another persons children, let them know who their children are around. The fact that you have met and allowed him to come around before, probably made her feel as if he was "safe" and she didn't really consider this. In my last nanny position, my husband would stay on overnights with me and even sit with the kids while I ran to get dinner or quick errands (but MB and DB were aware and ok with this). I always told them when he was joining us, if anyone else would be joining us, (for example, my parents frequently hung out with us on weekend jobs, again, they were 100% ok with this) where we would be, and reiterated the fact that I would be the one handing trips to the bathroom, diaper changes, baths etc.. (Not that my husband or parents would have been inappropriate just because they are paying ME to do those things and I need to take that job seriously or not be a nanny.) In all of my nanny jobs, I tend to ask for permission even on ridiculous things. Or to let them know when stuff happens that I know for a fact they won't mind, just so they can see how transparent I am in scarring for their kids and not trying to hide or get away with anything. My dad stopped by (unannounced) with a coke for me and ice cream for my NK girls, bc he saw my car outside the house (it's near his work). He came in and met the girls and gave them ice cream, (my dad is just this kind of man, he is a retired elementary teacher and loves kids and is very generous), delivered my drink and left. Was there less Than 10 minutes. I told MB immediately and she laughed it off and told me my family was welcome in her home anytime, no questions asked. But still, it's her right to know who is around her kids so I let her know anytime there's a change in plans or an additional person joining us.