How to let nanny go

[Anonymous]

Calm down everyone. Reread OP's post - she is striving to do this graciously and kindly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Calm down everyone. Reread OP's post - she is striving to do this graciously and kindly.

I just want to clarify that I wasn't responding to OP, rather I was responding to the PP who scoffs at the idea that the nanny would need time to process and say a proper goodbye to the child(ren) she has loved and cared for on a daily basis. To suggest otherwise just really makes you a terrible person.

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Anonymous wrote:Some combination of notice and severance amounting to a month seems appropriate. That is the notice period in my contract and the minimum I would expect given no actual fault of my own. Please give her more time than a few minutes to digest the news and say goodbye. Agree with Pp to do it on a Friday, but I see no reason not to let her come back at another time to say goodbye. Some MBs just really don't give a damn about the women they ask to love and care for their children every day. She LOVES your kids. Let her say a proper goodbye.

Would you need to come back to a real office a couple times to say goodbye to your coworkers? Those kids are her JOB, act like it. She should't need to make a huge deal about saying good bye

Right. A nanny should treat the children she cares for like a job. When they fall, I should do nothing more than stand them back up. No need to remember their birthdays, or holidays. I should simply put them in the crib for naps, and leave them until nap time is over, even if they are scared or upset. There's no need for me to ask them how their day at preschool went, what they learned, and I certainly don't need to arrange play dates with their friends. A good nanny cares deeply for the children she is paid to...CARE for. Give her an opportunity to say good bye. It isn't that hard, and the PP who scoffs at the idea I hope to goodness you are a troll. If not, I wish you luck dealing with whatever demons make you incapable of empathy.

Nobody said you shouldnt have the chance to say goodbye. Your chance is on your way out of the house though. There's no way I'm firing someone and THEN letting them take my children out of my sight.

No one said let her take the kids out of sight. Saying you're fired, give my keys, and get out, all in the same breath makes you a cold and heartless bitch. Breaking someone's heart like that with no regard for their feelings is some seriously bad karma, and you DO reap what you sow. Your nanny would need to find a new job, but you will still be a terrible unhappy person.

But ... nobody said to do that and not allow the nanny to say goodbye to the kids.

Read the thread again. Multiple posters said do it on Friday, give her a check, and ask for your keys back. Nothing was said about saying goodbye. A nanny poster suggested giving her a real opportunity to say goodbye, and another PP likened it to an office job in which making saying goodbye a big to do would be inappropriate.