this might be petty... but...

[Anonymous]

I'm a MB who is not into birthdays. I don't want a big deal made about mine and I don't want to make a big deal about anyone elses. I don't want to deal with cupcakes or candles or cards or birthday presents or special meals.

I forge people's birthdays all the time. Because I just don't care. Maybe your nanny is like me in this regard.

I'm otherwise very nice, happy to get people gifts for other occasions, it's just birthdays I'm allergic to.

[Anonymous]

I always acknowledge birthdays but don't buy gifts. In fact, I usually make cupcakes or something from scratch using ingredients from the family's pantry. Kids don't much care about cards and they have way too many toys to begin with so I would not feel obligated to do either. As far as parties, I need my days off and time away from my charge and I have a hard time standing by while MB works. Even if MB didn't put me to work it would be awkward to just stand there and watch her serve, clean, change diapers, stress out, etc.

Not much of a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's a Jehovah's Witness.

Jehovah Witness doesn't celebrate Birthdays??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your new nanny was wrong. A birthday is a big deal to a child and she absolutely should have acknowledged it for the child's sake. This is a bad nanny, OP, wait and watch for other signs of her disconnect to your child as time goes by. It's not about not coming to his birthday party(maybe she had other family obligations) it is about not acknowledging his birthday at all. Very cruel.

And I am a nanny, btw.

You're the one frequently claiming to be a nanny, but I seriously doubt it, ms troll. Nannies here, don't need to be so emphatic about their profession.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's a Jehovah's Witness.

Jehovah Witness doesn't celebrate Birthdays??

They don't celebrate holidays. No Christmas no birthdays no Halloween ect. I was thinking this as well she might not celebrate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how did you acknowledge (or will you) acknowledge the Nanny's birthday?

This will be interesting to see how gracious OP will be. What month is her birthday, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your new nanny was wrong. A birthday is a big deal to a child and she absolutely should have acknowledged it for the child's sake. This is a bad nanny, OP, wait and watch for other signs of her disconnect to your child as time goes by. It's not about not coming to his birthday party(maybe she had other family obligations) it is about not acknowledging his birthday at all. Very cruel.

And I am a nanny, btw.

You're the one frequently claiming to be a nanny, but I seriously doubt it, ms troll. Nannies here, don't need to be so emphatic about their profession.

You are wrong, Ms. Paranoia. I am indeed a nanny and simply call situations as I see them.

[Anonymous]

I probably wouldn't buy a gift for your son, but I'd definitely get a card with some stickers! I'm sorry your nanny didn't acknowledge it. That's a shame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fire her. Isn't that the go-to action here?

Lol. OP has too much spare time on her hands.

[Anonymous]

Hello there - OP here. We had made a cake, bought her a balloon, made her a card, and bought her a plant for her apartment for her birthday. I agree it's bad manners/mean to ignore a (btw sensitive, low self esteem) child's birthday. I agree she is NOT my former nanny... for now. We just have never had a single sitter act that way for our kids, we've just had really good experiences with sitters and our prior nanny regarding being loving, kind, and warm. This nanny did not need to spend money at all. WE have had financially strapped sitters (and we pay generously... $20 an hour) and they have made cute signs or cupcakes with them like some of these posters did. It's not worth firing her, just disappointing.

Oh - and we did NOT expect her to come to his birthday and in fact, made a point of letting her know she was welcome (didn't want her to feel excluded), but would be more than understanding that she would NOT want to go to a big birthday factory with 15 boys running around with lasers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I always acknowledge birthdays but don't buy gifts. In fact, I usually make cupcakes or something from scratch using ingredients from the family's pantry. Kids don't much care about cards and they have way too many toys to begin with so I would not feel obligated to do either. As far as parties, I need my days off and time away from my charge and I have a hard time standing by while MB works. Even if MB didn't put me to work it would be awkward to just stand there and watch her serve, clean, change diapers, stress out, etc.

Not much of a gift.

SEriously? MB here -- I'd love that, and a great activity for my toddler son. I don't need gifts from people, but gestures like that are nice, and part of education for a child.

OP, you are upset that there was no mention of your son's birthday at work, not that the nanny didn't acknowledge the party, right?

I agree it's a bit weird. I'm not a birthday person either but really kids are all birthday people with very rare exceptions. And it didn't require $, just even asking about how his birthday was?

Not sure what to say, but if this is the only thing you've been bothered by over 6+ months, I'd let it go. If there are other things, perhaps you can mention them here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello there - OP here. We had made a cake, bought her a balloon, made her a card, and bought her a plant for her apartment for her birthday. I agree it's bad manners/mean to ignore a (btw sensitive, low self esteem) child's birthday. I agree she is NOT my former nanny... for now. We just have never had a single sitter act that way for our kids, we've just had really good experiences with sitters and our prior nanny regarding being loving, kind, and warm. This nanny did not need to spend money at all. WE have had financially strapped sitters (and we pay generously... $20 an hour) and they have made cute signs or cupcakes with them like some of these posters did. It's not worth firing her, just disappointing.

Oh - and we did NOT expect her to come to his birthday and in fact, made a point of letting her know she was welcome (didn't want her to feel excluded), but would be more than understanding that she would NOT want to go to a big birthday factory with 15 boys running around with lasers!

If all that is true, something doesn't add up here. Strange indeed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I always acknowledge birthdays but don't buy gifts. In fact, I usually make cupcakes or something from scratch using ingredients from the family's pantry. Kids don't much care about cards and they have way too many toys to begin with so I would not feel obligated to do either. As far as parties, I need my days off and time away from my charge and I have a hard time standing by while MB works. Even if MB didn't put me to work it would be awkward to just stand there and watch her serve, clean, change diapers, stress out, etc.

Not much of a gift.

SEriously? MB here -- I'd love that, and a great activity for my toddler son. I don't need gifts from people, but gestures like that are nice, and part of education for a child.

OP, you are upset that there was no mention of your son's birthday at work, not that the nanny didn't acknowledge the party, right?

I agree it's a bit weird. I'm not a birthday person either but really kids are all birthday people with very rare exceptions. And it didn't require $, just even asking about how his birthday was?

Not sure what to say, but if this is the only thing you've been bothered by over 6+ months, I'd let it go. If there are other things, perhaps you can mention them here.

Another MB here and I agree with this completely. It's totally unnecessary for the nanny to spend money and get a gift but if she wanted to make cupcakes with DC from the items we already have at home that would be awesome! I think the point is the nanny didn't need to do anything major, but not even acknowledging DCs birthday is odd. Even if you aren't into birthdays everyone knows an 8 year old is and you would like someone who is supposed to care for that child would want to at the very least wish him happy birthday. But as PP said, if this is the only issue you've ever had with the nanny I'd definitely let it go. If there are other issues though I could see how this could be the straw that broke the camels back.