Do I tell my bosses that my relationship has ended?
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Anonymous
| MB here: don't tell me. It's none of my business especially since you say it won't affect your work in any way. |
Anonymous
| ^^ Agreed. The nannies who think they need to be BFFs and 'vent' with their bosses are NOT professionals. In what other industry would you go to your boss and tell them about your breakup?!! If they ask you can keep it short and say you broke up. That's it. OP sounds dramatic and just wants attention. |
Anonymous
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I don't want attention. My bosses know I have a boyfriend.
Do I just let them go on believing I am still living with him for the length of my employment? How am I being dramatic? |
Anonymous
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There are some families (like the MB above) who would rather not know, but in your case they already know you have a BF and most likely will ask about him.
If I were you, I would tell them. |
Anonymous
| OP you really are a clown. Do you need more attention now that you're not in a relationship or something? Unless they ask, don't say anything! You can also update your address in 10 months (drama queen wants to do it now lol) for tax purposes without giving a son story about your personal life. Can you imagine a business woman going to her CEO to talk about her divorce? No. Why? BECAUSE ITS NOT PROFESSIONAL TO TALK ABOUT YOUR PERSONAL LIFE AT WORK. You don't lie about a breakup, of course you tell if they ask. I'm pretty sure they don't stay up at night wondering about your relationship status. But you seem to want attention, so by all means make your bosses feel awkward and uncomfortable and talk to them about your personal life. I'm sure after a long day at the office they want to come home and hear about your personal drama in lieu of ya know seeing their kids. GROW UP |
Anonymous
| *sob story |
Anonymous
Had you taken the time to read previous posts, you would see that MB/DB and I are social together. They have spent a lot of time getting to know him. They ask about him frequently. Instead, you decide to call me names and rip my life and character apart during one of the worst experiences of my life. I hope you feel better. I came here for simple advice. I didn't ask to be judged. I don't want to run and tell them RIGHT THiS SECOND for attention, as you suggested, but simply want to know when the appropriate time to tell them is. Perhaps I'll wait until thy invite us both to dinner. It is my sincere hope that you are granted the kindness and humanity that you denied me when you are going through a life-changing experience. I wouldn't wish your cruel words on anyone. |
Anonymous
| I'm sorry you only want to hear what you want to hear. You asked for advice and didn't like what you heard. It's NOT PROFESSIONAL to bring your personal life to work. Stop being so dramatic, really you are high maintenance. Unless they ask you or invite you somewhere it's not your place to being your personal life to the job. |
Anonymous
| And before you jump on someone else for a typo, don't worry girl, I got you... *Bring instead of bring!! |
Anonymous
| *being... HAHAHAHAHA |
Anonymous
I'm not getting on your merry go round. You are right. I am wrong. Moving on... |
Anonymous
| Yet you are still here. Go watch days of our lives or something, you like the drama. |
Anonymous
I can't. It's not on until 4. |
Anonymous
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OMFG the drama on this board is unbelievable. You guys talk about drama and being unprofessional and all of that yet you are bashing people on an ANONYMOUS board. Everyone is so ballsy when they can hide behind their computer and bash other people because no one knows who they are. Grow the hell up!!!!! You guys take care of CHILDREN and yet you sit on a online forum and bash people that you don't even know. Get a life and move the hell on. If you don't like OP's post then MOVE THE HELL ON and don't comment. Going back and forth isn't going to get you anywhere.
Also, PP's who keep bringing up "if you worked in an office, you wouldn't go to your boss about these things"......being a nanny is VERY different then having a boss in an office. As a nanny, you are in their home all day, every day. You are taking care of their kids, meeting relatives, meeting friends, etc. This is no where even close to being the same as working in an office and having a boss. I'm sorry that you guys apparently aren't close with your bosses. That must suck to take care of someones kids and not even be able to talk to your boss/joke around, etc. |
Anonymous
+1000 |