Neither of my new bosses ever introduces me by my name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny, and this has bothered me in the past, but I have to ask, why is this so bothersome? We refer to other people in certain industries by their title (Doctor, Professor, Judge). Is it because the title "nanny" carries no esteem, and maybe even a little shame in our society?

"Nanny" isn't a title - it's an occupation. To say, "This is our doctor" and then never offer his/her name in an introduction would also be wrong. You are basically saying that this person's importance is only related in what they do for you. Doctor, Professor, Judge, Captain, etc. are titles that everyone uses (preceding the name, of course) whether they are working for you or not - in fact those titles remain with the person after they retire. Not so with "Accountant Smith" or "Nanny Elizabeth".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny, and this has bothered me in the past, but I have to ask, why is this so bothersome? We refer to other people in certain industries by their title (Doctor, Professor, Judge). Is it because the title "nanny" carries no esteem, and maybe even a little shame in our society?

The only shame is two grown adults still having a nanny.
Nannies are for children, not adults.

Hint: I am your child's nanny, not yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here.

Give them the benefit of the doubt that they might just be clueless and ask them to include your name when introducing you.

I will confess that this issue had never occurred to me until I read about it on DCUM. I used to say "This is our nanny, Betsy." Now, after becoming (hopefully) a little more aware I say "This is Betsy Ross, Dick and Jane's nanny."

They probably just don't know better and don't mean any disrespect at all.

This is just proper grammar. You are yourself, BEFORE you are what you do/how you know the person introducing you. That's why you always mention the person's name first, and THEN their relationship to you.

Yes, ok miss manners. Thanks for barking at me when I was just trying to be helpful to the OP.

She wasn't barking. Calm down

Please insert extremely unladylike sentiment here regarding what you can do to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny, and this has bothered me in the past, but I have to ask, why is this so bothersome? We refer to other people in certain industries by their title (Doctor, Professor, Judge). Is it because the title "nanny" carries no esteem, and maybe even a little shame in our society?

"Nanny" isn't a title - it's an occupation. To say, "This is our doctor" and then never offer his/her name in an introduction would also be wrong. You are basically saying that this person's importance is only related in what they do for you. Doctor, Professor, Judge, Captain, etc. are titles that everyone uses (preceding the name, of course) whether they are working for you or not - in fact those titles remain with the person after they retire. Not so with "Accountant Smith" or "Nanny Elizabeth".

Okay, but I call and hear others call my professor "Professor" all the time, and I don't call my doctor by her first name but I do say "Doctor" maybe Dr. First name. I'm just trying to figure out where the distinction lies, and why one is okay but "nanny" is not.

[Anonymous]

You simply call people how they prefer to be called. Politely ask them when you aren't sure. Common sense AND common curtesy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You simply call people how they prefer to be called. Politely ask them when you aren't sure. Common sense AND common curtesy.

who the hell wants to be called nanny? I mean come on.....

[Anonymous]

Okay I personally have no problem as being introduced as Jane and Harry's nanny, but DO NOT CALL ME YOUR NANNY.
There's multiple ways to introduce your nanny..
This is Betsy
This is our kids nanny Betsy
This is the wonderful person who helps us care for our kids

[Anonymous]

I could see myself saying "this is our nanny" .. not out of disrespect but rather ignorance? But then again I'd probably say "this is our nanny, sue" .. I don't think they're being disrespectful.. at least not intentionally

[Anonymous]

Wow, there are some seriously mean and angry nannies here.

Yes, OP, it is awkward and strange to be introduced as the nanny, but it likely isn't a purposeful slight or disrespect. It is also a problem easily fixed.

When they introduce you as the nanny, speak up and say, Hi, I'm Becky.

Problem solved.

In life, choosing battles is an important skill to have. Also, why get stressed over something so minor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, there are some seriously mean and angry nannies here.

Yes, OP, it is awkward and strange to be introduced as the nanny, but it likely isn't a purposeful slight or disrespect. It is also a problem easily fixed.

When they introduce you as the nanny, speak up and say, Hi, I'm Becky.

Problem solved.

In life, choosing battles is an important skill to have. Also, why get stressed over something so minor?

Where, aside from one rude poster? I think you're seeing what you want to see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny, and this has bothered me in the past, but I have to ask, why is this so bothersome? We refer to other people in certain industries by their title (Doctor, Professor, Judge). Is it because the title "nanny" carries no esteem, and maybe even a little shame in our society?

"Nanny" isn't a title - it's an occupation. To say, "This is our doctor" and then never offer his/her name in an introduction would also be wrong. You are basically saying that this person's importance is only related in what they do for you. Doctor, Professor, Judge, Captain, etc. are titles that everyone uses (preceding the name, of course) whether they are working for you or not - in fact those titles remain with the person after they retire. Not so with "Accountant Smith" or "Nanny Elizabeth".

Okay, but I call and hear others call my professor "Professor" all the time, and I don't call my doctor by her first name but I do say "Doctor" maybe Dr. First name. I'm just trying to figure out where the distinction lies, and why one is okay but "nanny" is not.

Professor and Doctor are earned titles that will follow the person forever (like Senator, Governor, President, Judge). You will be called "professor" long after you retire and are no longer working. Like Doctor, it is an earned title of respect - Doctor, whether MD or PhD, is also an earned academic degree. Nanny is an occupation - like accountant, plumber, teacher, nurse, director, writer, actor, etc. Would you call you accountant "Accountant"? There is an enormous distinction between addressing a professor as "Professor" and calling a plumber - "Plumber". "Hey, Plumber - having a good day?" is clearly disrespectful while "Hey, Professor - having a good day?" is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, there are some seriously mean and angry nannies here.

Yes, OP, it is awkward and strange to be introduced as the nanny, but it likely isn't a purposeful slight or disrespect. It is also a problem easily fixed.

When they introduce you as the nanny, speak up and say, Hi, I'm Becky.

Problem solved.

In life, choosing battles is an important skill to have. Also, why get stressed over something so minor?

Where are you seeing the "mean and angry nannies"?! The post telling the other to go do something to themselves was an MB.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Let me make it clear that it is not about what they call me. They call me by my name. It's about the fact that they don't introduce me WITH my name! They just say, "This is our nanny". Period. And example: I went with my boss to take the baby to the doctor. The doctor came out and said, "Hi, I'm Dr. Jones" and my boss said, "I'm Mary Smith and this is our nanny."
I'm sorry if that wasn't clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Let me make it clear that it is not about what they call me. They call me by my name. It's about the fact that they don't introduce me WITH my name! They just say, "This is our nanny". Period. And example: I went with my boss to take the baby to the doctor. The doctor came out and said, "Hi, I'm Dr. Jones" and my boss said, "I'm Mary Smith and this is our nanny."
I'm sorry if that wasn't clear.

That's still annoying, I agree OP. Not as bad as referring to you as "nanny" but that would make me feel like a status symbol. Its like she's not really introducing you, just acknowledging your presence.

[Anonymous]

Anything is better than being called the "Hired Help."