Never giving Nanny credit for child's accomplishments.

[Anonymous]

Thanks OP for the reminder to express my appreciation to out nanny for her good work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if the child is hitting milestones early because he is that smart/advanced/etc. I mean, he's 2. Besides providing him with a supporting environment where his needs are met, not much of what you do is going "speed up" his development.

Your statement is untrue. There are many things that can be done to speed up developmental achievements. Tummy-time, supported sitting, engaging and rewarding, etc. all contribute to advanced development.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if the child is hitting milestones early because he is that smart/advanced/etc. I mean, he's 2. Besides providing him with a supporting environment where his needs are met, not much of what you do is going "speed up" his development.

Wow - you are so WRONG!!!! Of course what you do can speed up development! Do you think a child who has never been read to is going to develop language skills at the same pace as a child who is read to every day? Or a baby who never does any tummy-time is going to sit, crawl or roll over at the same age as a baby who was encouraged and engaged during his hour of tummy time a day?

Why do you think people get advanced degrees in Early Childhood Development?

Seriously, I do hope you are not a nanny or a mother.

[Anonymous]

This same thing happens to me all the time! My MB/DB will NEVER admit that anything I do with their kids plays any part in the kids' development or interests. Just part of the job, I guess. My parents want to pretend that I don't exist in their kids lives.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what is wrong with some parents but it is so stupid that they can't even admit to themselves how much the nanny has to do with their babys health, happiness or ability to do new things.

[Anonymous]

If they admit the influence a nanny has on their child, she becomes less disposable, and they wouldn't be able to justify paying her as little as possible. The same MBs who do what you all are encountering are the same ones who will come on here and say anyone can be a nanny, its not that hard, and the stupidest of all "if you wanted to make more money, you should have gotten an education." All instead of admitting that some nannies are educated and highly qualified, deserving of higher rates and benefits, and actually can have a profound impact on the development of their child. They either can't afford that nanny, think they have that nanny for a deal, have that nanny and are underpaying her, or have that nanny and are threatened by how good she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they admit the influence a nanny has on their child, she becomes less disposable, and they wouldn't be able to justify paying her as little as possible. The same MBs who do what you all are encountering are the same ones who will come on here and say anyone can be a nanny, its not that hard, and the stupidest of all "if you wanted to make more money, you should have gotten an education." All instead of admitting that some nannies are educated and highly qualified, deserving of higher rates and benefits, and actually can have a profound impact on the development of their child. They either can't afford that nanny, think they have that nanny for a deal, have that nanny and are underpaying her, or have that nanny and are threatened by how good she is.

Well said! I agree completely.

[Anonymous]

Of course, it's always about the money for the nannies on this board.

Hitting developmental milestones doesn't happen in a day and cannot be attributed to a single person. Anyone who thinks that doesn't understand child development at all. While a nanny is a very important part of a child's growth and development, they are not exclusively responsible for growth.

Parents should absolutely thank nannies for their hard work all the time. But nannies also need to understand that they are still employees doing a job and they should not need constant praise for doing that job.

Also, it's pretty delusional and overly self important to think that MBs are jealous of nannies. Projecting that kind of attitude is offensive and it's far more likely that MBs don't like you for your smugness rather than being jealous of you. If they were jealous, they'd probably opt for daycare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course, it's always about the money for the nannies on this board.

Hitting developmental milestones doesn't happen in a day and cannot be attributed to a single person. Anyone who thinks that doesn't understand child development at all. While a nanny is a very important part of a child's growth and development, they are not exclusively responsible for growth.

Parents should absolutely thank nannies for their hard work all the time. But nannies also need to understand that they are still employees doing a job and they should not need constant praise for doing that job.

Also, it's pretty delusional and overly self important to think that MBs are jealous of nannies. Projecting that kind of attitude is offensive and it's far more likely that MBs don't like you for your smugness rather than being jealous of you. If they were jealous, they'd probably opt for daycare.

Struck a nerve huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course, it's always about the money for the nannies on this board.

Hitting developmental milestones doesn't happen in a day and cannot be attributed to a single person. Anyone who thinks that doesn't understand child development at all. While a nanny is a very important part of a child's growth and development, they are not exclusively responsible for growth.

Parents should absolutely thank nannies for their hard work all the time. But nannies also need to understand that they are still employees doing a job and they should not need constant praise for doing that job.

Also, it's pretty delusional and overly self important to think that MBs are jealous of nannies. Projecting that kind of attitude is offensive and it's far more likely that MBs don't like you for your smugness rather than being jealous of you. If they were jealous, they'd probably opt for daycare.

Oh, please, Bitter Mommy, how did the kid learn french when neither parent could speak french? I'd say the french-speaking nanny was exclusively responsible for the kid's knowledge of french!!! And since when did never having heard one word of acknowledgement become the need for constant praise?


You know you are jealous of your nanny. Just admit it and move on with your life.

[Anonymous]

lol "Bitter Mommy" - I love it. When the bitter mommies come out, you know it's time to move on to another thread!

[Anonymous]

I guess I have the opposite problem. I am a 24/6 nanny who is most definitely the primary caregiver and everything for my charge. My NF gives me too much credit for everything! At events and when I'm with the parents or grand parents they are always giving me credit (almost 100%) to me for my NK behavior and development. I know I am responsible for most of it. They say I'm more than a nanny, I'm a governess or tutor. My big problem is...in two years I haven't got a raise or bonus!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I have the opposite problem. I am a 24/6 nanny who is most definitely the primary caregiver and everything for my charge. My NF gives me too much credit for everything! At events and when I'm with the parents or grand parents they are always giving me credit (almost 100%) to me for my NK behavior and development. I know I am responsible for most of it. They say I'm more than a nanny, I'm a governess or tutor. My big problem is...in two years I haven't got a raise or bonus!

Have you asked for a raise and been denied, Nanny?

[Anonymous]

Of course, it's always about the money for the nannies on this board.

Hitting developmental milestones doesn't happen in a day and cannot be attributed to a single person. Anyone who thinks that doesn't understand child development at all. While a nanny is a very important part of a child's growth and development, they are not exclusively responsible for growth.

Parents should absolutely thank nannies for their hard work all the time. But nannies also need to understand that they are still employees doing a job and they should not need constant praise for doing that job.

Also, it's pretty delusional and overly self important to think that MBs are jealous of nannies. Projecting that kind of attitude is offensive and it's far more likely that MBs don't like you for your smugness rather than being jealous of you. If they were jealous, they'd probably opt for daycare.



Struck a nerve huh?

What a stupidly tiresome response. Is this all you have when someone disagrees with you? That and name calling? Let's not bother with facts and knowledge and common sense. That would blow your tiny mind.

Calling me a bitter mommy for having the audacity to know far more than you about child development shows how ignorant and entitled you are. This is why no one respects the nannies on this board.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Of course, it's always about the money for the nannies on this board.

Hitting developmental milestones doesn't happen in a day and cannot be attributed to a single person. Anyone who thinks that doesn't understand child development at all. While a nanny is a very important part of a child's growth and development, they are not exclusively responsible for growth.

Parents should absolutely thank nannies for their hard work all the time. But nannies also need to understand that they are still employees doing a job and they should not need constant praise for doing that job.

Also, it's pretty delusional and overly self important to think that MBs are jealous of nannies. Projecting that kind of attitude is offensive and it's far more likely that MBs don't like you for your smugness rather than being jealous of you. If they were jealous, they'd probably opt for daycare.



Struck a nerve huh?

What a stupidly tiresome response. Is this all you have when someone disagrees with you? That and name calling? Let's not bother with facts and knowledge and common sense. That would blow your tiny mind.

Calling me a bitter mommy for having the audacity to know far more than you about child development shows how ignorant and entitled you are. This is why no one respects the nannies on this board.

LOL - oh, stop, Bitter Mommy! And do tell us what new discovery in child development causes a child to learn french from two parents who don't know a word of the language (as OP stated)?! Seek help, Bitter Mommy.
A PP was correct - when the Bitter Mommies show up on the thread, it's time to leave.