Nanny w/ misdemeanor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I misread the original post. I thought she hit the man.

That isn't much better.

Well, if you think about it, how might you react. I've never hit anyone in my life, but to me, that might be worthy of hitting him.

[Anonymous]

OP,you actually have no idea what happened. All you know is there is a misdemeanor on her record. Hsve you read the police report? For all you know, she was beating her teenage daughter for no apparent reason and her kid called the cops. You can only take her word for what happened and that wouldn't be good enough for most people trying to find someone to trust with the care of their children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,you actually have no idea what happened. All you know is there is a misdemeanor on her record. Hsve you read the police report? For all you know, she was beating her teenage daughter for no apparent reason and her kid called the cops. You can only take her word for what happened and that wouldn't be good enough for most people trying to find someone to trust with the care of their children.

+1. plus, i find hard to believe that in that situation she hit the daughter. if it was an older man taking advantage of a young teenager, the daughter was a victim (in addition to be her own daughter), so hitting her does not seem really a good reaction. If I found an older man having sex with my young teenager, I would most likely hit him as hard as i can (and I have never hit anybody in my life). something is not completely right in this story.

[Anonymous]

Depending on what the misdemeanor was and how long ago, I would open to hiring. But I would not want to hire someone for childcare with a history of violence. Especially violence towards her own child.

[Anonymous]

Misdemeanor or not, her life is full of drama that you'd have to deal with.

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny who was arrested for Domestic Violence ten yrs. ago for a fight w/an ex boyfriend. I never saw a judge, charges were never filed against me and I was never convicted of anything, given probation, anger management classes, nothing.

When I interviewed with families, prior to them running background checks they would ask me if I had any sort of criminal record and I would tell them about this prior incident and I never heard from them again. Well, then I stopped telling families about this incident and let them just run the background checks and find out for themselves. Well no one ever found out! I now work in a Head Start Preschool funded by the state and passed their FBI fingerprint scan and they didn't find anything out so my guess would be that only felony convictions matter in childcare positions??.......

[Anonymous]

Anyways, my point being that a misdemeanor shouldn't disqualify someone from working alongside a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,you actually have no idea what happened. All you know is there is a misdemeanor on her record. Hsve you read the police report? For all you know, she was beating her teenage daughter for no apparent reason and her kid called the cops. You can only take her word for what happened and that wouldn't be good enough for most people trying to find someone to trust with the care of their children.

+1. plus, i find hard to believe that in that situation she hit the daughter. if it was an older man taking advantage of a young teenager, the daughter was a victim (in addition to be her own daughter), so hitting her does not seem really a good reaction. If I found an older man having sex with my young teenager, I would most likely hit him as hard as i can (and I have never hit anybody in my life). something is not completely right in this story.

I can see it. Daughter probably became very mouthy and insistent that mom stay out of her love life and her sex life - that she could love and sleep with who she wants and that no one can stop her. That no matter what mom or anyone says she is going to stay with this guy and if mom doesn't agree, she will run away with him. She might have called mom a few choice names, mocked her, put her down - brought up past choices by mom or blamed her (maybe if you weren't a single mom I wouldn't need to have a man in my life who loves me etc...). Daughter may have called cops to get mom in trouble out of anger at her interfering with her love life. Teen girls can be vicious towards their mothers and her daughter could have been being oppositional, defiant, rebellious and outright rude and disrespectful.

I am not saying the hitting was right but I can see it happening. And in some cultures if you disrespect your parents like that, it is 'accepted' that you will get swatted. Those parents would never hit another child it is just culturally acceptable to discipline your own disrespectful child with a swat.

[Anonymous]

In this day and age with so many regular folks going to jail and so many criminals on the streets, our criminal justice system is just screwed up.

We as a society need to make up our own minds collectively and decide on our own instead of rely on labels such as who is or isn't a felon.

How ironic that ten yrs. ago Martha Stewart was in jail, but O.J. Simpson was a free man. Ten yrs. later not so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny who was arrested for Domestic Violence ten yrs. ago for a fight w/an ex boyfriend. I never saw a judge, charges were never filed against me and I was never convicted of anything, given probation, anger management classes, nothing.

When I interviewed with families, prior to them running background checks they would ask me if I had any sort of criminal record and I would tell them about this prior incident and I never heard from them again. Well, then I stopped telling families about this incident and let them just run the background checks and find out for themselves. Well no one ever found out! I now work in a Head Start Preschool funded by the state and passed their FBI fingerprint scan and they didn't find anything out so my guess would be that only felony convictions matter in childcare positions??.......

its because you werent charged....