leave over christmas bonus/gift ..

[Anonymous]

Is there any other issues with the job? I find it very odd that your first thought is to leave.
I haven't had bonus's in all my jobs-some people just don't do bonus's. I've had families who have paid for flights back home for me for xmas (when I worked overseas) I've had ones who buy gifts ie book etc and others (like my last family) who gave me a bonus, gift and something the children had made. I was with them for many years and I got a bonus at each xmas. I started my current job in august and I got something the kids had made and then amazon vouchers. So I didn't get a bonus but I wasn't expecting it
It is quite odd you haven't been acknowledged at all and I find it slightly rude of them not to of at least given you a card but to leave over it if you are happy otherwise is ott

[Anonymous]

I understand you feeling unappreciated but it's only been 5 months. Maybe they didn't feel you deserved a bonus, are new to having care and don't understand about bonuses or in general just didn't feel like giving you one. What if the next family doesn't give you a bonus? Are you going to leave that job as well?? If your basis for whether a job is good for you or not is based on getting something in December, you won't do well.

[Anonymous]

This sense of entitlement is horrifying to me. I was raised Jewish, don't really celebrate any religious holidays for a variety of personal reasons, and don't give gifts to anyone besides immediate family and best friend. So I do not give holiday tips to the mailman, the garbage men, the babysitter, the teachers, etc. When I pay my babysitter, I round up to the next hour - that's her tip. I leave out a few snacks for her. If I weren't happy with her work, I would tell her once, and if she didn't change her behavior, I'd find someone else.

OP, you are cutting off your nose to spite your face. Your sense of entitlement is disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I am feeling quite unappreciated right now. This is the first year I didn't receive a christmas card or bonus. Both of my employers didn't give me anything. They could have been thoughtful enough to give me a card and something small. I was kind of expecting something because I saw one family taking presents for the preschoolers teachers on Friday morning. I have only been with both families for 5 months. I think I am happy enough with my all-around compensation (which includes guaranteed pay for one of my jobs) that I may stay with the job. Not sure though. I was looking on care.com and saw a very attractive job. Hmmm

You've only been with them a few months and you're otherwise happy with the job? This is an example of cutting off your nose to spite your face, OP, and quitting for your stated reason would be absurd self-sabotage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sense of entitlement is horrifying to me. I was raised Jewish, don't really celebrate any religious holidays for a variety of personal reasons, and don't give gifts to anyone besides immediate family and best friend. So I do not give holiday tips to the mailman, the garbage men, the babysitter, the teachers, etc. When I pay my babysitter, I round up to the next hour - that's her tip. I leave out a few snacks for her. If I weren't happy with her work, I would tell her once, and if she didn't change her behavior, I'd find someone else.

OP, you are cutting off your nose to spite your face. Your sense of entitlement is disgusting.

Entitlement is bad but so is conceit and a lack of generosity. You would do well to examine your own behavior before judging others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sense of entitlement is horrifying to me. I was raised Jewish, don't really celebrate any religious holidays for a variety of personal reasons, and don't give gifts to anyone besides immediate family and best friend. So I do not give holiday tips to the mailman, the garbage men, the babysitter, the teachers, etc. When I pay my babysitter, I round up to the next hour - that's her tip. I leave out a few snacks for her. If I weren't happy with her work, I would tell her once, and if she didn't change her behavior, I'd find someone else.

OP, you are cutting off your nose to spite your face. Your sense of entitlement is disgusting.

Entitlement is bad but so is conceit and a lack of generosity. You would do well to examine your own behavior before judging others.

[phone]...Being raised Jewish is no excuse for not having a giving spirit. I've had the pleasure of working for SEVERAL Jewish clients...from Israel, and what she posted, is purely a reflection of her, and not a representation of being raised "Jewish".

[Anonymous]

OP- I'm curious for an update as the actual holiday approaches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sense of entitlement is horrifying to me. I was raised Jewish, don't really celebrate any religious holidays for a variety of personal reasons, and don't give gifts to anyone besides immediate family and best friend. So I do not give holiday tips to the mailman, the garbage men, the babysitter, the teachers, etc. When I pay my babysitter, I round up to the next hour - that's her tip. I leave out a few snacks for her. If I weren't happy with her work, I would tell her once, and if she didn't change her behavior, I'd find someone else.

OP, you are cutting off your nose to spite your face. Your sense of entitlement is disgusting.

Entitlement is bad but so is conceit and a lack of generosity. You would do well to examine your own behavior before judging others.

[phone]...Being raised Jewish is no excuse for not having a giving spirit. I've had the pleasure of working for SEVERAL Jewish clients...from Israel, and what she posted, is purely a reflection of her, and not a representation of being raised "Jewish".

It is not a jewish holiday. Hanukkah does not compare nor is it one you give gifts outside of children. You get paid. You are greedy expecting more. If you get more, great, but by no means are you entitled to it. We do not make a big deal over the holidays.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I actually got a gift card from ONE employer today. My last day for both jobs was Friday so this is why I was thinking I wouldn't get a gift/bonus. I have always got a kind of bonus (in the form of cash) in my prior jobs. Those jobs didn't have paid holidays though so I guess I got a cash gift and not a bonus. It has always been normal to get a gift and I think it's a nice way to say thank your childcare provider. My other employer is a bit new to the realm of being an employer. I work 14/hours, 2 days a week for the second NF.

[Anonymous]

I've heard of families giving their nannies gifts, etc but a bonus of "a weeks pay" etc is only popular on DCUM, and I know many nannies in RL.

[Anonymous]

OP, you only work 14 hours a week for them? I'm sure that's a huge part of it too. I think you're overreacting big time

[Anonymous]

Of course MBs will be trying to convince you not to leave over this. They don't want to accept that there are consequences if you don't appreciate your nanny. You do what you have to do OP, to make you happy. I tried to stick it out with a family who failed to acknowledge me in any way. I wasted a lot of time trying to please unappreciative people. I finally decided to leave, found a new family in less than a week, gave my notice, and they were "devestated". Lol. My new family is awesome!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you only work 14 hours a week for them? I'm sure that's a huge part of it too. I think you're overreacting big time

+1

You're a babysitter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you only work 14 hours a week for them? I'm sure that's a huge part of it too. I think you're overreacting big time

+1

You're a babysitter

Regardless she deserves a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you only work 14 hours a week for them? I'm sure that's a huge part of it too. I think you're overreacting big time

+1

You're a babysitter

Regardless she deserves a gift.

No, she doesn't. She works and gets paid, she's not entitled to anything beyond that. Most nannies work 60+ hrs for the same family, they deserve a bonus.