leave over christmas bonus/gift ..

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you only work 14 hours a week for them? I'm sure that's a huge part of it too. I think you're overreacting big time

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You're a babysitter

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Very silly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you only work 14 hours a week for them? I'm sure that's a huge part of it too. I think you're overreacting big time

+1

You're a babysitter

+2

Very silly.

I think it's weird and rude that the second family didn't acknowledge her.

[Anonymous]

I agree that it's weird that the family didn't even acknowledge her. But I don't think she should be expecting a bonus for a job that is 14 hours a week. There are also other ways of appreciating someone and OP hasn't made it clear if they are appreciating her but for this bonus she thinks she should be getting or whether they're just a bad family in general. If she's not happy, she should leave. But leaving a find situation because she didn't get a bonus for a 14-hour a week job is completely ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

A babysitter is some one employed on a non committed basis. Where as a nanny is some one employed on certain times or days that also gets benefits eg sick leave, super ect. OP is a part time nanny.

[Anonymous]

So, is bonus a must? Just curious as I will be an MB soon. There were definitely years when I did not get bonuses from my work for all sorts reasons including when the company was not doing well

No, it is not a must. Bonuses are usually earned, so the OP's entitlement is a little strange, especially since she is PT and has only been there 5 months.

My guess is that she will remain unhappy for all kinds of little reasons and probably needs a new job to prevent further resentment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A babysitter is some one employed on a non committed basis. Where as a nanny is some one employed on certain times or days that also gets benefits eg sick leave, super ect. OP is a part time nanny.

Except she said this family doesn't offer guaranteed hours which pushes her back into babysitter territory - at least from the parents' perspective

[Anonymous]

Who the heck gets sick leave for a 14 hour a week job?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sense of entitlement is horrifying to me. I was raised Jewish, don't really celebrate any religious holidays for a variety of personal reasons, and don't give gifts to anyone besides immediate family and best friend. So I do not give holiday tips to the mailman, the garbage men, the babysitter, the teachers, etc. When I pay my babysitter, I round up to the next hour - that's her tip. I leave out a few snacks for her. If I weren't happy with her work, I would tell her once, and if she didn't change her behavior, I'd find someone else.

OP, you are cutting off your nose to spite your face. Your sense of entitlement is disgusting.

Entitlement is bad but so is conceit and a lack of generosity. You would do well to examine your own behavior before judging others.

[phone]...Being raised Jewish is no excuse for not having a giving spirit. I've had the pleasure of working for SEVERAL Jewish clients...from Israel, and what she posted, is purely a reflection of her, and not a representation of being raised "Jewish".

NP here. I think the Jewish PP was simply making the point that gifting and tipping habits vary among subcultures and families. Some people are big on gifting and spreading holiday tips and bonuses around and some just aren't, but are generous and show appreciation in other ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sense of entitlement is horrifying to me. I was raised Jewish, don't really celebrate any religious holidays for a variety of personal reasons, and don't give gifts to anyone besides immediate family and best friend. So I do not give holiday tips to the mailman, the garbage men, the babysitter, the teachers, etc. When I pay my babysitter, I round up to the next hour - that's her tip. I leave out a few snacks for her. If I weren't happy with her work, I would tell her once, and if she didn't change her behavior, I'd find someone else.

OP, you are cutting off your nose to spite your face. Your sense of entitlement is disgusting.

Entitlement is bad but so is conceit and a lack of generosity. You would do well to examine your own behavior before judging others.

[phone]...Being raised Jewish is no excuse for not having a giving spirit. I've had the pleasure of working for SEVERAL Jewish clients...from Israel, and what she posted, is purely a reflection of her, and not a representation of being raised "Jewish".

NP here. I think the Jewish PP was simply making the point that gifting and tipping habits vary among subcultures and families. Some people are big on gifting and spreading holiday tips and bonuses around and some just aren't, but are generous and show appreciation in other ways.

That's not true about Jewish culture AT ALL. OP is simply feeding the stereotype that her people are selfish and lacking generosity. Her post was essentially a list of people she feels undeserving of her generosity *because she's Jewish*. But she's fine giving to friends and family. OP may be a bit entitled, but PP is conceited, judgmental, and miserly. I'd rather deal with OP any day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sense of entitlement is horrifying to me. I was raised Jewish, don't really celebrate any religious holidays for a variety of personal reasons, and don't give gifts to anyone besides immediate family and best friend. So I do not give holiday tips to the mailman, the garbage men, the babysitter, the teachers, etc. When I pay my babysitter, I round up to the next hour - that's her tip. I leave out a few snacks for her. If I weren't happy with her work, I would tell her once, and if she didn't change her behavior, I'd find someone else.

OP, you are cutting off your nose to spite your face. Your sense of entitlement is disgusting.

Entitlement is bad but so is conceit and a lack of generosity. You would do well to examine your own behavior before judging others.

[phone]...Being raised Jewish is no excuse for not having a giving spirit. I've had the pleasure of working for SEVERAL Jewish clients...from Israel, and what she posted, is purely a reflection of her, and not a representation of being raised "Jewish".

NP here. I think the Jewish PP was simply making the point that gifting and tipping habits vary among subcultures and families. Some people are big on gifting and spreading holiday tips and bonuses around and some just aren't, but are generous and show appreciation in other ways.

That's not true about Jewish culture AT ALL. OP is simply feeding the stereotype that her people are selfish and lacking generosity. Her post was essentially a list of people she feels undeserving of her generosity *because she's Jewish*. But she's fine giving to friends and family. OP may be a bit entitled, but PP is conceited, judgmental, and miserly. I'd rather deal with OP any day.

I concur. I wouldn't want to be on her short list of gift recipients. her energy is negative. In my culture, they say you should never eat food cooked by an angry cook, because their heart wasn't in the preparation. In this vein, I wouldn't want a gift from her, simply because I made the cut.