Nanny is not being truthful

[Anonymous]

*cover it to the cent (not fiber it to the dent lol)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you paying her commuting costs? Does your boss pay you for your commute? That is strange and unnecessary and I am a nanny. I would never expect my boss to pay me to get to work.

I agree with this. Her commuting costs are also really low, it shouldn't be an issue. You could also up her pay $20/week to cover it. Needing to fiber it to the debt makes you seem cheap and her seem petty.
If she's taking the kids out while on duty you would reimburse for that, but getting to and from work is her responsibility

OP here. Her commuter costs are not so low actually and $20/week would not cover it. Her metro fare per day is $11 and plus whatever the bus fair is. It's more like $70 per week and couple of extra thousands of $ per year. As I was explaining earlier, I do not mind paying the money to her. She is a good nanny for the most part and kids like her. I just feel a little hurt she would try to cheat me so pettily. I mean I am sitting that morning and figuring out how to be creative with the family budget and what is truly not needed so that we can give a larger bonus. I know she needs the money. Just does not make me feel very good about the relationship and I am thinking of how I should go forward with it

[Anonymous]

If travel comes to $70/week the bus fare is almost insignificant. Why are you harping on this? You seem very focused on a few cents and have made up your mind that the nanny is lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you paying her commuting costs? Does your boss pay you for your commute? That is strange and unnecessary and I am a nanny. I would never expect my boss to pay me to get to work.

You don't know very much, LP. Many companies reimburse for Metro if employee uses public transportation exclusively. It is encouraged as the ecological thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she doesn't actually know what the cost is? I metro every day, and honestly don't know down to the cent what the cost is. Depending on when she comes and goes, and if it fluctuates, there are like 3 different fare rates they charge for certain times of day and at rush hour. If you think you figured out precisely what it costs, just adjust your payment and move on. Maybe ask her how she knows what it cost, but why assume she's lying if that is not typical behavior?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's trying to jip you out of a buck a day then she's a petty thief and i'd fire her ungrateful ass. Or give her a smaller Christmas bonus and tell her why.

Uh, if she was consciously stealing more money, she doesn't deserve a bonus at all. You don't get rewarded for being a thief.

[Anonymous]

I think it's an excuse. Can an extra dollar a week in travel expenses really prevent you finding a bonus for her in the budget?

[Anonymous]

I am confused about this whole situation. If I truly thought my nanny was lying about something, even something very petty, I would fire her because who knows what else she is not entirely truthful about and I wouldn't feel like I could trust her with my kids. But I am not entirely sure that is what is happening here. Sounds like everyone is a little confused in this situation. If your nanny's commuting costs are really that high, can you just her her some kind of unlimited monthly pass?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's an excuse. Can an extra dollar a week in travel expenses really prevent you finding a bonus for her in the budget?

That's not the point. First of all, OP has never mentioned anything about a bonus. It was another poster who said give less of a bonus if nanny is lying but it has nothing to do with what OP can afford. Obviously this is confusing and no one, including OP, knows exactly what is going on and if the nanny is really lying but say she is. Do you really think that a nanny who lies in order to get extra money deserves ANY bonus? To be clear, I'm not saying the nanny IS lying, the whole thing seems odd to me, but if she is she doesn't even deserve to keep her job, let alone get a bonus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's an excuse. Can an extra dollar a week in travel expenses really prevent you finding a bonus for her in the budget?

That's not the point. First of all, OP has never mentioned anything about a bonus. It was another poster who said give less of a bonus if nanny is lying but it has nothing to do with what OP can afford. Obviously this is confusing and no one, including OP, knows exactly what is going on and if the nanny is really lying but say she is. Do you really think that a nanny who lies in order to get extra money deserves ANY bonus? To be clear, I'm not saying the nanny IS lying, the whole thing seems odd to me, but if she is she doesn't even deserve to keep her job, let alone get a bonus.

OP DID say she was tying to decide how much of a bonus they could afford to give (as if this miscommunication over a few cents is going to make or break it.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's an excuse. Can an extra dollar a week in travel expenses really prevent you finding a bonus for her in the budget?

That's not the point. First of all, OP has never mentioned anything about a bonus. It was another poster who said give less of a bonus if nanny is lying but it has nothing to do with what OP can afford. Obviously this is confusing and no one, including OP, knows exactly what is going on and if the nanny is really lying but say she is. Do you really think that a nanny who lies in order to get extra money deserves ANY bonus? To be clear, I'm not saying the nanny IS lying, the whole thing seems odd to me, but if she is she doesn't even deserve to keep her job, let alone get a bonus.

OP DID say she was tying to decide how much of a bonus they could afford to give (as if this miscommunication over a few cents is going to make or break it.)

Oops I missed that, sorry. Although from her post I didn't get that she was saying this issue had anything to do with how much bonus she could afford. I understood it as she was saying she's hurt that the nanny would lie when OP is trying to figure out a way to give her a good bonus. In other words she was trying to be good to the nanny while the nanny was trying to take advantage. The thing is though that we don't really know the nanny is lying. The whole thing seems bizarre. Why would she lie over a few dollars a week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's an excuse. Can an extra dollar a week in travel expenses really prevent you finding a bonus for her in the budget?

That's not the point. First of all, OP has never mentioned anything about a bonus. It was another poster who said give less of a bonus if nanny is lying but it has nothing to do with what OP can afford. Obviously this is confusing and no one, including OP, knows exactly what is going on and if the nanny is really lying but say she is. Do you really think that a nanny who lies in order to get extra money deserves ANY bonus? To be clear, I'm not saying the nanny IS lying, the whole thing seems odd to me, but if she is she doesn't even deserve to keep her job, let alone get a bonus.

OP DID say she was tying to decide how much of a bonus they could afford to give (as if this miscommunication over a few cents is going to make or break it.)

Oops I missed that, sorry. Although from her post I didn't get that she was saying this issue had anything to do with how much bonus she could afford. I understood it as she was saying she's hurt that the nanny would lie when OP is trying to figure out a way to give her a good bonus. In other words she was trying to be good to the nanny while the nanny was trying to take advantage. The thing is though that we don't really know the nanny is lying. The whole thing seems bizarre. Why would she lie over a few dollars a week?

OP here. That's it. what I pay her for transport would not affect our ability to afford a regular bonus of a $1,500 we usually give. As i was saying i was trying to figure out how we can come up with a large bonus to give her this year. I happened to know that the nanny has some amount of debt and wanted to see if we can give her a large sum for Christmas that would let her get out of it and live comfortably. I was simply feeling a little hurt over this and was not sure how to react

[Anonymous]

By assuming it was an honest mistake, OP.

[Anonymous]

Get an online smart trip card for her and put money on it every sunday.

http://www.wmata.com/fares/smartrip/

http://www.wmata.com/fares/purchase/passes.cfm#bus

[Anonymous]

OP, can you tell us what route she takes? From X metro stop to Y metro stop, then transferring to Z bus?