What are you getting for your Mb and db?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Employees do not buy presents for employers. Baked goods are fine. Your gift, OP, was most inappropriate.

If it works for them, don't rain on their parade. It isn't a gift I would give, but I am not in that household. It sounds like they have a good sense of humor and if MB is happy with it, then it was a good gift.

[Anonymous]

I sometimes give a gift to the family, and always give something to the children. To the poster who says that employees do not give gifts to employers, that may be your way of doing things, but it isn't mine. I gave my first client some pj's she liked, and her husband, a Salvador Dali coffee table book (he was an avid art collector), and they loved their gifts. I gave another client a bottle of perfume ( I showered and changed at work, on my way to a play, and she wouldn't let me leave until I told her what I was wearing..lolol)

To the nanny, who gave her client some butt pads, don't let anyone on here, tell you what's appropriate for your relationship with your client. If she's expressed to you, that she's getting cosmetic surgery, then you obviously have "that" kind of relationship. A clients mother (Nana) showed me where a lump was removed from her breast. I didn't ask to see it, but I understood her need to talk about/ share her experience.

Also, to the poster that said that a nanny buying a gift for her clients is akin to a gift being purchased for you, with your money,( that you may not like/want) that's a callous and I hate to say elitist way of thinking. OMG, a nanny could never know what a client likes....Really??Also, I've always had other side jobs. Stop counting your nanny's money. A gift is a form of saying thank you.

Folks need to loosen up. Seriously. The best Nanny client situation, is when you truly feel like family. On both ends of the equation. I guess I've been lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Employees do not buy presents for employers. Baked goods are fine. Your gift, OP, was most inappropriate.

If it works for them, don't rain on their parade. It isn't a gift I would give, but I am not in that household. It sounds like they have a good sense of humor and if MB is happy with it, then it was a good gift.

+1....I totally agree.

[Anonymous]

OP, Don't take this personally, but I find you very weird.

I wouldn't want you even watching my goldfish.

Or my goldfish crackers.

[Anonymous]

I'm giving my employers a paid groupon for a restaurant I know they like with free babysitting for the night they decide to go-inappropriate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm giving my employers a paid groupon for a restaurant I know they like with free babysitting for the night they decide to go-inappropriate?

Absolutely not!...don't let anyone on here define your relationship with your employers, and don't second-guess yourself. I sent flowers to an employer for her birthday, and she was happy to let everyone who was at her celebration know they were from me.

[Anonymous]

I had the sah mom across the street (who is also a photographer) do photos of the kids in exchange for some babysitting and then got prints (only $5) and some nice frames ($45). I spent $50 on them and wether it's 'inappropriate' or not I knew this was something they could treasure for a long time and they are more then wonderful to me. I spent $50 on each child as well.

[Anonymous]

When it comes to being inappropriate I think it depends on the family. Some parents only spend 50 on their very young child for Christmas. So if the nanny spends 50 plus that might be seen as out staging the parents.

Also when it comes to giving a gift of free babysitting lets say 4 hrs well to the nanny making $25 per hr that is a $100 gift. If you throw in $ 60 for dinner you've just spent roughly $160 on them and they were only planning on maybe giving you a scarf. Kind of awkward and inappropriate. But everyone's situation is different and the longer your there the more you know what's right for your mb and db.

[Anonymous]

MB here - I feel extremely awkward when our nanny gives me and DH gifts. I don't think she should or needs to be spending her money on us, she spends too much, she's an employee not a friend or family member, etc... I really wish she wouldn't. If she makes us dinner one night we're thrilled and that's more than enough thoughtfulness. She gets gifts for our kids (and again spends waaaay too much) but I understand that and wouldn't ask her not to given how much she enjoys it.

But honestly, save your money. It's just uncomfortable for me.

And OP's butt pad gift? I don't even know what to say to that it's so inappropriate IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sometimes give a gift to the family, and always give something to the children. To the poster who says that employees do not give gifts to employers, that may be your way of doing things, but it isn't mine. I gave my first client some pj's she liked, and her husband, a Salvador Dali coffee table book (he was an avid art collector), and they loved their gifts. I gave another client a bottle of perfume ( I showered and changed at work, on my way to a play, and she wouldn't let me leave until I told her what I was wearing..lolol)

To the nanny, who gave her client some butt pads, don't let anyone on here, tell you what's appropriate for your relationship with your client. If she's expressed to you, that she's getting cosmetic surgery, then you obviously have "that" kind of relationship. A clients mother (Nana) showed me where a lump was removed from her breast. I didn't ask to see it, but I understood her need to talk about/ share her experience.

Also, to the poster that said that a nanny buying a gift for her clients is akin to a gift being purchased for you, with your money,( that you may not like/want) that's a callous and I hate to say elitist way of thinking. OMG, a nanny could never know what a client likes....Really??Also, I've always had other side jobs. Stop counting your nanny's money. A gift is a form of saying thank you.

Folks need to loosen up. Seriously. The best Nanny client situation, is when you truly feel like family. On both ends of the equation. I guess I've been lucky.

Poster you addressed here. I'm a nanny. And yes, I feel weird buying gifts for people who have given me the money I used to buy them. Not too sure how this is elitest...but it sounds like you may have a chip on your shoulder regarding the financial imbalance between you and your employer.
I MAKE gifts with my charges for their parents, much less complicated and, yes, much more likely to result in a gift that the parents actually want.

[Anonymous]

Alot of you nannies (not OP), are cheap. Balk if you don't get atleast a week bonus but throw your MB/DB some baked goods and call it a day.

The nanny/employer relationship is NOT the same as an office job. Cheap, lazy babysitters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Alot of you nannies (not OP), are cheap. Balk if you don't get atleast a week bonus but throw your MB/DB some baked goods and call it a day.

The nanny/employer relationship is NOT the same as an office job. Cheap, lazy babysitters.

If I could afford to spend a weeks salary on my bosses I would. You can't even pretend it's the same. I'm giving my bosses the same baked goods I will be making for my family, and a free night of babysitting is usually around $75-$100, so not exactly cheap. I also have 2 sets of bosses, so that's 2(likely weekend) nights I'm giving up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Alot of you nannies (not OP), are cheap. Balk if you don't get atleast a week bonus but throw your MB/DB some baked goods and call it a day.

The nanny/employer relationship is NOT the same as an office job. Cheap, lazy babysitters.

Do you cry on christmas morning when you don't getthe presents you want? I bet you do.
A homemade gift is just a lovely as a picture frame or a coffee mug and many people enjoy gifts that were made for them with care. I feel bad for you that you judge something's worth by how much it cost...its such a shame that this is where the emphasis on holidays lie now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Alot of you nannies (not OP), are cheap. Balk if you don't get atleast a week bonus but throw your MB/DB some baked goods and call it a day.

The nanny/employer relationship is NOT the same as an office job. Cheap, lazy babysitters.

Don't feed the troll, folks.

[Anonymous]

I agree that it is not always about cost but I would hope they would get me something that they think I would like. One year my NF just gave me a picture of the kids in a cheap frame and I honestly didn't like it. I love the kids but why would I need a big picture of your family. Did they think I would hang it on my wall? That would be crazy. The next NF gave me my favorite lotion and perfume from Bath and Body Works. Not expensive and shows that they know what I like.