Feeling Hurt

[Anonymous]

Don't mix friends and finance.

[Anonymous]

OP is friends with a con artist who uses damaged children to cheat the government. It's only an issue now that she's getting screwed, but she had no problem being friends with this gem. That speaks volumes to OP's character.

[Anonymous]

PP you know nothing about my friendship or this family besides what I told you. That harsh judgment speaks VOLUMES to your character!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP you know nothing about my friendship or this family besides what I told you. That harsh judgment speaks VOLUMES to your character!

Did you not say she was a friend of yours before becoming your MB?

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to quit. You need to tell her you will not be coming in anymore. While she may be a friend of yours, this isn't how you treat your friends. I know nothing about you or your friend, but from what you have written, she is taking advantage of you and you are letting her. As long as you keep going to take care of the children, without her paying you for what she already owes you, you will continue to let her take advantage of you.
She has gone back on how much she said you were to be paid. She has added work to your duties that were not the case. I also suspect you do not have a written contract. At this point, you give notice and do not go back. Friends like this are not your friends, they are users and they are using you and taking advantage of you. Find a family that will appreciate you. And get everything in writing from now on.

[Anonymous]

Thanks guys. I know this is the case but I really am having such a hard time accepting it. It hurts so bad when someone you thought you could trust breaks it. I guess people will always let you down. This isn't the first time I have gone down this road but I honestly thought it would be different. This just sucks. I'm having such a hard time with it emotionally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are a babysitter. $15 an hour is more than reasonable. It does not matter if the kid are biological or foster kids. If anything, I hope you went through a background check for the foster kids. And, I question if this is true as I can't imagine foster parents getting 5 kids under age two along with 4 of their own. There are lots of rules.

Did you read her earlier post? She's a nanny not a babysitter.

Same thing. A nanny just works more hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are giving a cheque each month for 16 hours a week at 15 dollars an hour. They are taking the $$ from stats and pocketing it instead of giving me the holiday. Originally MB had said I would be paid the amount of the cheque every month
I never agreed to 15 an hour either, I was told they were trying to negotiate 20 an hour. that was a big step up from my current job so I quit. then found out the ministry (government) was only going to pay 15. I was willing to help them out tho. We had no agreed upon extra duties beyond childcare.

Were you licensed and gone through background checks? I did foster care for many years and never heard of a foster parent hiring a nanny with government money except for very special needs kids. If they were working, some states will give day care help to a licensed provider but not all give it to working parents. You never get help for a SAHP.

[Anonymous]

We are in Canada and they were given special funding for taking on additonal kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are in Canada and they were given special funding for taking on additonal kids

I find it hard to believe that they can have 9 kids with two adults, 5 from foster care in less they were given an exemption. The get a monthly stipend and that is what they are using to pay you. It is a lot of money added up for 5 kids, but not for each individual child.

[Anonymous]

Yes they were given an exemption. The ministry had asked them to take on the kids.
I'm not sure why this has to be debated as it was not part of te original post or question.

Is there anyway to salvage this friendship ad working relationship? Any suggestions?

[Anonymous]

The family negotiated what they needed in order to be able to take on the extra 2 kids. The ministry provided what they needed. Part of that was reviecing a SPEREATE CHEQUE to pay for a nanny!!!!!

[Anonymous]

$15 an hour for unskilled labor is reasonable. If you are not happy, quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$15 an hour for unskilled labor is reasonable. If you are not happy, quit.

This has nothing to do with anything. Hourly rate is not the issue and not something I would quit over. But thanks for your helpful input. Looking for advice on how to mend things work wise and friendship wise if there is a way

[Anonymous]

They are liars and you feel used, what exactly is there to mend?