what to do about unpaid holidays

[Anonymous]

I was an early pp siding with you OP but now I think your MB may be happy to have you go. Unbelievable you would deem a 3 YO who does not yet say plz and thank you all the time As difficult. But if you just do not like this kid then be fair to him and quit ASAP. How sad for that child otherwise. You do not seem like a very good nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was an early pp siding with you OP but now I think your MB may be happy to have you go. Unbelievable you would deem a 3 YO who does not yet say plz and thank you all the time As difficult. But if you just do not like this kid then be fair to him and quit ASAP. How sad for that child otherwise. You do not seem like a very good nanny.

I don't think you need to jump to that conclusion. Sometimes it's just a bad fit. If a nanny or babysitter is unhappy in an environment that is unlikely to change, then it is very likely that she will not be able to fulfill her role completely.

[Anonymous]

Yes that is true. But OP did not complain about lots of other things and the examples she gave of why the child was difficult are very minor issues.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I don’t understand why you're saying she doesn't seem like a good nanny. There’s nothing immature or wrong about her post.

[Anonymous]

I sure as fuck wouldn’t tolerate a job I am not happy with. OP do whatever makes you happy. Some kids are difficult or it's hard to bond with them.

[Anonymous]

I’m constantly amazed at how often there are comments with some version of, “bad nanny, you sound inexperienced" blah blah blah. Let me assure you, and all the nannies out there, sometimes we just don't connect with our charges. OP has realized she doesn't like caring for the kids and wants to find a charge she adores. There's nothing wrong with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m constantly amazed at how often there are comments with some version of, “bad nanny, you sound inexperienced" blah blah blah. Let me assure you, and all the nannies out there, sometimes we just don't connect with our charges. OP has realized she doesn't like caring for the kids and wants to find a charge she adores. There's nothing wrong with that.

+ 1 me too. If OP isn't happy then let her find another job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m constantly amazed at how often there are comments with some version of, “bad nanny, you sound inexperienced" blah blah blah. Let me assure you, and all the nannies out there, sometimes we just don't connect with our charges. OP has realized she doesn't like caring for the kids and wants to find a charge she adores. There's nothing wrong with that.

+ 1 me too. If OP isn't happy then let her find another job.

I don't disagree with this, I think what people have a problem with though is that it seemed very callous the way she said she had a "personality conflict" with a 3 year old who she didn't describe as especially difficult. The problem with DCUM is that we usually don't have all the information so maybe there is more to the story but most of us respond to what we know. In this case someone whose apparent ONLY problem is not saying please and thank you. To me that is the sign of someone without a lot of patience and I think most people can agree that to work as a nanny you do need a lot of patience. If there is more going on then that's fine but just based on what she said I wouldn't want her as a nanny.