Nanny family moving

[Anonymous]

I was the moved two blocks poster. I am not trying to stop her from protecting herself. But, if she likes the fmaily, I think it would be really stupid to run out and get another job and quit if they actually do not end up moving. She should ask them, casually, "Real estate shopping?

They may be looking and looking and not find something even if they really want to. As long as they give her plenty of notice when they actually do line up a house, she will be ok. Most real estate closings take at least 60 days.

Again, she should ask them, but the idea that because they have some listings laying around means they will dump her next week is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have any kind of written and signed agreement with them?

No. Why?

From what you've shared here, OP, I think you're on the right track. Just like I tell moms, always follow your gut. They might not know how or when to start the discussion. Moms aren't nessasarily that great with communication, even with their own husbands.

I think you have two options here.
1. Just get another job. They might be relieved.
2. Bring it up, and ask. Say, "Are you looking at houses?"

You need to protect yourself, OP, even if others here don't want you to.

18:10, maybe you missed question #2?
OP should determine for herself which option she's more comfortable with, don't you think? If the parents aren't terribly trustworthy overall, I would absolutely not bother having a conversation with them. What's the point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was the moved two blocks poster. I am not trying to stop her from protecting herself. But, if she likes the fmaily, I think it would be really stupid to run out and get another job and quit if they actually do not end up moving. She should ask them, casually, "Real estate shopping?

They may be looking and looking and not find something even if they really want to. As long as they give her plenty of notice when they actually do line up a house, she will be ok. Most real estate closings take at least 60 days.

Again, she should ask them, but the idea that because they have some listings laying around means they will dump her next week is ridiculous.

I know they're not going to me dump me next time. If they end up moving, it probably won't be before at least two months. But if I know that they are looking for houses for sure and we have discussed it, I will start looking for a new job now. There's no point in waiting if they are moving anyways.

If I ask them casually if they are buying a new house, won't it look bad?

[Anonymous]

They want you to see the papers. Didn't you say they're leaving the paper scattered all over the house? Are they flaky?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They want you to see the papers. Didn't you say they're leaving the paper scattered all over the house? Are they flaky?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They want you to see the papers. Didn't you say they're leaving the paper scattered all over the house? Are they flaky?

Oh, I didn't realize that if I left something out the only reason would be because I wanted my nanny to see it. Get real. If they are a busy family they probably left the stuff out because they don't want to lose track of it or didn't have time to put it away. I left a school application out, in fact, last night. I cetrainly don't expect my nanny to ask my kids today how they feel about switching schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They want you to see the papers. Didn't you say they're leaving the paper scattered all over the house? Are they flaky?

Oh, I didn't realize that if I left something out the only reason would be because I wanted my nanny to see it. Get real. If they are a busy family they probably left the stuff out because they don't want to lose track of it or didn't have time to put it away. I left a school application out, in fact, last night. I cetrainly don't expect my nanny to ask my kids today how they feel about switching schools.

You're the same flake from the other threads.
They left out the papers in three different places. Duh.
You seem to have a chronic condition of denial, which isn't allowing you to be rational.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not!

It is none of your business until they make it your business and let you in on whatever it is they are doing.

[Anonymous]

OP. wait until they tell you they are moving. Right now, you don't know if they're moving, much less where. It could be two months, six months, a year away.

Once they tell you, start your job search. Simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They want you to see the papers. Didn't you say they're leaving the paper scattered all over the house? Are they flaky?

OP here: To be honest, they are very untidy. It is not unusual for them to have papers scattered in the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not!

It is none of your business until they make it your business and let you in on whatever it is they are doing.

OP here: I'm going to have to disagree with you.

[Anonymous]

If they truely are planning on moving than it's kind've strange that they haven't said ANYTHING to you about it. However, it could all be a misunderstanding.. How do you know they're visiting houses that are too far away? Are these papers literally out in the open or are you looking threw folders, etc? If they're literally out in the open than I'd just casually mention that you come upon it while sitting at the table (or whereever it is) and ask them if they're planning on a move.

[Anonymous]

OP, why would it look bad to say, "I saw some real estate papers on the table last week - are you guys house hunting?"? I said basically that to my MB and it was completely fine.

[Anonymous]

I walked in on a conversation between my MB and DB about the housing market in San Diego. We live in the Midwest. I think the look on my face said it all. They quickly and apologetically assured me they were discussing friends of theirs.

It would be odd for them to move.

My point is, ask. It is your job and you need to know if there are possible changes coming. It is not unreasonable to bring it up in a tactful way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they truely are planning on moving than it's kind've strange that they haven't said ANYTHING to you about it. However, it could all be a misunderstanding.. How do you know they're visiting houses that are too far away? Are these papers literally out in the open or are you looking threw folders, etc? If they're literally out in the open than I'd just casually mention that you come upon it while sitting at the table (or whereever it is) and ask them if they're planning on a move.

There was a paper on the table with notes comparing houses as well as many other real estate papers all over the house.