Nanny Family Implying I Used Work Credit Card

[Anonymous]

They might not have gone about it the best way, but put yourself in their shoes:
You've hired someone who you trust to watch your children. You even give her a credit card to make purchases while out and about.
One day you check the statement and see that there's a large clothing purchase on the statement. The card is still in her possession.

What would you think? Maybe they thought you forgot to tell them. Or it was stolen and you didn't tell them because you were scared they'd be mad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They might not have gone about it the best way, but put yourself in their shoes:
You've hired someone who you trust to watch your children. You even give her a credit card to make purchases while out and about.
One day you check the statement and see that there's a large clothing purchase on the statement. The card is still in her possession.

What would you think? Maybe they thought you forgot to tell them. Or it was stolen and you didn't tell them because you were scared they'd be mad.

Then you ask, once, and you don't continue to press her and threaten that "you'll get to the bottom of it" and that she should "come clean". The word choice was extremely accusatory, especially for someone you "trust to watch your children", and who has never in the past given you reason not to trust her. I'd be offended as well OP, and the lack of apology would completely change how I felt about my bosses and my job. I really would have no choice to quietly start a job search, as I'd be incredibly uncomfortable continuing to work for them.

[Anonymous]

If this happened to me I would be really upset, you have every right to be outraged! They certainly did not HAVE TO ASK. They should have taken it up with the credit card company to begin with, credit card fraud is a common problem and it's insulting that they immediately accused you. I'm sorry this is happening to you. I think I would give notice, maybe in a couple months and give a fake reason so they don't get upset and sabotage your reference. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

When my card number lifted and used, I had to sign an affidavit saying it wasn't me. DB was being responsible by asking.

[Anonymous]

OP here -- I don't mind the fact that they asked. I mind DB using terminology like "come clean" and "get to the bottom of this" when I already told both he and MB that I hadn't used the card. Big difference, there.

At any rate, I'm glad they figured it out. I'm still irritated, but life goes on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here -- I don't mind the fact that they asked. I mind DB using terminology like "come clean" and "get to the bottom of this" when I already told both he and MB that I hadn't used the card. Big difference, there.

At any rate, I'm glad they figured it out. I'm still irritated, but life goes on.

MB here, and I completely agree that DB's line of questioning was out of line.

[Anonymous]

Let it go. I had my credit card number stolen and you get into a full blown panic. It would have been nice if he used better terminology but if it was the first time, they probably were a bit concerned. I would let them know what you said here about how you use the credit card just ask in the future they do their own shopping and just give you enough cash for the kids for activities and food. You will give a receipt for them to replenish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uh, did this just come up because of the thread recently about credit cards? Very timely...

Whatever, either way if you didn't use it, you didn't use it. They're bound to find that out as they pursue it with the CC company and then they will apologize. Suck it up and be a professional, they had to at least ASK you.

Suck it up, hell! He accused her of lying and stealing. There would have to be abject apologies and Ithe work relationshipis damaged. I would start looking immediately. OP has been with them two years and their behavior is inexcusable.

[Anonymous]

Actually had something very similar happen to me!! It was an order for very expensive shoes, though. Obviously it wasn't me and the credit card company figured out the issue. They'll figure it out--if it wasn't you and it wasn't your bosses the company is going to find the problem.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They might not have gone about it the best way, but put yourself in their shoes:
You've hired someone who you trust to watch your children. You even give her a credit card to make purchases while out and about.
One day you check the statement and see that there's a large clothing purchase on the statement. The card is still in her possession.

What would you think? Maybe they thought you forgot to tell them. Or it was stolen and you didn't tell them because you were scared they'd be mad.

Then you ask, once, and you don't continue to press her and threaten that "you'll get to the bottom of it" and that she should "come clean". The word choice was extremely accusatory, especially for someone you "trust to watch your children", and who has never in the past given you reason not to trust her. I'd be offended as well OP, and the lack of apology would completely change how I felt about my bosses and my job. I really would have no choice to quietly start a job search, as I'd be incredibly uncomfortable continuing to work for them.

I agree with asking once, and then dropping it.

I swiped my work card for a personal purchase once completely by accident - just pulled the wrong plastic out of my wallet. I noticed first because I saw the charge when I was preparing my expense report. Explained to my employer with check in hand, that was the end of it.

So asking was completely appropriate; What was inappropriate was to continue after the question was answered as that completely sends the message that DB believes you are dishonest.

Sorry you had to deal with that OP.