Does anyone have black employers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not meant to be racist, I am black myself, but as a nanny I have found that a lot of black families that start out looking for a nanny attempt to grossly under pay. Im talking $150/week for 3 kids from 7-6 under pay. I think its simply a result of having little knowledge of what hiring a nanny entails. They often falsely assume that its the same as hiring a neighborhood teenager on a Friday night to babysit. So the attempt fails miserably, the children go to daycare, and they tell all their friends to never try it because its awful.

Then you failed.
We're not talking about whether or not black employers under-pay. We're talking about how common or uncommon it is for AA's in DC to have nannie

People on DCUM respond however they want, even though it often gets way off OP's question. There's no "winning" or "failing" here, but there certainly is a diversity of opinions and tangents. You never know what to expect. Isn't that why you're here?

The original quoted person was also explaining the reason why SHE thinks there aren't that many black employers, which has a lot of significance to the discussion at hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it's OP who is surprised that most nannies don't much care what color you or your children are, as long as you pay fairly.

Huh?

[Anonymous]

I agree with the posters who say that many AA have little knowledge on how it works. Of course there are black employers out there but I think most are white. The few that are AA and who can truly afford a nanny are usually doctors, etc, but then there's the rest who can honestly NOT afford a nanny (I see it on Craigslist all the time) and it's very easy to spot the ones who can't afford it (when they say they live in a small apartment with 3+ kids, offering less than $200 per week for full-time hours, etc.)

But to answer your question.. I think I wouldn't be surprised if the employer was a successful AA looking for childcare versus a ghetto parent looking for cheap-care.

[Anonymous]

16:30, I am 16:10, and I get what you are saying. The reason I said it is harsh is because of the generalization. That's probably why someone said you were racist, which I don't think is necessarily true. It just seems harsh to say "you don't see a lot of black families with nannies is because black families do X". Maybe some do, but we didn't and wouldn't. In fact, precisely because we didn't know what to expect, I researched very carefully and asked a lot of people with nannies. That's not to say that every black employer does the same, I just think generalizations are really harsh and DCUM is famous for that kind of snap judgment in a bad way. If your reasoning was applied across the board, then one look around DCUM says white MBs are all cheap too, and abusive employers and bad parents who hate spending time with their own kids too. And I like to think that is not the case, and no one would posit that that is why there are few white MBs in any given place (actually, people might, since this is DCUM, after all). I tried to respond based on my family without saying what that means for everyone of the race because of that. To me, to do anything else just seems too hasty to judge, that's all I mean when I said your generalization on that front seemed harsh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not meant to be racist, I am black myself, but as a nanny I have found that a lot of black families that start out looking for a nanny attempt to grossly under pay. Im talking $150/week for 3 kids from 7-6 under pay. I think its simply a result of having little knowledge of what hiring a nanny entails. They often falsely assume that its the same as hiring a neighborhood teenager on a Friday night to babysit. So the attempt fails miserably, the children go to daycare, and they tell all their friends to never try it because its awful.

+1 I'm also a African American nanny and every time I try to work with a black family I get screwed over and under paided.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not meant to be racist, I am black myself, but as a nanny I have found that a lot of black families that start out looking for a nanny attempt to grossly under pay. Im talking $150/week for 3 kids from 7-6 under pay. I think its simply a result of having little knowledge of what hiring a nanny entails. They often falsely assume that its the same as hiring a neighborhood teenager on a Friday night to babysit. So the attempt fails miserably, the children go to daycare, and they tell all their friends to never try it because its awful.

+1 I'm also a African American nanny and every time I try to work with a black family I get screwed over and under paided.

Why do you think that is, based on your personal experience?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not meant to be racist, I am black myself, but as a nanny I have found that a lot of black families that start out looking for a nanny attempt to grossly under pay. Im talking $150/week for 3 kids from 7-6 under pay. I think its simply a result of having little knowledge of what hiring a nanny entails. They often falsely assume that its the same as hiring a neighborhood teenager on a Friday night to babysit. So the attempt fails miserably, the children go to daycare, and they tell all their friends to never try it because its awful.

+1 I'm also a African American nanny and every time I try to work with a black family I get screwed over and under paided.

Why do you think that is, based on your personal experience?

Different financial priorities. My parents are pretty well off, but they never would have considered spending 40-50k/year on childcare. They gave us all the time love and attention they had, but throwing money at us or for us was not something they did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:16:30, I am 16:10, and I get what you are saying. The reason I said it is harsh is because of the generalization. That's probably why someone said you were racist, which I don't think is necessarily true. It just seems harsh to say "you don't see a lot of black families with nannies is because black families do X". Maybe some do, but we didn't and wouldn't. In fact, precisely because we didn't know what to expect, I researched very carefully and asked a lot of people with nannies. That's not to say that every black employer does the same, I just think generalizations are really harsh and DCUM is famous for that kind of snap judgment in a bad way. If your reasoning was applied across the board, then one look around DCUM says white MBs are all cheap too, and abusive employers and bad parents who hate spending time with their own kids too. And I like to think that is not the case, and no one would posit that that is why there are few white MBs in any given place (actually, people might, since this is DCUM, after all). I tried to respond based on my family without saying what that means for everyone of the race because of that. To me, to do anything else just seems too hasty to judge, that's all I mean when I said your generalization on that front seemed harsh.

Did everyone skip the part where 1630 said they were black??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not meant to be racist, I am black myself, but as a nanny I have found that a lot of black families that start out looking for a nanny attempt to grossly under pay. Im talking $150/week for 3 kids from 7-6 under pay. I think its simply a result of having little knowledge of what hiring a nanny entails. They often falsely assume that its the same as hiring a neighborhood teenager on a Friday night to babysit. So the attempt fails miserably, the children go to daycare, and they tell all their friends to never try it because its awful.

+1 I'm also a African American nanny and every time I try to work with a black family I get screwed over and under paided.

That might be due to the fact that you use the word "paided".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not meant to be racist, I am black myself, but as a nanny I have found that a lot of black families that start out looking for a nanny attempt to grossly under pay. Im talking $150/week for 3 kids from 7-6 under pay. I think its simply a result of having little knowledge of what hiring a nanny entails. They often falsely assume that its the same as hiring a neighborhood teenager on a Friday night to babysit. So the attempt fails miserably, the children go to daycare, and they tell all their friends to never try it because its awful.

+1 I'm also a African American nanny and every time I try to work with a black family I get screwed over and under paided.

That might be due to the fact that you use the word "paided".

lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not meant to be racist, I am black myself, but as a nanny I have found that a lot of black families that start out looking for a nanny attempt to grossly under pay. Im talking $150/week for 3 kids from 7-6 under pay. I think its simply a result of having little knowledge of what hiring a nanny entails. They often falsely assume that its the same as hiring a neighborhood teenager on a Friday night to babysit. So the attempt fails miserably, the children go to daycare, and they tell all their friends to never try it because its awful.

+1 I'm also a African American nanny and every time I try to work with a black family I get screwed over and under paided.

That might be due to the fact that you use the word "paided".

Knock it off. If all you have to contribute here is a spelling or grammar correction, you aren't so bright either. In fact, I'd say that the AA nanny sharing her honest personal experience, has a lot more smarts than you do. Lol.

[Anonymous]

You can be the same race and make generalizations about that race that aren't true. Just because you are black doesn't make you the preeminent authority on what all black people do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can be the same race and make generalizations about that race that aren't true. Just because you are black doesn't make you the preeminent authority on what all black people do.

Who said anything about "what all black people do"?
No one. Please read accurately before jumping to defense mode.

[Anonymous]

I have interviewed with black families I say black because that is how they described themselves. They didn't offer me low wages at least in person interviews. They were more concerned on how I would be treated by family members though. White blonde very fair skinned nanny.

I know several nannies of color who won't work for black or AA families. They just say they are cheap or ghetto. I have baby sat for an AA family and I am treated very well.

[Anonymous]

Please. There are lots of cheap white folks too