Job Retreat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm trying to analyze your writing to see if you could possibly be my mb.

I am a nanny who has not been herself lately. I've been doing everything I normally do, but not with as much enthusiasm as I once did. In the past, I would put toys away, organize them, etc. however now, I just throw them all in bins. I've been having back issues that my boss is aware of though, so I hope you're not her.

You can squat down. Bending too much is not good for your back. Squatting is encouraging instead of bending. There are solutions to the problem. You're just being lazy! Excuses. Excuses. Excuses.

[Anonymous]

Yep. Having had two epidural steroid injections and disk degeneration is lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep. Having had two epidural steroid injections and disk degeneration is lazy.

Sure is! Like I said, squatting is not bad for your back. Bending too much is. You don't have any excuses!

[Anonymous]

Haha. I'd love to be entertained by you some more, but I'm tired of arguing. I've been in and out of the hospital with this in the past and it's known to mb. she doesn't have a huge problem with it. She just wants toys picked up and out of the way. Who really cares if it's organized when tornado 4 year old comes running through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha. I'd love to be entertained by you some more, but I'm tired of arguing. I've been in and out of the hospital with this in the past and it's known to mb. she doesn't have a huge problem with it. She just wants toys picked up and out of the way. Who really cares if it's organized when tornado 4 year old comes running through.

blah blah blah, come again?

[Anonymous]

Tell her how you feel. Just as I would hate for my MB to ask me to do tasks beyond what I'm paid to do on a regular basis, I can understand that a parent would feel the same the opp way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha. I'd love to be entertained by you some more, but I'm tired of arguing. I've been in and out of the hospital with this in the past and it's known to mb. she doesn't have a huge problem with it. She just wants toys picked up and out of the way. Who really cares if it's organized when tornado 4 year old comes running through.

blah blah blah, come again?

Boy are you rude. Do us all a favor and go away.
-Not the nanny with a bad back

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha. I'd love to be entertained by you some more, but I'm tired of arguing. I've been in and out of the hospital with this in the past and it's known to mb. she doesn't have a huge problem with it. She just wants toys picked up and out of the way. Who really cares if it's organized when tornado 4 year old comes running through.

blah blah blah, come again?

Boy are you rude. Do us all a favor and go away.
-Not the nanny with a bad back

Do me a favor and shut up! -Not the nanny with a bad back

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha. I'd love to be entertained by you some more, but I'm tired of arguing. I've been in and out of the hospital with this in the past and it's known to mb. she doesn't have a huge problem with it. She just wants toys picked up and out of the way. Who really cares if it's organized when tornado 4 year old comes running through.

blah blah blah, come again?

Boy are you rude. Do us all a favor and go away.
-Not the nanny with a bad back

+1
-Another nanny with a good back


OP I actually think you should talk casually with your nanny first. For example, ask her on Monday to be sure the diaper genie gets emptied before trash day. Ask her before you leave in the morning to be sure the rooms are tidied up after naps. If she is a great nanny, one reminder will be all it takes to get her back on top of things. If she does it for a week or two and then starts slacking off again, then I think the time is right for a sit-down (and if you've already tried casually reminding her, go straight for a more serious discussion).

If that's the stage that you're at, I think PP gave you some good advice in terms of framing it with how happy you are with her relationship with the kids and how much they enjoy her and so on, and then saying that you've noticed a few things aren't getting done as frequently as they used to and are there any issues or concerns you should know about. If there aren't (and there probably aren't), just tell her you'd appreciate it if she could make sure and prioritize those tasks during nap times or whenever.

As for being late, I can't understand why nannies think it's okay to be late ever without a very legitimate reason and extremely sincere apology - and I'm talking once or twice a year at most. I personally think you should keep that issue separate from her job performance so as not to stress her out during that one conversation, and just tell her that you're really depending on her being there and ready to go at her start time. If she continues to be late regularly, that's grounds for an official warning or a more serious conversation about her time management skills.

[Anonymous]

There will definitely be some awkwardness if you address these issues no matter how you sugar coat them OP. That is a risk you will have to take.

Perhaps she wants you to fire her, but doesn't want to be the "bad one" by quitting.
I have had jobs in my past that I knew were not good for me, and since I am not a confrontational person by nature, I simply did not do a stellar job. Don't get me wrong, the kids were always treated like gold. I just didn't always sweep the floors after meal times or take the kid's laundry out of the dryer.