This is a little awkward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Larla, I didn't get you a present initially because as a full-time student and can't afford any extras, but now because of your attitude with you being so outrageously impolite so as to not only ASK for a gift but to continue, it makes me feel like even if I could afford to get you one, I wouldn't."

Or just buy the bitch a book on manners for preteens or teens.
Roses are red
Violets are mint
Happy birthday, Larla
Hope you take the hint!

Hahah +1

[Anonymous]

First of all, the 5-year-old asking for Wii games and the like has no concept of money at all. He doesn't know these are expensive gifts. The 9-year-old, a lot more bratty, but this is probably how she thinks people who love her celebrate birthdays.

You guys are these kids nannies; presumably, you know what they like. Spend $5-$10 and make the wrapping really pretty. I can almost guarantee the 5-year-old will be over the moon with anything that goes with things he likes, and the 9-year-old just wants to open something. Kids really don't get "it's the thought that counts." They're kids; they're selfish.

And no one expects you to equal what the parents get their kids. They're the parents. Of course they're going to buy "big gifts."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all, the 5-year-old asking for Wii games and the like has no concept of money at all. He doesn't know these are expensive gifts. The 9-year-old, a lot more bratty, but this is probably how she thinks people who love her celebrate birthdays.

You guys are these kids nannies; presumably, you know what they like. Spend $5-$10 and make the wrapping really pretty. I can almost guarantee the 5-year-old will be over the moon with anything that goes with things he likes, and the 9-year-old just wants to open something. Kids really don't get "it's the thought that counts." They're kids; they're selfish.

And no one expects you to equal what the parents get their kids. They're the parents. Of course they're going to buy "big gifts."

I have to disagree. Just because children are, in your opinion, selfish, does not mean that we should reinforce the behavior. It is perfectly acceptable, in my opinion, to not give a gift. Children can learn early on that money/gifts are not the only way to show that you care.

[Anonymous]

I would be mortified if my child asked such a question! Shame on the MB for not intervening.

[Anonymous]

Wow...OP, your momboss sounds so rude to me. Since when is buying a birthday present a job requirement??!!

Anyway, I would be up-front + honest about your financial situation. Let her know you would have loved to get her daughter a birthday gift, but unfortunately due to your situation, you simply cannot afford to do so at this point.

She should understand. If she doesn't, then shame on her.

[Anonymous]

Make her something.

[Anonymous]

Mention it to MB quickly. Gauge her reaction.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Unbelievable, just when you thought you heard it all.