No invite, No Gift?

[Anonymous]

It's also super weird and self centered to not invite an individual who has been such an integral part of your baby's first year to a party celebrating that year. I understand OP being upset. You can still find your way to celebrate with the baby OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's also super weird and self centered to not invite an individual who has been such an integral part of your baby's first year to a party celebrating that year. I understand OP being upset. You can still find your way to celebrate with the baby OP.

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I would be crushed if I weren't invited to LO birthday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not giving a gift is really tacky.

I wasn't invited to DC's first birthday, because it was mostly the parents friends. I've been invited to every party since, and DC is now 7 yrs old. I think it's super weird you don't want to buy a gift. Poor kid.

I don't think it's weird at all. At the age of one, the gift is more of a gesture to the parents than something that LO will actually remember. If the parents didn't care enough about inviting her, they are not going to be affronted that she doesn't get a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not giving a gift is really tacky.

I wasn't invited to DC's first birthday, because it was mostly the parents friends. I've been invited to every party since, and DC is now 7 yrs old. I think it's super weird you don't want to buy a gift. Poor kid.

I don't think it's weird at all. At the age of one, the gift is more of a gesture to the parents than something that LO will actually remember. If the parents didn't care enough about inviting her, they are not going to be affronted that she doesn't get a gift.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:do most people invite their nanny's to kids birthday parties? (to work or as a guest?)

Most people invite their nanny as a guest.

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I've always been invited as a guest and have ALWAYS attended.

how do i make sure my nanny doesn't feel uncomfortable (or bored).

thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:do most people invite their nanny's to kids birthday parties? (to work or as a guest?)

Most people invite their nanny as a guest.

+1

I've always been invited as a guest and have ALWAYS attended.

how do i make sure my nanny doesn't feel uncomfortable (or bored).

thanks!

the same way you would any other guest! But really it's on the guest not to feel bored or uncomfortable and if they do,they can make up an excuse and leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:do most people invite their nanny's to kids birthday parties? (to work or as a guest?)

Most people invite their nanny as a guest.

+1

I've always been invited as a guest and have ALWAYS attended.

how do i make sure my nanny doesn't feel uncomfortable (or bored).

thanks!

Introducing her to the other guests (with thoughtful details, ala Bridget Jones) is key, just as you would with any guest - when you introduce her, share something about how wonderful she is with your kids AND something about her as an individual (such as, "Greg, this is Martha. Martha, Greg. Greg was my husband's college roommate. Martha is our amazing nanny, and she's hoping to return to school next year to pursue her MSW.") If you think she will feel uncomfortable/bored, because you doubt your social circles are similar or because there is a language barrier that will make socializing difficult for her, be enthusiastic about welcoming her to the party but let her know it's okay if she wants to duck out early (e.g. "Thank you so much for coming, we're so happy to have you! Help yourself to some fajitas and cupcakes if you'd like any, and don't feel like you have to stay for the whole party - Johnny takes ages to open his toys and I know grandma is going to want to inspect everything he opens! Leave whenever you need to, I'm sure you have other things going on today too.")