Visitors while family out

[Anonymous]

It's not free rent. They pay for it through reduced salary, however they rarely get the rights and privacy of a typical renter so no it is not an incredible perk. Her living there is an incredible benefit to the family she services.

[Anonymous]

Heck YES I would mind.. Her 'boyfriend' could be a child molestor or plan to rob you by making an extra 'key', etc. You don't know these people and rude on your nanny to assume its ok. She should have atleast asked you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And people want to pay a discounted rate for a live-in.....the convenience of having someone at your beck and call, who gives up all privacy and autonomy should come at a PREMIUM. Yes OP its your home and you can ask for a heads up on visitors and to meet them first but try to remember that this is an ADULT you've hired and she is PAYING to live there through her reduced salary. She should feel welcome and free to live her life in her off time.

She is getting a reduced salary because of free rent, food, utilities, etc. She choose to become a live-in and I'm sure OP (and most families) would emjoy their privacy as well, but have given it up. -- Your comment is completely irrelevant.

OP, it's your house and if I were you I'd tell nanny to go over HER boyfriends house on her free time. I wouldn't feel comfortable having my house as a lounge house for her friends.

[Anonymous]

Nannies who accept reduced wages for the privilege to live in, are not so smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heck YES I would mind.. Her 'boyfriend' could be a child molestor or plan to rob you by making an extra 'key', etc. You don't know these people and rude on your nanny to assume its ok. She should have atleasnt asked you.

You would honestly trust someone to care for your children and live in your home who didn't have good enough judgement not to date a child molester or a theif? Seriously, stop being so inflammatory. Not all strange men are the boogy man, she should introduce her visitors, of course, but it is pretty unreasonable to assume the worst automatically. It really seems like a lot of the MB's on here don't like or trust their nannies. Sad.

[Anonymous]

That's because they don't really know their nannies. Sad.

[Anonymous]

OP all I can say is wow. No way would I allow this. You are well within your rights to put a stop to this. I would also question your nanny's judgement as no self respecting live in nanny would pull something like this. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Don't you question so many MBs hiring such irresponsible people for their babysitting???

[Anonymous]

I think if you want to have your nanny long term I think you guys should find a mid point. No person wants to live somewhere long term where they can't have a life outside of your family. The thing I hated about being a live in was I felt like a underpaid single parent without all the perks. I hated it and swore I'd never do a live in again. I'm sure whatever free time she gets she wants to feel like a normal college student or whatever. I say why not try asking her to introduce you to whoever she would like to visit. And set some ground rules and let your nanny know she's responsible if anything goes wrong or missing. You have to establish some trust with her or I don't see why you invited her to live with u if you can't trust her to make the right choices...

[Anonymous]

Well said.

[Anonymous]

OP if your nanny know that she is not allowed to have male guests overnight then she is really pushing the boundaries with this. If she wants to be able to entertain people then she can go be a live out nanny, find roommates, and pay her own way. Its your house and you aren't renting it out to someone or opening it up to the public.

[Anonymous]

Can she afford a rental on what you pay her in a week? Maybe you can't afford a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Who wants to be constantly reminded that they're living in "your house" when you invited her to become a live in nanny it became her home to. I hate how people try to use live in nanny for cheap labor and make them feel like a indentured servant.

[Anonymous]

You got it!

[Anonymous]

Can she afford a rental on what you pay her in a week? Maybe you can't afford a nanny.

Your logic is a little off. If the nanny can't afford a rental on what she is paid, then it is the nanny that can't afford her desired lifestyle and should probably find another profession.