Anonymous wrote:I had a similar situation like this a little over a year ago. 7 years ago I use to nanny for a little girl. I then got in to the corporate world but would still attend birthday parties for the little girl, and some events my previous employer use to have. My previous employer introduced me to her friends as "the nanny" even though it was 5 years at that point since I was their nanny. She then treated me like the extra help at the birthday party instead of a guest.
I brought my concerns to my previous employer and let her know that I wanted to be introduced as "the former nanny" OR by my name. That how she was introducing me then telling me to go do things implied I was still their hired help which I didn't appreciate. Because of how she introduced me and treated me none of her friends would talk to me like I was another adult at the party. They would say things like "shouldn't you be helping to keep an eye on the kids" or "I don't think we have any common interests" and laugh. This infuriated me that her friends could not only be so rude, but at that point I was successful in a career and doing very well for myself.
When I brought my concerns up to my previous employer she stopped talking to me for close to a year. She didn't think she was doing anything wrong. She eventually apologized, but I think that so many people (especially in Northern VA) want to make themselves look better than everyone else. The Jones's syndrome you might call it. I really don't think your employer will change, but maybe gently bringing up your concerns might make her more aware of her actions.
Why do you remain friends with this woman? I am a MB and would never treat my former nannies like this. I always introduce them as "my friend."
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