MB/Nanny Jealousy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YA' ALL NEED TO GET OVER THIS, QUIT UR JOBS AND BE ON WELFARE THATS WHAT I DO, I GET TO STAY HOME WITH MA BABIES,,,YOOH.

Why would someone want to be on welfare? I don't. I want to provide my children with much more in life. You can't have the security and stability on welfare. Your just getting by on welfare. Don't you want to take your children (and yourself) on vacations, buy them everything they need and having that extra money to fall back on incase its needed?

That person is obviously a troll.

[Anonymous]

My nanny and I talk a lot about all kinds of things. I might've offhandedly said something like "oh I wished I was there when you took the picture." She referred to that comment several times since and is convinced that I am completely jealous of her life and how gets to spend time with my kids. It's just not true. I have a whole life at work where I get to talk to adults and think about interesting problems. My nanny hears what she wants to hear. I'm not that jealous of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think ever MB end up being jealous of the nanny. They need to get over it. Of course little snowflake is going to be closer to the person who takes care of them most of the time.

It's a played out concept. It's the same thing as a kid being closer to mom over dad in a traditional family--it's not bc the motherly bond is magical, it's because usually she is the primary caregiver. So... when the nanny is the primary caregiver, what do you expect?

I don't think kids are always closer to mom vs dad. It depends on the ages of the kids and their personalities. IMO infants and toddlers will be attached to the one who spends the most time with them (quality or not). When they get a bit older, its about quality of time with each other. Now that my kids are older, they play by themselves and with other kids more often. I have a really good nanny but she doesn't spend as much time talking to my kids--about school, activities, likes/dislikes, fears, etc. E.g., my son loves football and he learned that from dad.... Its his favorite topic for books, clothes, etc. My 4 yr old love both of us but is "closer" to me than our nanny despite spending much more time with her over the past 3 yrs.

[Anonymous]

My nanny is envious of my child's life. She has said she'd like to grow up like he does. I understand her feelings-- DH and I grew up middle class and are now able to provide our kids with private school, great extra-curricular activities, travel and things we never had a chance to acquire or experience previously in our lives.