Essential Proceedures

[Anonymous]

How should nannies be protected from irresponsible parents in this regard?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nannies must insist on regular reference letters at least every six months, if not every three months. You never know how your trusted family will suddenly turn evil and vindictive when you give notice. If they seem hesitant, there's your red flag. RUN!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies must insist on regular reference letters at least every six months, if not every three months. You never know how your trusted family will suddenly turn evil and vindictive when you give notice. If they seem hesitant, there's your red flag. RUN!

Nannies must protect themselves.

This is not common in the U.S. You'd better lace your running shoes because you'll need them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies must insist on regular reference letters at least every six months, if not every three months. You never know how your trusted family will suddenly turn evil and vindictive when you give notice. If they seem hesitant, there's your red flag. RUN!

Nannies must protect themselves.

This is not common in the U.S. You'd better lace your running shoes because you'll need them!

The prosecution of rapists is still uncommon in many parts of the world. What's your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies must insist on regular reference letters at least every six months, if not every three months. You never know how your trusted family will suddenly turn evil and vindictive when you give notice. If they seem hesitant, there's your red flag. RUN!

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies must insist on regular reference letters at least every six months, if not every three months. You never know how your trusted family will suddenly turn evil and vindictive when you give notice. If they seem hesitant, there's your red flag. RUN!

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies must insist on regular reference letters at least every six months, if not every three months. You never know how your trusted family will suddenly turn evil and vindictive when you give notice. If they seem hesitant, there's your red flag. RUN!

[Anonymous]

Nonsense. A yearly reference letter is adequate and standard, as is a reference letter on separation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nonsense. A yearly reference letter is adequate and standard, as is a reference letter on separation.

You must be new here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm afraid we have to disagree. Too many nannies have been royally burnt upon giving notice. It's true. Some of us have learned the hard way. So unfortunate. But at least most of us do learn, and we now take prudent measures to protect ourselves from toddler-temper-tantrum moms.

+1

I have never ended a job on bad terms and have always been able to count on references from former employers, but I still include this in my contract (I get a new written reference every 4 months). I have seen too many nanny friends have their trust in their employers backfire to waffle on this point. This is unlike any other job, as you say, because it is so very personal - as any MB will be able to attest to. You're letting someone into your home, trusting them to care for and love your children, and the unexpected loss of a nanny elicits more of an emotional response than the resignation of your secretary. Some parents can get very out of sorts quite unexpectedly, and nannies are wise to do all they can to keep up-to-date references available should they need them.

[Anonymous]

How funny this board is. In what other job does anyone get this? I would view it as red flag and never hire someone with demand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How funny this board is. In what other job does anyone get this? I would view it as red flag and never hire someone with demand.

In what other job do you get vindictive parents having temper tantrums when a good nanny is ready to move on? I would view you as another insecure parent and a major red flag. Problem solved, thank you.

[Anonymous]

So silly: in every job you are there at the whim of your boss or bosses. At least you who your boss will be: in other jobs, the bosses change and then you are there at the whim of a new boss who may have entirely different notions than the previous one.

I see crazy nanny posts on this board and crazy employer posts. In the US at least this a a crazy nanny post.

[Anonymous]

And, yes, and all bosses can become vindictive when you move on. Try working at some other jobs!

[Anonymous]

As crazy as this sounds. I'll humor it if Employees do the same thing. Write up a document about 1 page about foods the kids like to eat, addresses of places they go, routine so the next nanny can easily replace them, if needed. Of course, we won't actually use it to train the next nanny, but it will be handy if needed because who knows. Also clear out any personal belongings and double check that they need to be there. Return anything in car that is no longer being used (spare jackets, etc.)

Then it is a fair deal.