So angry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As expected, giving in my notice ended with my immediately termination.

I feel an intense mixture of relief and sadness. Much of today I spent crying while looking at my charges faces knowing this was probably the last day I’d be there nanny and maybe the last time I’d ever see them. I’m pretty heartbroken right now and just didn’t anticipate any of this...

MBs behavior these last two weeks is so uncharacteristic and there is a part of me that feels very guilty that maybe she’s going through something.

Regardless, it is what it is.

I think I was pretty prodessional giving my notice. I wrote out a letter, handed it to her and verbalized a summary of why I was quitting. I was super anxious. I mentioned I’m not very good at defending or advocating for myself in person. I think I did well. MB responded by telling me no need to fill out my two weeks because I was being let go today. She watched as I took the boys car seats out of my car and told me I put her in a terrible position and she was going to have to take off and find a temporary nanny. I again mentioned I would finish my two weeks and she said no, that she no longer trusted me with her children.

That really hurt.

This has been a pretty terrible and bizarre experience and I really hope things look up. I want to reiterate how I never expected MB to ever react in this way. She has never been overly emotional or spoken poorly to me. She’s usually a rational, reasonable and pleasant employer. I truly can’t believe this is it, it’s the end of a 2 year position.

For the boys sake, I hope they find a wonderful nanny who is better than I am. They’re wonderful children and deserve the best.

Thank you for all the support and kind words. Honestly did NOT expect that from DCUM.

It doesn't matter what she is going through, OP. You saw what she was capable of (telling you to do something and then blaming you the outcome of her direct orders) and she would have done it to you again.

You deserve better. Please, please be grateful that you saw what she was capable of in a minor incident before there was a major incident. This is clearly the kind of woman who would accuse you wrongdoing to the police should a more serious event arise.

And lastly - DCUM and especially this forum are NEVER in agreement and yet, they were with your thread. The DCUM crazies couldn't even defend her behavior! That means something, OP.

Take the well-paying temp work and relax - have a great Christmas with your family. 2018 is going to be an amazing year for you - I feel it in my bones.

[Anonymous]

I wish I knew you IRL, OP. You are really a great person and sound like a fantastic nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I knew you IRL, OP. You are really a great person and sound like a fantastic nanny.

+1 and I agree with the pp about 2018 being your year OP. I'm wishing you land your nanny dream job next year.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I knew you IRL, OP. You are really a great person and sound like a fantastic nanny.

+1 and I agree with the pp about 2018 being your year OP. I'm wishing you land your nanny dream job next year.

Thank you so much. I'm having a tough time. I feel numb. Miss my boys, very sad.

[Anonymous]

OP I feel really bad for you and equally bad that MB was willing to do the wrong thing in terms of what is best for her children simply to feed her own ego. Sad, sad, sad. Hoping you find the family that deserves you.

[Anonymous]

MB and pp here. That totally sucks OP but it really seems like you handled it as well and as professionally as you possibly could have.

Where are you located? I have twin 6 year olds and I'm always looking for babysitters. Obviously you will be looking for full-time employment but if you're picking up any side hours are in the lower MoCo area I'd love to talk with you.

[Anonymous]

I guess I'm in the minority here but if I was nanny I would have called MB to double check I should stay home and do chores while the family takes the kids out. To me that's common sense. I understand MB's frustration but the way she handled it was so wrong and she doesn't deserve OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm in the minority here but if I was nanny I would have called MB to double check I should stay home and do chores while the family takes the kids out. To me that's common sense. I understand MB's frustration but the way she handled it was so wrong and she doesn't deserve OP.

And there she is! Miss Second Guesser!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish I knew you IRL, OP. You are really a great person and sound like a fantastic nanny.

+1 and I agree with the pp about 2018 being your year OP. I'm wishing you land your nanny dream job next year.

Thank you so much. I'm having a tough time. I feel numb. Miss my boys, very sad.

I am so sorry, OP. It is going to feel awful for awhile because you miss your former charges so much. It is the hardest part about being a nanny. But in a short period of time, you will be with a new charge and that charge will heal your heart.

Your MB did this - you had no other option but to resign.

[Anonymous]

Believe me, OP, I know exactly how hard this is for you. You will cry buckets and feel awful for awhile. I had much the same situation with a two year position and a little boy I loved. It was truly the most painful thing I have ever been through.

Here is the rainbow - my new position is the job of my dreams! Far better salary ($8 more an hour), better benefits and an amazing and respectful family. I was hired before their baby was born and have been with her since she was three days old. She is two now and is my joy. I didn't even realize how poorly I had been treated by my previous family until I started this job. Sometimes we get so used to poor treatment that it feels normal!

Choose your next position carefully, OP. You are too good to be squandered on awful people like your former MB.

I wish you the very best in the New Year. Accept the sadness now but anticipate the joy of a new job in the new year!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm in the minority here but if I was nanny I would have called MB to double check I should stay home and do chores while the family takes the kids out. To me that's common sense. I understand MB's frustration but the way she handled it was so wrong and she doesn't deserve OP.

It's common sense for you to undermine what your MB told you.

I promise you if nanny had called her MB a work to see if it was okayy for her to do chores while the family went for a wal, MB would have been angry. Accuseed OP of not listening to her directins and wasting your time.

[Anonymous]

OP, did these kids have a nanny before you?

This MB and her grandma sound very familiar to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, did these kids have a nanny before you?

This MB and her grandma sound very familiar to me.

Briefly, from the time the boys were 3 months to about 7 months.

MB told me she was incompetent but now I question that.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, did these kids have a nanny before you?

This MB and her grandma sound very familiar to me.

Briefly, from the time the boys were 3 months to about 7 months.

MB told me she was incompetent but now I question that.

Now the MB will have to explain two nannies is two years! Wow... any nanny with any experience whatsoever will see that as a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm in the minority here but if I was nanny I would have called MB to double check I should stay home and do chores while the family takes the kids out. To me that's common sense. I understand MB's frustration but the way she handled it was so wrong and she doesn't deserve OP.

I totally agree. MB very obviously didn’t handle this well, but probably assumed nanny realized that her family wasn’t experienced enough to deal with autistic twins alone outside. In OP’s position, I would never have just let them leave without me without confirming with MB. I do sort of wonder if there’s a very different version of this story from MB’s perspective.